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So, say for example, a youngster (infant to 7) started to cry at a scene that you were. Whether it's a fatal accident, traffic stop etc., would you give the kid something to show him or her that you're not a bad guy?

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You must be bored. Give them what? I would be working not babysitting.

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I always try to make sure kids are doing okay and they understand that I am a good guy and want to help. I don't always have something to give to them, but spending a couple minutes talking to them usually helps. I have given kids candy, cookies, and small stuffed animals before.

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You must be bored. Give them what? I would be working not babysitting.



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I concur with both uncledennis and Schultzy.The business of said investigation comes first and why would a child think we're bad when we're there to help,unless,of course they were taught by their parents to dislike Police Officers,which does occur way too often.We were supplied with a few teddy bears from the city for this purpose. About the same year I retired.Frankly I am not fond of a Touchy-Feely Police Dept. That's for the Welcome Wagon or Police Community Relations.Schultzy is correct in that this situation could be addressed when the time presents itself.

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I concur with both uncledennis and Schultzy.The business of said investigation comes first and why would a child think we're bad when we're there to help,unless,of course they were taught by their parents to dislike Police Officers,which does occur way too often.We were supplied with a few teddy bears from the city for this purpose. About the same year I retired.Frankly I am not fond of a Touchy-Feely Police Dept. That's for the Welcome Wagon or Police Community Relations.Schultzy is correct in that this situation could be addressed when the time presents itself.



I see your point and I realize that we're their to help. However, a child seeing his or her father or whom ever being led away in a police car might make them think that the police are doing something wrong and dislike them. In addition, there's the ones you mentioned about not liking the police to begin with.

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Thanks for the responses everyone. I see lots of sides to this issue.

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Even though I would be working a difficult scene, I would give some attention to the child. The age group you cite is very young. They would not even begin to know the scope and consequences of what was happening around them. We all know that crying children can be distracting. Also, crying children may have something wrong with them necessitating the need to be medically checked out. The fact they didn't 'like' me didn't keep me from doing my job.


I have never ignored crying children at a scene I am investigating. Even young children might be able to provide valuable 'witness' information, albeit rough, immature and undeveloped.


I also know the difference between an impacted child at a crime or accident scene and another child who is a whiney brat whose parents have no control. Those kind of kids I either  totally ignore or mad dog. When I give them the hardcore stare, they seem to always stop that screechy crying and move away from me.


I have never used any toy to calm a child. I generally have used a few minutes of time 'at their own level' (sitting or kneeling) or solicited the help of a trusted relative or familiar neighbor.


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here we do get donations of small stuffed animals to the department and will give those if we have them available.


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Awhile back, I rode with a patrol deputy where I work at. On one of the calls, we responded to a scene of a car accident. After the investigation was completed, we waited around for the tow truck to arrive. The deputy asked me to run to the patrol car and get some "honorable deputy badge" stickers from the glove compartment and give to the two children who were in the vehicle involved in the accident. While stressed out about the accident, giving the children these stickers did bring smile to the children and the parents faces. Later that evening, we responded to a domestic call involving a child and once again, I was asked to give out more stickers. The deputy got some valuable information from the child to assist her in the investigation. Information which the mother did not give out. 


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 I have a garbade bag in the back of my truck full of small stuffed animals with "Drug Free, Gang Free etc.... written on little capes they are wearing. I pass give them to traumatized children at crime scenes, bad domestics etc.... I've only handed out a few over the years, but I always have them with me just in case. It is VERY important to give a child something positive to focus on, rather than the horror around them. I believe it makes a difference, a big difference. 


I'm in a position now to where I'm rarely primary on anything anymore. Usually I just establish Incident Command, so I have the luxury of the added time to accomplish the "little things".


I also see Dennis's point, that were I the primary on the scene, I probably would make life saving and preservation of evidence my priorities over digging out a stuffed animal from my truck, and calming a child.


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 Yes I would because it shows that you care about them the children.

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Look at it as a teaching experience. We can shape, or re-shape young minds in a matter of minutes. I, and my guys all have stuffed animals, plastic badges.  It only takes a moment to bring  a smile to a hurting scared child.


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When I 've been at scenes as is being described I have always make the effort to speak with the child or children. If they are young then the toys and such are a good tool that our agency uses. With the advent of the popularity of CSI on TV, when they realize that I'm the CSI guy it changes and I take a moment to show them my gizmo's and gadgets and let them see how they work out side of the crime scene and that usually brings a smile to both parents and child alike.

With regards to a scene invovling the child as the vicitm, then it's a different approach and I like sit down and interact with the child, especially when I'm waiting for the detective to get on scene or while I'm getting my photos of the child and their injuries or evidence. I try to take a sad and scary situation for that child and make it as bearable as possible.

The investigation does come first, but it depends on whether the child is the victim, the witness or bystander and either way it's handled with respect and dignity. Our Detectives deal with the safe talk stuff, so CSI rarely gets directly involved with a safe talk. We deal withthe digital imaging and audio well after the talk has taken place.

Daily interaction is one that is always favorable from my end of the contact because the parents that use the officer to scare the child into behaving, makes me mad and I call the parents on that when it happens. Standard traffic stops I have never witnessed a situation where the child had to be dealt with while I was dealing with issuing a ticket, at least not yet. Situation often dictates...

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Another thing to consider.....when I am going to make an arrest and a child is present, I will tell the suspect that I don't want to do it in front of the kids. I will have them walk out to my patrol vehicle, which is usually parked our of sight from the entry to the residence......I will then place the suspect in hand restraints out of sight from the child. Obviously, the situation will decide whether this is an option or not, but it is a great way to keep from scaring a child. Your suspect will also respect you for not doing it in front of their kids. If you think about it, it is traumatizing for a child to see their parent taken away by a cop. The parent also is going to have to face the child seeing them arrested. They are going to have to answer for their bad behavior as well. Helping the suspect save face in front of their kids will soften up the suspect a bit.

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Even though I would be working a difficult scene, I would give some attention to the child. The age group you cite is very young. They would not even begin to know the scope and consequences of what was happening around them. We all know that crying children can be distracting. Also, crying children may have something wrong with them necessitating the need to be medically checked out. The fact they didn't 'like' me didn't keep me from doing my job.


I have never ignored crying children at a scene I am investigating. Even young children might be able to provide valuable 'witness' information, albeit rough, immature and undeveloped.


I also know the difference between an impacted child at a crime or accident scene and another child who is a whiney brat whose parents have no control. Those kind of kids I either  totally ignore or mad dog. When I give them the hardcore stare, they seem to always stop that screechy crying and move away from me.


I have never used any toy to calm a child. I generally have used a few minutes of time 'at their own level' (sitting or kneeling) or solicited the help of a trusted relative or familiar neighbor.


Many years ago I gave away 14,000 trading cards with my mug on them when that kinda thing was fashionable. Remember 'pogs'? Yeah, I created a collectible series of those too.



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