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 Looking for all types of advice,


       So, this is only my second week of the academy and I still can not seem to get my stress levels down to a reasonable level.


We have already had a very extensive class in the first week on how to deal with stress, understanding stress, and all other facets that stress can influence. So I can identify my stress, try to accept my stress and perform the tasks to alleviate it, yet still find myself fighting it by the night's end. If I manage to keep chugging along the academy, will my inability to properly work with this stress, cause great harm for myself or anyone else down the road?


I feel myself playing a mental battle-field everyday on wether or not I am really meant to be a cop. The rush of reality of the career path has made me second-guess this profession, almost as if I glorified the position too much in my head and neglected the harsh truths of what one will face as a LEO. I am more terrified of going out on the street than the actual controlled environment of the academy. I am still giving 110% in studies and PT/DT so I still have not given up on classes or slacked off on any of the tests.


As of right now, you may be asking why I joined. Honestly, I do not even know anymore. I thought it was something I was going to like, excel at and be good at. However, I find myself scared of the high responsibility and power that is associated with the career. 


What should I do? Give it more weeks and see if it grows on me?(the position) Let me the staff know, I am beginning to have second thoughts. Or just bear down, accept that I have a wonderful paying position in my lap now and just roll with the punches.

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Give it a couple more weeks. The job is not for everyone. Talk to your agency.

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 This job should've been something you thought about more and done a little more research time on. Being a police officer is a calling not a job that you think you may like or may not like or you just want to test it to see if you like it. You should've done ride alongs and talked to other officers about the job, get a better feel for it. Become a reserve/auxilary first to see if you can handle the pressure or stress. If your being sponsored by a department for the academy and you drop out be prepared to pay everything back. If I was you I would be doing a lot more soul searching and make a decision. 


You wouldn't go in there for a million bucks...A Cop does it for less...A Reserve does it for free....

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Mental unrest,


First slow down and take several deep breaths. Every officer feels stressed out the first couple of weeks. I know I worked as a counselor / instructor at my agencies first academy and know the routine. The first couple weeks we bring the stress to see who can handle stress and who can't. We break you all down to mold you into a uniform group.  Remember one concept. W.I.N Whats Important Now. a tenant of police work. If you feel overwhelmed take a couple deep breaths though your nose hold for three seconds and release though your mouth hard as you can this will calm you down and make it easier to think and release some of the stress. I'm sure many others in the academy are in the same boat wondering if I'm really cut out for police work. Remember breath and slow down and worry about the right now.


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Thus far Mr.MentalUnrest you have received excellent advice and hints as to how to cope.Let's see what you do with it.If the academy were easy it would NOT be worthwhile.One of the things you will be taught is how to survive in multiple circumstances.I don't believe any occupation in life offers as many challenges and brings your psyche such a multitude things to mull over and solve.Sometimes you are met with things which need to be quickly handled.This too is what your training is about.----Indeed.how badly do you want to be an officer?It is a brotherhood and sisterhood that stands above all others,you will find,IF you complete your goal.You will NEVER be wealthy and people will NOT love you.If you decide to drop out,however and be an accountant or a ditch digger,you will probably never have the opportunity to save a life,deliver a baby,stop a burglary in progress or capture a killer.You may want to sit and ponnder where your priorities are,here and now.Your field training will NOT be any easier.


I pray I'm not coming off harsh with you,but just being a realist.No law enforcement agency is particularly interested in an officer who puts half his heart,half his mind,half his energy and half an effort in being on this job.It is not a tragedy to not be an officer,but it is a tragedy to be a kinda officer.This could cost the life of you,your partner or a member of the public.Much good fortune in what you decide.

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 Thanks for all the wonderful advice that everyone has been giving me. I sit and ponder when I can, but due to the load that the academy places on available time. My chance to really think about anything is scarce. I feel like my Flight or Fight instinct is picking Flight, becuase of how complacent I have become over the course of my first job while I was awaiting my time to become a Peace officer. 


I know in some academies washout occurs as early as the first day or even after orientation. I am growing to like my mates and would hate to give up on them/this so early. It almost breaks me down to tears because I feel so guilty for taking up a spot in the academy for a more worthy candidate. 


However, as of this instance, im trying to control my stress, with the breathing exercises and the support group of my family, girlfriend and very close friends. I have lost sight of my current goal and am trying to steer my ship back on course. I understand that we are not all cut from the same cloth, some are made for this and others are not (points expressed in class). 


And although it may not mean anything to you all, I apologize if I do the things any academy does not want any of us to do. "Give up" 


Yet, at the end of the day its your/my overall mental/physical health over any job any day.

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 Thanks for all the wonderful advice that everyone has been giving me. I sit and ponder when I can, but due to the load that the academy places on available time. My chance to really think about anything is scarce. I feel like my Flight or Fight instinct is picking Flight, becuase of how complacent I have become over the course of my first job while I was awaiting my time to become a Peace officer. 


I know in some academies washout occurs as early as the first day or even after orientation. I am growing to like my mates and would hate to give up on them/this so early. It almost breaks me down to tears because I feel so guilty for taking up a spot in the academy for a more worthy candidate


However, as of this instance, im trying to control my stress, with the breathing exercises and the support group of my family, girlfriend and very close friends. I have lost sight of my current goal and am trying to steer my ship back on course. I understand that we are not all cut from the same cloth, some are made for this and others are not (points expressed in class). 


And although it may not mean anything to you all, I apologize if I do the things any academy does not want any of us to do. "Give up" 


Yet, at the end of the day its your/my overall mental/physical health over any job any day.



What would make you a more worthy candidate?  Do you think you are unworthy because of the stress you are currently enduring?  Give it some time.  Maybe this high of a level of stress will pass in the next week.  You are right... you are being tested for your mental strength because you will need in the real world of policing.  But, I really wouldn't give up yet.  Don't make a rash decision that you may regret later. And whatever you do... do not feel as if you are a failure if you decide to leave... it only means maybe this direction is not for you.  


If policing on the streets is not something you are comfortable doing, because you don't think you will be able to handle the stress levels, there are many other areas of Law Enforcement you can look into as a career.  Think long and hard about  your strenths and weaknesses. Write them down.. and like UncleD said, talk to the Agency you are with.. maybe they have some really good advice for you.


Good luck whichever direction you choose, and no regrets... okay?  What you are doing and trying to accomplish is very admirable... keep that in mind...  I'm sure you will make the right choice.


Oh yes, and you were giving advice on breathing.  Great advice!  The trick is to concentrate on that breathing too.  It really does work! :)


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 Thanks for all the wonderful advice that everyone has been giving me. I sit and ponder when I can, but due to the load that the academy places on available time. My chance to really think about anything is scarce. I feel like my Flight or Fight instinct is picking Flight, because of how complacent I have become over the course of my first job while I was awaiting my time to become a Peace officer. 


I know in some academies washout occurs as early as the first day or even after orientation. I am growing to like my mates and would hate to give up on them/this so early. It almost breaks me down to tears because I feel so guilty for taking up a spot in the academy for a more worthy candidate


However, as of this instance, i'm trying to control my stress, with the breathing exercises and the support group of my family, girlfriend and very close friends. I have lost sight of my current goal and am trying to steer my ship back on course. I understand that we are not all cut from the same cloth, some are made for this and others are not (points expressed in class). 


And although it may not mean anything to you all, I apologize if I do the things any academy does not want any of us to do. "Give up" 


Yet, at the end of the day its your/my overall mental/physical health over any job any day.



What would make you a more worthy candidate?  Do you think you are unworthy because of the stress you are currently enduring?  Give it some time.  Maybe this high of a level of stress will pass in the next week.  You are right... you are being tested for your mental strength because you will need in the real world of policing.  But, I really wouldn't give up yet.  Don't make a rash decision that you may regret later. And whatever you do... do not feel as if you are a failure if you decide to leave... it only means maybe this direction is not for you.  


If policing on the streets is not something you are comfortable doing, because you don't think you will be able to handle the stress levels, there are many other areas of Law Enforcement you can look into as a career.  Think long and hard about  your strengths and weaknesses. Write them down.. and like Uncle said, talk to the Agency you are with.. maybe they have some really good advice for you.


Good luck whichever direction you choose, and no regrets... okay?  What you are doing and trying to accomplish is very admirable... keep that in mind...  I'm sure you will make the right choice.


Oh yes, and you were giving advice on breathing.  Great advice!  The trick is to concentrate on that breathing too.  It really does work! :)



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"Mental Unrest" - I was told the Psych test/evaluation to actually be hired as an officer is 500 questions long. Um, no pressure, but you have to give all of you...not just some.......like ssu459 alludes to.



That is only part of the written psych exam in California.  As many of those that I have taken, I have come to this one basic conclusion.  If you were not crazy before you took the written psych exam...... you were by the time you finished it.  All of that said, just because someone passes the written or even oral psych exam or interview, does not mean that the candidate won't wash out in the academy, his or her FTO phase or within the first 5 years of service due to stress or anxiety related to the job.

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A steel banner style sign over the entrance to the academy where I attended reads, "Only The Strong Survive."  The best advice I received prior to attending the police academy, having had no prior military experience, was to take nothing off of the hill at the end of the day.  This is to say that no matter how much we got yelled at, no matter how much our brains were taxed by the tac staff or how physically and mentally exhausted we were at the end of each day, take nothing off of the hill.  This is also to say that if we had become the target of a tac staff instructor, take none of it personal and take none of it off of the hill.


There is a method to the madness that is the police academy.  You will receive the knowledge you need at a very basic level.  You will develop disciplined skills.  You will feel physically and mentally exhausted and realize that you still have to study for a test or complete an assignment as well as have your gear and uniform of the day ready for the next day.  There will be very little time for anything other than those things directly associated with your going to the academy.  How did I do it?


1)  I took NOTHING off of the hill.


2)  I took NOTHING personal.


3)  While driving home, I laughed at some of the funny moments that occurred throughout the day


4)  While studying, I was also preparing my uniform for the next day which included polishing all of my leather.


5)  I took my Sundays off to go to church and think about other things and RELAX before repeating #4.


6)  I took one Friday or Saturday night each week for a night out.


7)  EVERY DAY...... I DID THE BEST THAT I COULD


MR MentalUnrest...... RELAX, Take a series of deep breaths and STOP over-thinking the task ahead of you.  You will be fine.  You will find that you are given obstacles or weakness in order to make you stronger physically and mentally.  Do these things and do your best every day and you will become one of the many who have gained their strength and survived.

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 Managed to beat out the second week and not exactly looking forward to the third. However, I am still chugging along the road preparing for the days  while also proacticely trying to make each day, a day of smiles. Remaining positive through all the stress inducing that must be done in the academy is really tough and these experiences has said a lot about my character in regards to how I deal with stress, how much stress i can handle, as well learning the capacity of my personal work loads.


I have been doing a lot of self-reflections and speaking to several individuals (gf, parents, siblings, friends and career counselors). All have been giving me great support as well as all of you who have been replying to my dilemma. And although this may rub many of you wrong way, I now know that I may no be built properly for this position. However, that does not mean I have given up yet, there may be something in the academy that reinvigorates me towards the profession and I would not like to miss that chance.


I will be speaking to the head TAC officer, whom is also a peer couselor, if tmy unhealthy state of mind persists, as all of this emotional drama can have a strain on my physical health. And overall mental/physical health is a priority in every aspect, especially considering the stats of police officers in the field.


Again thanks for all those chiming in, I appreciate the support.


 


 

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Too stressed and need to work on your mindset positive self talk in any job career business let alone policework> real talk it's not for everyone not going to get any easier on the street. ALL in or out. Forum not for counsel seek a good mentor.

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I think you should quit.


If you are stressed almost to the point of tears in the 3rd week of an academy you will not make it on the streets, not even the nicest streets.


Do yourself and the cops you would end up working with in the future a faovr and find a new line of work.

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 My mindset in the academy was that this is what I have to do to do what I want to do.  The academy is a cake walk compared to the streets.  Know this.  As far as the academy there has been some good advice which I wont rehash.  You need to refocus on the academy.  You are focusing on yourself not your objective.  Every class, every lecture, every bit of work has a purpose while at the academy.  Like one of the others posted you are either all in or get out.  I can't make your decisions.  The academy has two goals.  Number one is to educate the new officer.  Number two is to weed out those who wont make it on the street.  Only you know where you fall in this matrix.  Two weeks into it you are just beginning.  I remember the end of my first week I was wound so tight I stood at attention in McDonald's.  This passed and I did fine.  Good luck.

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The sad part is you took a slot away from someone whose heart is in it. The cost of processing you is another thing. DO THE RIGHT THING AND RESIGN. My concern is if you work the bricks you may place others in harms way.

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 Uncledennis1, I know exactly what you mean by that sentiment. The thought of quitting alone has put me in a very low position as I know whole-heartedly that someone could have done better in my position.


I was told I am having high performance anxiety, because I'm setting the bar to high for myself and looking to far ahead. As much as I want to push myself and not give up, I may take your advice and resign. 


As others have said, if its this bad in the academy, I hate to be the blame of my actions causing the death or serious injury of another. 


I apologize to all of you for my inadequacies.

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 Uncledennis1, I know exactly what you mean by that sentiment. The thought of quitting alone has put me in a very low position as I know whole-heartedly that someone could have done better in my position.


I was told I am having high performance anxiety, because I'm setting the bar to high for myself and looking to far ahead. As much as I want to push myself and not give up, I may take your advice and resign. 


As others have said, if its this bad in the academy, I hate to be the blame of my actions causing the death or serious injury of another. 


I apologize to all of you for my inadequacies.



I personally think you are selling yourself short.  Stop setting the bar too high as you have stated.  Start doing what mmmm stated and concentrate on your objective and start getting it done.  If you resign, you will have regrets.  There will be many times over that you will second guess that decision over giving it all you have.  Every time you see a marked police unit. Every time you see someone in uniform.  Every time you see a marked unit racing to a call.  Every time you crack open a news paper or turn on the internet site from which you get your news and read about others....... You will kick yourself in your own fleshy hindquarters for not giving it your best and making them force you to give up and get off the hill.  My advice to you would be to pick your fleshy hind quarters back up off of the ground and get to work.  That said..... NONE OF US CAN REALLY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. 

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 Uncledennis1, I know exactly what you mean by that sentiment. The thought of quitting alone has put me in a very low position as I know whole-heartedly that someone could have done better in my position.


I was told I am having high performance anxiety, because I'm setting the bar to high for myself and looking to far ahead. As much as I want to push myself and not give up, I may take your advice and resign. 


As others have said, if its this bad in the academy, I hate to be the blame of my actions causing the death or serious injury of another. 


I apologize to all of you for my inadequacies.



I personally think you are selling yourself short.  Stop setting the bar too high as you have stated.  Start doing what mmmm stated and concentrate on your objective and start getting it done.  If you resign, you will have regrets.  There will be many times over that you will second guess that decision over giving it all you have.  Every time you see a marked police unit. Every time you see someone in uniform.  Every time you see a marked unit racing to a call.  Every time you crack open a news paper or turn on the internet site from which you get your news and read about others....... You will kick yourself in your own fleshy hindquarters for not giving it your best and making them force you to give up and get off the hill.  My advice to you would be to pick your fleshy hind quarters back up off of the ground and get to work.  That said..... NONE OF US CAN REALLY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. 



I must respectfully disagree my brother. In this day and age law enforcement is only getting more dangerous and more challenging. And in the day and age of not being able to fire officers for just about ANYTHING I would like to see this recruit self-terminate there LE career now.


Also, with all the active shooter incidents occuring around this nation, a call for service can turn into an all out combat zone engagement. As a military combat veteran and a law enforcement veteran who has had to use deadly force I will honestly say that someone who is almost in tears during an academy, or any training situation for that matter has too high of a probability of not performing in the stress of actual combat.


I am not sure of the OP's age or experience, but if I had to guess they come from the "every kids a winner, every kid gets a trophy" generation. And that way of thinking is simply not true in this field. Cops get killed, we get hurt, we dont make it home at the end of every night like in the movies.


I know that we want to be nice and encouaging on this site, but I already work with TOO MANY slackers and non-hackers. This field does NOT need anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!


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I think you should quit.


If you are stressed almost to the point of tears in the 3rd week of an academy you will not make it on the streets, not even the nicest streets.


Do yourself and the cops you would end up working with in the future a faovr and find a new line of work.


It takes constant effort to excel at this profession.  A law enforcement officer must demonstrate authority and control over criminals and be as calm as possible.


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 Uncledennis1, I know exactly what you mean by that sentiment. The thought of quitting alone has put me in a very low position as I know whole-heartedly that someone could have done better in my position.


I was told I am having high performance anxiety, because I'm setting the bar to high for myself and looking to far ahead. As much as I want to push myself and not give up, I may take your advice and resign. 


As others have said, if its this bad in the academy, I hate to be the blame of my actions causing the death or serious injury of another. 


I apologize to all of you for my inadequacies.



I personally  think you are selling yourself short.  Stop setting the bar too high as you have stated.  Start doing what mmmm stated and concentrate on your objective and start getting it done.  If you resign, you will have regrets.  There will be many times over that you will second guess that decision over giving it all you have.  Every time you see a marked police unit. Every time you see someone in uniform.  Every time you see a marked unit racing to a call.  Every time you crack open a news paper or turn on the internet site from which you get your news and read about others....... You will kick yourself in your own fleshy hindquarters for not giving it your best and making them force you to give up and get off the hill.  My advice to you would be to pick your fleshy hind quarters back up off of the ground and get to work.  That said..... NONE OF US CAN REALLY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. 



I am obviously not a cop.. but I do know what it is like to have regrets on not pursuing a dream and not following through because of "certain circumstances" that I will not discuss.. so I must BUMP this post.  


Skoolcop said it.. "NONE OF US CAN REALLY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO".  You ARE in fact selling yourself short as well.  And don't apologize for your inadequacies... you have NOTHING to apologize for here.  PERIOD!  Try your hardest.. give it all you can give... THEN and ONLY THEN can you make a decision.  I don't know what the academy is like.. I do know that you are in a weed out process.  Let's see if you can make it through that first.  Nobody really understands what you are going through, except for you, therefore, NO advice should really be given saying to "give up".  


Seriously now.... before you make any decision, make sure you won't have regrets!!!!  


Now go on and be a good little police cadet.. KICK SOME "ASS"!


 


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I must totally support the comments of TreeHugger719. I have worked with officers whose heart was not in the job. They would be the closes unit to a hot call and be the last to arrive. They wait for others to control the situation and stand in the shadows. This conduct puts others in harms way. GET OUT NOW. I will not sugar coat.

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The sad part is you took a slot away from someone whose heart is in it. The cost of processing you is another thing. DO THE RIGHT THING AND RESIGN. My concern is if you work the bricks you may place others in harms way.


 


Couldn't agree with you more. One agency I applied with last year passed myself (and a few others) up for several individuals that ended up quitting after 2-3 weeks into the academy. Their reasons were "I just wanted to see how far I get" and "it's not for me." If they had resigned a week sooner, their positions would have been filled with candidates that wanted the job.


Now I'm not saying that I would have gotten the position or make a better candidate but one thing is for sure, I would NOT do something that my heart and mind was not set on and waste all the time and resource to prove a point. 



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I must totally support the comments of TreeHugger719. I have worked with officers whose heart was not in the job. They would be the closes unit to a hot call and be the last to arrive. They wait for others to control the situation and stand in the shadows. This conduct puts others in harms way. GET OUT NOW. I will not sugar coat.


In the law enforcement world,  an officer MUST respond and react with a mental toughness and come out on top of a life threatening incident..... because if you don't (as uncledennis1 said) you run the risk of  "putting others in harms way".


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 Uncledennis1, I know exactly what you mean by that sentiment. The thought of quitting alone has put me in a very low position as I know whole-heartedly that someone could have done better in my position.


I was told I am having high performance anxiety, because I'm setting the bar to high for myself and looking to far ahead. As much as I want to push myself and not give up, I may take your advice and resign. 


As others have said, if its this bad in the academy, I hate to be the blame of my actions causing the death or serious injury of another. 


I apologize to all of you for my inadequacies.



I personally think you are selling yourself short.  Stop setting the bar too high as you have stated.  Start doing what mmmm stated and concentrate on your objective and start getting it done.  If you resign, you will have regrets.  There will be many times over that you will second guess that decision over giving it all you have.  Every time you see a marked police unit. Every time you see someone in uniform.  Every time you see a marked unit racing to a call.  Every time you crack open a news paper or turn on the internet site from which you get your news and read about others....... You will kick yourself in your own fleshy hindquarters for not giving it your best and making them force you to give up and get off the hill.  My advice to you would be to pick your fleshy hind quarters back up off of the ground and get to work.  That said..... NONE OF US CAN REALLY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. 



I must respectfully disagree my brother. In this day and age law enforcement is only getting more dangerous and more challenging. And in the day and age of not being able to fire officers for just about ANYTHING I would like to see this recruit self-terminate there LE career now.


Also, with all the active shooter incidents occuring around this nation, a call for service can turn into an all out combat zone engagement. As a military combat veteran and a law enforcement veteran who has had to use deadly force I will honestly say that someone who is almost in tears during an academy, or any training situation for that matter has too high of a probability of not performing in the stress of actual combat.


I am not sure of the OP's age or experience, but if I had to guess they come from the "every kids a winner, every kid gets a trophy" generation. And that way of thinking is simply not true in this field. Cops get killed, we get hurt, we dont make it home at the end of every night like in the movies.


I know that we want to be nice and encouaging on this site, but I already work with TOO MANY slackers and non-hackers. This field does NOT need anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!


This field needs more Paladins, Warriors, & Sheepdogs.



I am certainly NOT one who condones the "every kid gets a trophy" philosophy of this generation but I don't know this young man enough to call him a "slacker" or a "non-hacker" either.  It has absolutely NOTHING to do with me being "NICE" on this site.  I know there were some in my academy class as there were likely in yours as well, that for what ever reason, for what ever length of time, began to have self doubt.  Myself being a pre-service cadet, I looked at EVERY walk off as another step closer to my prize.  Still, if I saw someone lagging behind, I did what I could to pick them up, encourage and push (sometimes physically) them along.  If they chose to drop out and resign anyway despite my efforts, then that's on them.  The ones that stayed and survived went on to have successful careers.  Where the O/P falls remains to be seen.  I just know that if it were me (and for a very short while it was), I wasn't going to drop out unless they carried me out.  I fought hard to get into the academy.  I fought hard to stay in and complete the academy.  I fought hard after the academy and finally got the prize.  Several times I was down but I was NEVER out.  No...... I do not think he should get a trophy or a prize just for playing.  But if he is going to go down and out, at least go down and out GIVING EVERY POSSIBLE EFFORT so that in the end, there are no regrets.

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STRESS....JUST RELAX AND REMEMBER ITS THE BASIC ACADEMY.....STRESS COMES LATER, TIGHT NOW ITS A TIME TO LEARN AND PREPARE FOR YOUR LIFE PROFESSION....TAKE THE ADVISE THAT THE GOOD PEOPLE HERE HAVE POSTED, KEEP YOUR FAITH AND MOVE !!!


REMEMBER DON'T JUST DO THE RIGHT THING,  BUT BE THE RIGHT THING....BEST OF LUCK!!

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to mentalunrest, since you did not post an introduction i dont know how to address you, young man or young lady.  Anyway, lets try young recruit? In one statement you described getting along with your "mates?" Where are  you from?  How old are you and how long prior to attending the academy did  you choose law enforcement as your chosen profession?


Now to the most important question i can ask before giving you advice or a personal opinion, CAN YOU GIVE ME YOUR PERSONAL DEFINITION OF THE WORD "STRESS?"  you use this word so often, what is it to you, what does it do to you? how does it make you feel? I would just like to be sure what  you call STRESS is what others refer to as stress.

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Ok, my turn.


I am an Academy Recruit Training Officer (RTO). It's what I do. After a complete career and retiring as a patrol sergeant and 12 years as an academy instructor I can make the following observation based on your comments.


You have been successful.


You have successfully determined that now is not the time for you to seek a law enforcement career. That is not to say you won't be ready at another time in the future. But now is not your time.


You can let this thing play out and DOR (Drop On Request), fail out and burn out. If by chance you make it through the academy by the skin of your teeth, then you have the crucible of the FTO program and a year or more on probation.


And I have seen thousands test and hundreds go through the academy. At times there are some surprises. But your comments indicate that you should consider dropping from the academy and maybe coming back at another time in the future. Either earn or build on an undergraduate degree.


I can tell you with a certainty, again, you have successfully determined in your own mind that now is not the time.


Change directions with honor and revisit your desire at another time.


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IT DON'T GET NO PLAINER THAN THAT.

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Initially to call yourself MentalUnrest is a huge red flag.Is a Police career the only area of your life you are mentally unrested with?As I indicated in my original post your current attitude and outlook could cost lives.Especially in  this occupatioin you MUST be either all IN or not in at all.I see you have semi-agreed with some of the posts.We don't want you to agree simply to placate us.----In summation ,you either are or aren't officer materiel.

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The academy is tough, we started with 30 recruits and now have 22. I asked myself the question after the first week or so, "Is this what I really want to do?"  The answer was a resounding "Yes." I have a daughter that is growing up in a world that is getting more and more dangerous every day, and I likened me quitting or giving up, to me quitting or giving up on protecting my daughter.


 I've always prided myself on not being a quitter and never giving up or never ever admitting that someone else was tougher than me. I realize that everything that I go through at the academy is meant to make me better, more prepared and give me the tools and mindset that I'll need when push comes to shove and the stuff hits the fan on the streets. If it were all easy then when you got into a hot situation you would be more of a liability than an asset and couldn't protect yourself, little on help someone else if you had to.


If you are questioning yourself about if you really want to be in law enforcement, and you can't answer with a definite "Yes", then I would say that you have your answer right there. I know that when I was younger I didn't have what I needed or have the drive to be a good officer, but after a few years I now have the want to and the dedication that it takes to not just be a cop, but to be a "good cop."


If the reasons a person wants to be a police officer is for personal gain, power, able to drive a police car, have a badge and carry a gun, or any other selfish reason, then even if you do become a cop, you probably won't be a very good one. While enforcing the law is what we're suppose to do, the main reason I want to be in law enforcement is because I want to help protect those who can't protect themselves, from people who don't care who they hurt as long as they get what they want. 


Even after I go through all the hard work and training, if I were only able to help just one person in a dire situation from being hurt or killed by a criminal, or take some drugs off the street that would ruin their life, then everything that I'm going through will be worth it all. If it came down to it, I wouldn't hesitate for a second to fight to the death to protect my daughter, and by me going through the academy and becoming a certified law enforcement officer, that is exactly what I feel I am doing.


So if anybody thinks that they're gonna make me quit or give up, then they've got another thing coming, no matter what kind of tough guy they are, I guarantee that I'm gonna be a little bit tougher than they are and make it through until the end. I also refuse to just squeak through by the skin of my teeth, I will strive to be much better than average and push, if not surpass the best around me by doing the absolute best that I can. That's the kind of attitude you'll need to make it through the academy or anything else that pushes someone to their mental and/or physical limits in life.


 Like The Sarge said, even though "now may not be the time for you to seek a law enforcement career. That is not to say you won't be ready at another time in the future. But now is not your time." I hope you find the answers you seek and I wish you good luck in whatever your decision. God Bless.

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