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My  ex girlfriend is Bipolar and getting worse. Don't want to get into exact details here but lets just say her behavior over the last couple of months has not been Law Abiding. I know the obvious answer is to leave her which I did but i left when it was too late. She got me in serious trouble with my job and has seriously jeopardized my Law Enforcement career. I'm seeking advice,thoughts, and opinions from members of the Law Enforcement Community who are actively serving who have experienced anything similar to this situation? Suspended and reinstated but now have the stigma of incompetence for loving a totally certifiable mentally disturbed woman who i am no longer associated with. Thought,Opinions,advice?? Thanks.

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My  ex girlfriend is Bipolar and getting worse. Don't want to get into exact details here but lets just say her behavior over the last couple of months has not been Law Abiding. I know the obvious answer is to leave her which I did but i left when it was too late. She got me in serious trouble with my job and has seriously jeopardized my Law Enforcement career. I'm seeking advice,thoughts, and opinions from members of the Law Enforcement Community who are actively serving who have experienced anything similar to this situation? Suspended and reinstated but now have the stigma of incompetence for loving a totally certifiable mentally disturbed woman who i am no longer associated with. Thought,Opinions,advice?? Thanks.



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I am confused. The title say Bipolar Spouse and in your comments you describe her as a former girlfriend. Which is it? You request advice and opinions with out giving any details. Are you a police officer or an applicant? You are vague in your request. How can we give advice without knowing what we aregiving advice for? Your leaving out alot.

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I am confused. The title say Bipolar Spouse and in your comments you describe her as a former girlfriend. Which is it? You request advice and opinions with out giving any details. Are you a police officer or an applicant? You are vague in your request. How can we give advice without knowing what we aregiving advice for? Your leaving out alot.


 


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This is kind of confusing, but I think I got your drift.  I would recommend you keep your distance from her.  Make sure your supervisors and Boss understand the situation.  I have had employees in the past in this ame situation, and they can cause you a lot of grief. All you can do is try to protect yourself, and don't put yourself in any situation that will give your supervisors to go with.  I had to study this illness to understand what was taking place in my employees life, and then I understood.  Hopefully they will see through it all. 


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Are you a police officer? I agree to apprise supervisor and stay 200 miles sound of this lady. I am very curious of your status. I await your response.

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Sorry for the confusion. She is not my spouse but at the time considered my common law wife because we lived together for a few years. Yes I was a Police Officer when she started breaking the Law. Anyways I got away from her as fast as i could but she managed to cause me great grief and disrupt my Law Enforcement Career anyway. She Is Bipolar with a history of substance abuse and other mental health issues. I am no longer with her and even moved away just to get away from her. Here are the questions that I am asking...I was accused of a misdeamenor crime. nothing came of the allegation. No conviction...Nothing. Has any active or inactive LEO ever dealt with this kind of issue before?   How is something like this viewed by other officers? How reluctant will an agency be to hire me when this issue comes up? Im very interested on hearing opinion,thoughts,advice...Thanks.

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Sorry for the confusion. She is not my spouse but at the time considered my common law wife because we lived together for a few years. Yes I was a Police Officer when she started breaking the Law. Anyways I got away from her as fast as i could but she managed to cause me great grief and disrupt my Law Enforcement Career anyway. She Is Bipolar with a history of substance abuse and other mental health issues. I am no longer with her and even moved away just to get away from her. Here are the questions that I am asking...I was accused of a misdeamenor crime. nothing came of the allegation. No conviction...Nothing. Has any active or inactive LEO ever dealt with this kind of issue before?   How is something like this viewed by other officers? How reluctant will an agency be to hire me when this issue comes up? Im very interested on hearing opinion,thoughts,advice...Thanks.



Having been through the c-r-a-z-y ex-fiancee scenario and having had to put my career plans on hold for many years because of several (unltimately proven to be false) allegations made by said c-r-a-z-y ex-fiancee, I offer this....  while she made the allegations to my family, friends and church, she NEVER once filed a police report.  That said, the damage was done by way of the gossip and rumor mill.


I can tell you that EVERY department I have ever interviewed with has asked me the same question prior to starting my background investigation.  "What is the worst thing we will find in your background as we interview your family, friends, co-workers and anyone else they may refer us to?"  I knew that I not only had to put time and space between me and said c-r-a-z-y ex fiancee.  I had to show the road map if you will, of how I got out from that point of my life to where I was at the point of the background investigation and how I was able to reclaim my good reputation and good name.  I knew that because the allegations were made and even though they were ultimately proven to be false, I would have to answer questions about them.  I knew that if I didn't say anything, someone else was sure to throw it out there.


If you are planning on getting back into LE, you know the background investigation process.  You know that it would be better for that information to come from you (as it did me prior to my background investigation) than for that information to come to light from someone else, including but not limited to someone who may be holding a grudge and your background investigator has to ask you about it.