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Aspiring Police Officer and Father. Can you do both in this line of work?

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I’m currently a Law and Justice student anticipating graduation in the fall of 2013 with my Bachelor’s in Criminal Justice. Right Now I feel that I am at a crossroad with the demand of the job on one side and my family on another. I have a 4-year-old son and we are inseparable on the account that I only see him a few times a week because his mother and I are not together. I am now realizing that joining law enforcement will take a lot of that time away from seeing him grow up. I read through many forums and websites that address issues with juggling a social life with police work and it has given me trepidation on what to pursue. In high school I attended a youth Police Academy in my county and was just inspired to join the blue line with hopes to rise up through the ranks into a K-9 unit. I have absolute respect for the LEOs that do what they do everyday to protect and serve.  My question to you all is where can I go from here now? Any advice is much appreciated and will be used to the fullest. Thank you all.



 

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If you really want to you can.  You have to learn how to structure your time. It will be the same with any job, not just police work.


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What JIMROC said.

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Countless Cops do it every day - juggle family life and LEO Life. And not all of them are married to the child's Mother/Father. It'll be tough, but it can be done. It just depends on how much you want to put into itand how badly you want it.


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 being a father made3 me a better cop and being a cop probably made me a better father.


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It's possible. Work when you're at work and let it all go when you're off the clock. It's easier said than done, but good luck!

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WHAT? Be a cop and a father ?Never heard of it .I believe it's illegal in all jurisdictions.I have seven,what I deem to be normal children.I didn't beat them,took them to church,they had normal friends,etc.We had meals together and entertained one another.Are you perchance inquiring if a sanitation engineer or physician would be a better father?Who's to judge?I did put in a great deal of overtime,tons of court time ,had part time jobs and attended college night courses till I was 41 years of age.

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You are way over thinking this. Thousands of men and women have became cops with children. I strongly suggest you speak to a mental health professional. Keep in mind the cop job is not for everyone.

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Yep if I could do it and now helping raise 2 energetic Grandsons yeah I think you can do it.


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Thank you all for all your kind words and wisdom. I am still on the fence about what I am considering doing and the outlook for a job opportunity out of college with a bachelor's is still tough especially in New Jersey. Like most careers its a political game about who you know so I am considering continuing my education and achieving my master's in either Criminal Justice or History given my background in law. This is going to be a challenge but viewing all of your comments and adversities has given me hope to be successful. I hope this will lead me in the path I need to become an instructor in the field of education or pledge my oath to protect and serve. All I ever wanted to do was help people, which is why I feel being a police officer was right for me. Either path I take I know I will be making a difference in someone's life. Thanks again everyone. Live long and prosper.

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A hearty welcome to Police Link.Jersey huh,love it there.I was stationed at Ft. Dix while my father was stationed at Monmouth,years ago.Your education,attitude and desire will tend to carry you a long way.Good fortune to you...Dave

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It can be done! My husband is living proof. Our household, we are both officers. It's a team effort and communication goes a long way. Single parent households are a little bit more challenging, but it can be done! 

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I know the feeling of wondering how to juggle an LEO career and a family. While I am not yet a police officer (should be attending the academy in January) I know that it can be done. I have a young family and have had to question myself to make sure that I am doing the right thing for them. I have a great friend who has been the best example of how well an officer can raise his family. I'm sure it takes work, but hey, anything worth doing should.


Thanks for the post. I'm looking forward to learning the intricacies of protecting and serving both at home and in the community.

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How do you think we get more cops? 


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 As a 18 year veteran and Police Sergeant who is married and has three daughters and yes God had a sense of humor with that one but it is difficult as I work overtime like every other police officer to make end meat also doesn't help that I have not had a raise since 2004. We do the best I can to make time with my daughter's it's more about quality of time and not quanity. My 6 year old is struggling right now with dad working so much but I make sure I take time to talk to them about their day and what they did we make meals together which might be breakfast or lunch right now swim, read a book go for a walk. In our case my two youngest favorite activity is reading though their Kid's Bible together. YES it can be done but realize that we wear many hats and if you don't put full effort it will fall apart. I work 50+ weeks but I"M a FULL TIME FATHER, FULL TIME HUSBAND IT. Difficult Yes but not impossible.


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Time management...quality time management...I just became a caregiver of a five year old, working early mornings...been on the job for over twenty five years...we manage by having our priorities in order, including on the job...