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Posted almost 2 years ago

 

 Well. I did it. After MONTHS of quiet deliberation, multiple discussions with the Boss (the one I married, not the one I work for), and conversations with trusted advisors, I've decided to RETIRE from the PD effective December 1. This is a very difficult decision and a bittersweet time for me. I have served my PD for more than 25 years and my hometown for 34 (started out as a volunteer ambulance corps. member). 


There were several main factors that influenced my decision. The first was the way I was treated in 2005 and the following 3 and a half years. I was abandoned by my agency and had to fight hard to return to the job to which I had been fully devoted. After my return, I realized it would never be the same for me there but I loved doing the job and kept at it.


The second is the current political climate here in New Jersey. The governor and legislature are all Hell-bent on taking back promises and contractual guarantees that every public employee agency has fought hard for over the past 30 years. They are threatening our pensions and benefits and I can lock it in by retiring now rather than waiting for the other shoe to drop.


The third is my family. They stood by me through the worst days of 2005-2008 and we went through (and are still recovering from) so much. I realized during that time that I had put my career ahead of many of their needs. Most LEOs do the same thing, so you know what I'm talking about.  My daughter has graduated college and is looking into becoming a LEO herself. I want to be around there to guide her through the process of getting on the job. My oldest son is in college and struggling to find his way. I want to be there for him. My youngest son is going into 10th grade and looks to be a rising star on the football field. I want to see ALL of his games and cheer him on - perhaps into college and beyond. Finally, my wife. She deserves to have me around more to help with her business (Real Estate) and around the house. Our 25th wedding anniversary is this October. (We got married while I was in the police academy - you should see our wedding pics.) She stood by me in the worst of times and worries about me each time I leave for work. She needs to stop worrying. 


I would like to transition into an area where I can mentor the next generation of LEOs and public servants. I'm looking into teaching in a college, academies, and the private sector. I also intend to get a P.I. license and keep my feet in the water. 


AND I WILL STILL BE A PART OF THE PL MENTORING TEAM HERE, HELPING YOU NEWBIES BECOME BETTER AND KEEP THE REST OF YOU CHUCKLING, ESPECIALLY DURING THOSE DAYS WHERE IT IS NEEDED!


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I tried this once.  Said I was going to go fishing every day.  Only problem was that all my fishing buddies were ayt work.  Had no one to go with.  Went back to work after a year.


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Good luck to you Nick. I understand exactly where your coming from and will not be far behind you. I know you will do well in whatever you do.

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Best of luck to you!


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On my part I am always sad to see a great cop retire. You have served well my friend. You will always have my  unfaltering respect. Enjoy you future life. May you be blessed with a long healthy life as a reward.


PS-I did see an article that a city in NJ(Newark or Camden I  think) is disbanding the city police department and the county will now take over. Half of  the officers going to the county and half terminated. A drastic cost cutting measure that will eventually fail.


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 There IS life after retirement. Teaching is a great idea. Best of luck to you.

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Sounds like you have some great things planned. I wish you and your family the best. Real glad you're staying on PL too!

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Sounds like you've made a tough decision, Nick!! But also the right one! Best wishes to you as you transition into a new way of life!


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Good luck and your family is lucky to still have you around ! Go and enjoy them for a while !


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 Hey Nick , Look at it this way, It's a drop in stress and an increase in intillectual stimulation. (lol)


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SGT405 says ...



PS-I did see an article that a city in NJ(Newark or Camden I  think) is disbanding the city police department and the county will now take over. Half of  the officers going to the county and half terminated. A drastic cost cutting measure that will eventually fail.



It's worse than that! They are eliminating the City of Camden PD and CREATING a new  "County" PD that will only be patrolling the city. It's union-busting at its worst. The entire department gets canned the chief gets to be chief of the new dept. and only half of the city officers are eligible for jobs at the new PD. It's a nightmare!


 


Thanks to everyone for the well-wishes. 


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Well, my good friend, I wish you all the best in your future plans,especially that of being a mentor here on Police Link.


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Congratulations on beginning of a less stressful (we hope) phase.  Good luck, not that you'll need it, in what ever you do!  Oh, I'm still voting NICK for Prez!


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Nick, CONGRATULATIONS on your decision!!!  As a mentor and friend you have shown Big Heart-  something the public sees from seasoned law enforcement retirees teaching in the private sector.  Through them, we learn the real story.  So... hope to hear you are headed our way soon!


You listed many powerful reasons to retire.  Each one alone is powerful enough! 


The reason that stands out to me is the de-moralizing political snake-pit New Jersey's law enforcement community is being subjected to.  To say the Governer of New Jersey is an obscenely ambitious Baron Harkkonen Dankbag of the First Order is putting it mildly.  To say Governor Christie is a flaming sack of black rats' balls would probably get me in trouble with the censors.


And that bit about your wife worrying every time you go out....YAY, LOVE WINS!!! 


See you one the boards, my friend!


 

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Wish you well Brother! I can't imagine that right now, but I agree a man of your experience should now move to teach and guide the rookies and keep the rest of us updated on the latest of the biz

I hope one day I can retire, but right now for many reasons it just doesn't look like its in the cards. We certainly can't fault the reasons you have given, family is the best reason to move on. So quickly we can forget those that are behind the scenes and always have our backs. Enjoy and keep us posted...

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 Good for you! I definitely feel your wifes pain. I am looking forward to the near future when my husband pulls the pin:-)  A new and wonderful phase of your life. You have worked hard and helped many people. ENJOY

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Congratulations Nick. I keep saying the cop job is not the family as in the past. Glad you are staying on the police link site as you are a valuable members. Best to you and your family.

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 I know it was a hard decision to make.  But I know you will do fine in what ever you finally end up doing.


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Best of luck to you, Nick. 


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 Very powerful post. Your reasons are very simular to the ones I listed when deciding to retire next spring. I know this is a difficult decision for you, but honestly, at the end of the day, it's not. Will you miss it? yes, but there will be so much more to your life. It's a new beginning. Your 25th Aniversary. may end up feeling like your first. After all this is a new beginning for the rest of your life. Not only for you, but for your entire family. I congratulate you on your decision, and I commend you on your many years of faithful service. 


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Congratulations on your decision and your new future  endeavors.  Glad you're staying on here at PL, we need you.

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Best wishes to you and the family. You have earned this, Enjoy it.


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Nick, it sounds like you have a perfectly balanced view of the zoo regarding retiring. Ultimately, family is at the top.


I can tell you two things happened to me when I pulled the pin.


1. I got used to not going to work very quickly. I only took me 24 hours to easily get used to not saddling up and heading out.


2. On the other hand, it took a year to decompress from that Condition Yellow we live in: Ubber awareness, back to the wall, always vigilant, blah, blah. After a while, I felt like I didn't need to jump into any 'activity' that I saw. Now, I just walk past.


There is definitely life after law enforcement. You can take a more serious look at your favorite hobby or sport or avocation. And, being a law enforcement instructor is pretty fun, as long as you keep it part-time. I still teach high performance driving (EVOC) and am an RTO at an academy. I get to pass on a positive legacy of LEO-Land to the noob who attend the academy.


AND, my wife LOVES me being home at night. AND, you know what, so do I !!!


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Good luck buddy take a tour of the states and dont forget Montana. If you come through our little burg stop in and say HI. BTW I am jealous cause i do like to fish and could do mor eif work did not interfer. LOL Be safe these next few months. Watch your 6 


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I was thinking of pulling the plug the 21st of this month, but I just couldn't do it. I've been doing this job now for almost 27 years, 25 years with this department and I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I didn't have this to do.  Yes, I have a family, wife of 34 years, four boys, three that are grown and have their own families. I'm just so used to getting up, dress and preparing for battle I wouldn't know how to end it.  Just pull the plug and be able to move on?  I don't think so!  I'm a road dog and still love it "most" of the time.  Oh well, time will tell.


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Nick, good luck and enjoy the free time.

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Good luck Sir, and keep sharing that wisdom.

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Well thought out my friend, and my very best to you! 


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And oh, on top of all that, I was hanging out on the skid of the Sheriff's helicopter today taking photos of an area close to a 'grow'. Wouldn't have had time to do that unless I was ready when the pilot and TFO were ready.


Good times to be had during reeeeee-tirement.


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 Congratulations on your voluntary retirement, Nick!




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