Anyone else's husband have anger management issues? I am about to file for divorce because I can't deal with this anymore I need advice. please help.

Anger management issues can come about from numerous reasons and most of them center around a loss of control of some part of ones life.  While there is too little information to really "diagnose" the problems and give you a real potential answer to your dilema, depending upon how these management issues are manifesting themselves. . . . if you have the time, try to get him, and you, to a counselor.  If things have progressed to where you are in fear of injury, if the department has a psychiatrist, talk with them and try to get him some help this way before he does something that both he, and you will regret because you had to call the police to stop the domestic violence incident.  If done this way, or through his supervisor, maybe they already know of what he is facing due to some triggering event.  If this is the case, then they may have the necessary tools to "force feed" him the help. . . .but there is the potential of him losing his job and that won't help the anger issue either.

Like I said, there is not enough information to provide a lot of specific assistance and these are only some of the options available to you.  If he has a partner, maybe talking to him could provide insight into why he is feeling the way he is.  If his partner is any sort of partner, then maybe he will provide the assistance you, AND HE needs.  Unfortunately, with these types of issues. . . .things sometimes have to get worse before they get better.  For one, if you start reaching out to the department or partner, he could see this as you submarining his career and the problem could escalate.  If what you say is true and you can get him to admit that he has a problem. . . . .you have won the biggest part of the battle and he will look forward to assistance to keep his life. . . .and ultimately you (the family) together.

Sorry I can't be of much assistance here, but most of us here are not psychologists. . . .only after having seen people with these issues, many of us know that if left untreated, anger management problems usually only lead to destruction.  Good luck, Steve.

I am sad to hear about your choice of decision to divorce.  Your husband's behavior does not define who he is and what is in his Heart.  Police work is only a minute part of the darkness he is experiencing in his life time - anger is a human challenge regardless of what job you do..  Know that there are different resources for self recognition & self improvements for him to rediscover the core of his Heart, the very being, purpose, and direction of his existence.  Love, patience, & persistence will go afar for both your husband & you as a couple going through challenging times.  View through his eyes, perhaps you will gain a different perspective.  I hope your willing heart will become his willing heart and go through the challenges together.  From my Heart, best wishes.

You should keep your family life with your family and not on the internet for the rest of the world to see.

confusedPDwife, you seem young.  I totally get your reaching out here.  Please NEVER divulge aspects of your troubled marriage on the internet.  Guard your own and your husband's privacy!

Seek expert help. Marriage to a law enforcement officer is no different than any when it comes to the vows. Sometimes love flees and only the vows remain.  Use them.  Love can return.  But before it can, you both have a lot of work to do.  Don't be afraid.

I have faith your husband is fully capable of excellent reasoning, good judgment and self-discipline.  Appeal to his strength.  Enlist him.  Like Sarge says, a good psychologist is your best ally.  Work together to break the pattern. You can do it.

KCecala is a great person with great advice.  My very best wishes to you, PD Wife!

Bump Shadow-Gurl.Sage advice,I read it also.This job can be a pressure cooker.Not everybody can handle it,be it the spouse or the officer.