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Posted over 1 year ago

 

 Hey guys! So, I have an unusual question for all you cops.


I'm an intern at my local police department. It's a very small department, so I've quickly gotten to know all the guys and I absolutely love being there! I've heard stories about past interns and their faults and enthusiasm was never one of the bad characteristics listed, but I was wondering if it were possible for me to over stay my welcome? 


The last thing I want is to be a burden to these guys. I know some of them enjoy having someone to talk to, especially on long nights when they can't socialize with the community. I don't think I'm bad company, but perhaps it's not something they would want all that frequently? 


Similarly, on facebook I often see them put up statuses about stuff that goes down on the job. The general reaction is something along the lines of: "Oh my gosh! Please be safe! Don't die on me!" Does it make me look completely insensetive that, while I do feel concern when they come across danger, my first reaction is that I want to be out there with them?


Would you rather an intern at your department do their minimum time and get out, or do you enjoy having a passionate ride-along, no matter how long it's for?

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You should ask those that you ride with and those that are in charge, it doesn't matter what we say it matters what they say.


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It is to easy to overstay your welcome. I would recommend one ride a long every six months. I recall a couple of ladies many years ago that took an interest in our program. They were riding several times per week. They had their favorite officers they requested to ride with and wives started complaining. I think they were trying to hook an officer for a relationship and they were requested to seek out other departments. Like Bill commented axe the agency.

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I have, somewhat. I asked one guy about the facebook thing, he laughed it off and said he got plenty of "insensetive" comments about it in private. It still seems like it may be out of place for me to approach it so casually though. He made no comment about it being in poor taste, but maybe he just didn't want to hurt my feelings.

Another guy I asked about overstepping my bounds. He was the one that talked about the other interns. He explained that some guys, specifically, have poor social skills and won't be comfortable spending a lot of time with me, but he wasn't one of them. That still begged the question, though. Would people WANT to? I don't care if you don't mind. I don't care if you do mind. If either of those are the case, I'll do my minimum and split. But if you actually prefer a shift with me by your side, then I'll go out of my way to make it so.

I guess I'm just trying to get a general feel for what police like. I've read that a cop's squad car is like his office and he can be a bit touchy about it being invaded by other people. I know that no two people are alike, and police are no exception, but perhaps there is a trend when it comes to opinions on interns?

bill9823 says ...

You should ask those that you ride with and those that are in charge, it doesn't matter what we say it matters what they say.

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Well, my school requirement is five hours a week. Friday is my day, and I don't pick and choose between the guys, even if I prefer some over others. I couldn't if I wanted to, since I only see any given squad once a month! I do like to stay longer than five hours, though. I mean, how much can really happen in five hours? 


For all intents and purposes, just imagine I'm a guy - a straight guy - intern. Romance isn't my goal. In fact, I find the idea rather hilarious. I was mistaken for a twelve year old on one of my first days. It would be rather absurd for... well in any case, I want experience, and I love the job. That's what I'm there for!


I will talk to the Lt. about all this as soon as winter break is over. He's on vacation right now, and he's kind of the one that's incharge of the internship stuff. ^_^


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It is to easy to overstay your welcome. I would recommend one ride a long every six months. I recall a couple of ladies many years ago that took an interest in our program. They were riding several times per week. They had their favorite officers they requested to ride with and wives started complaining. I think they were trying to hook an officer for a relationship and they were requested to seek out other departments. Like Bill commented axe the agency.


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Thanks, ssu459, I'll see what I can do about finding a bigger department this summer to internship with! 


And thanks again to everyone! I think I've gotten all the feedback I need! 

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I would expect that the officers in your dept. run the gauntlet from those liking a ride-along to those who consider it punishment from the sgt. when they get a ride along.  Best option is to ask the shift supervisor if you are riding along  'too much'  and if so how often is 'just right'.  Aim for the 'Goldilocks' solution.

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I agree with Moderator Bill and uncledennis. Ask your department - preferrably someone in a supervisory position.


As for romantic interests - pursued or not - I wouldn't place the male/female dynamic out of the equation in ANY field at the age of seventeen.  It always creates a particular tension.  Everyone knows seventeen year-olds are as able to fall in love/admiration as heavily as do adults. Conversely, it should be no surprise to you that men of all ages, from high-school to the grave, enjoy being admired by pretty females.  They will bask in it merely to relieve the tedium of the workaday if nothing else. The wives of the officers you are interning near have seen many interns come and go.  I expect there is an average term of stay that is quite well-known.  You have not mentioned the female officers you have gone on ride-alongs with.  Their input may be more helpful. 


I think your instincts are good, AK17.  You don't want your actions misinterpreted. That shows maturity.  If you've reached a stage where you feel the need to query in order to avoid looking like the 'station mascot' , your senses are probably guiding you correctly.  Ride-alongs are good practicuums but don't show the whole picture.  Branch out.


Lastly, if you look like a twelve year-old, that's a problem you should address.  I I would advise investigating a more collegial, professional  look that better suits your goals. I might suggest you refrain from Facebook interactions with male law enforcement officers. Rather, use more orthodox means to pursue your career interests.


The very best to you, AK17!

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 Thanks, Cedardale and Marly! 


The Lieutenant is still on vacation, but I promise I'll be talking to him as soon as he gets back! 


Marly, I would love to do some ride alongs with female officers and get some of their input, but there are no female police in our department! Thank you for your insights into, well, guys' intensions. XD I definitely don't want to be the station mascot, though I wouldn't mind being the waterboy. Hahaha. Just for the record, I've done everything I can to look older and professional. Black slacks, boots, button down.. hair tied up, a little mascara, but not too much makeup. I'm just a petite woman, 5'1", with a big-eyed baby face! It can't really be helped. :/ 


Your last comment, about the facebook thing, I will be implementing immedietally. I guess I'm just so used to facebook interaction with teachers and older family members that the casual appearance never occurred to me!