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Aspiring Police Officer and Father. Can you do both in this line of work?
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Posted 4 months ago I’m currently a Law and Justice student anticipating graduation in the fall of 2013 with my Bachelor’s in Criminal Justice. Right Now I feel that I am at a crossroad with the demand of the job on one side and my family on another. I have a 4-year-old son and we are inseparable on the account that I only see him a few times a week because his mother and I are not together. I am now realizing that joining law enforcement will take a lot of that time away from seeing him grow up. I read through many forums and websites that address issues with juggling a social life with police work and it has given me trepidation on what to pursue. In high school I attended a youth Police Academy in my county and was just inspired to join the blue line with hopes to rise up through the ranks into a K-9 unit. I have absolute respect for the LEOs that do what they do everyday to protect and serve. My question to you all is where can I go from here now? Any advice is much appreciated and will be used to the fullest. Thank you all.
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| Posted 4 months ago If you really want to you can. You have to learn how to structure your time. It will be the same with any job, not just police work.
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| Posted 4 months ago What JIMROC said. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Countless Cops do it every day - juggle family life and LEO Life. And not all of them are married to the child's Mother/Father. It'll be tough, but it can be done. It just depends on how much you want to put into itand how badly you want it. In GOD We Trust (All others get searched, then checked through NCIC) MODERATOR #10
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| Posted 4 months ago being a father made3 me a better cop and being a cop probably made me a better father. Have ASP will travel. Justice is the one thing you should always find, you gotta saddle up your boys you gotta draw a hard line. When the gun smoke settles we'll sing a victory tune and we'll all meet back at the local saloon. And we'll raise up our glasses against evil forces singing whiskey for my men beer for my horses. |
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| Posted 4 months ago It's possible. Work when you're at work and let it all go when you're off the clock. It's easier said than done, but good luck! |
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| Posted 4 months ago WHAT? Be a cop and a father ?Never heard of it .I believe it's illegal in all jurisdictions.I have seven,what I deem to be normal children.I didn't beat them,took them to church,they had normal friends,etc.We had meals together and entertained one another.Are you perchance inquiring if a sanitation engineer or physician would be a better father?Who's to judge?I did put in a great deal of overtime,tons of court time ,had part time jobs and attended college night courses till I was 41 years of age. |
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| Posted 4 months ago You are way over thinking this. Thousands of men and women have became cops with children. I strongly suggest you speak to a mental health professional. Keep in mind the cop job is not for everyone. |
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| Posted 4 months ago Yep if I could do it and now helping raise 2 energetic Grandsons yeah I think you can do it. Bad stuff happens to good people, handle it and overcome.
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| Posted 4 months ago Thank you all for all your kind words and wisdom. I am still on the fence about what I am considering doing and the outlook for a job opportunity out of college with a bachelor's is still tough especially in New Jersey. Like most careers its a political game about who you know so I am considering continuing my education and achieving my master's in either Criminal Justice or History given my background in law. This is going to be a challenge but viewing all of your comments and adversities has given me hope to be successful. I hope this will lead me in the path I need to become an instructor in the field of education or pledge my oath to protect and serve. All I ever wanted to do was help people, which is why I feel being a police officer was right for me. Either path I take I know I will be making a difference in someone's life. Thanks again everyone. Live long and prosper. |
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| Posted 4 months ago A hearty welcome to Police Link.Jersey huh,love it there.I was stationed at Ft. Dix while my father was stationed at Monmouth,years ago.Your education,attitude and desire will tend to carry you a long way.Good fortune to you...Dave |
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| Posted 3 months ago It can be done! My husband is living proof. Our household, we are both officers. It's a team effort and communication goes a long way. Single parent households are a little bit more challenging, but it can be done! Live, Love, and Laugh often |
