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Thorroses_max50

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I’m sure most of us have seen it. The parents that tell their children to behave or the LEO is going to get them. I don’t know how many times I have seen it. Each time I do I think WOW what a wonderful thing to teach a child! Do parents not realize that they are teaching their children to fear the people in uniform? The way that they say it makes them seem like monsters.


I have never told my son anything that could be taken that way. On the other hand I have told him that he has to obey laws or he and mommy can get into trouble by the Cops. This morning I was on my way to drop him off at my mom’s for daycare. Driving down the access road to keep from paying the $1.50 toll to go 3 exits, my son starts to take his seat belt off. I told him, “put it back on and sit down right.” His reply was, “why is the Cops going to hurt me?” I turned to him at the red light and said, “No sweetheart. The Cops won’t hurt you they’re nice people, but mommy will let them spank your butt if you don’t put your seat belt back on and sit down like the laws say you have to.” My son immediately sat in his seat correctly and put his seat belt on.  


I have often wondered how other people feel about such things. Is it just me or are parents today making LEO’s out to be Monsters?

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I used to hate that when people did that to me when I was in uniform.  And I got into the habit of leaning down and telling the children, I'm hear to help people I only arrest bad guys.  If you ever need help look for a policeman.  Sometimes the mother or father wouldn't like it.  But I didn't care.  Call and complain about me.

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Times are changing.  With programs like the Junior Academies for young children and the Explorer programs ( children's ages vary), are starting to change their prospective about Officers and realizing that they are here for them.  Not much different than the Citizen Police Academies for Adults.  All of these programs are designed with community policing in mind. 

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I used to hate that when people did that to me when I was in uniform.  And I got into the habit of leaning down and telling the children, I'm hear to help people I only arrest bad guys.  If you ever need help look for a policeman.  Sometimes the mother or father wouldn't like it.  But I didn't care.  Call and complain about me.



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My favorite is when they do that when I'm working in an HHSC

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Very early in my career, I was eating at a local restaurant during lunch break (on duty and in uniform). As I sat down to eat, a woman told her child that if she didn't eat all of her vegetables, "That Policeman will arrest you." With that, the little girl started crying. So, I knealt down next to the child and told her "I won't arrest you; I'll arrest your mommy for saying that mean thing. You don't have to eat your vegetables. As a matter of fact, Mommy is going to go buy you some dessert right now." Then I looked at the lady and said "Aren't you?" Well, she did. The little girl was happy and I got my message across to the woman. I haven't eaten in a restaurant in uniform too many times since then.


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My favorite is when I go to someone's home in order to serve a warrant for a person's arrest and the kids either hide, cry, or lie and say that their mommy or daddy isn't home. It warms my heart to see parents teaching their kids to fear and lie to me. It is such good parenting. Makes the thought of forced sterilization more plausible.


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I haven't been in those shoes but....AMEN!!!


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My favorite is when I go to someone's home in order to serve a warrant for a person's arrest and the kids either hide, cry, or lie and say that their mommy or daddy isn't home. It warms my heart to see parents teaching their kids to fear and lie to me. It is such good parenting. Makes the thought of forced sterilization more plausible.


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Very early in my career, I was eating at a local restaurant during lunch break (on duty and in uniform). As I sat down to eat, a woman told her child that if she didn't eat all of her vegetables, "That Policeman will arrest you." With that, the little girl started crying. So, I knealt down next to the child and told her "I won't arrest you; I'll arrest your mommy for saying that mean thing. You don't have to eat your vegetables. As a matter of fact, Mommy is going to go buy you some dessert right now." Then I looked at the lady and said "Aren't you?" Well, she did. The little girl was happy and I got my message across to the woman. I haven't eaten in a restaurant in uniform too many times since then.



Well, good for you and it sucks to be her!  We are the monsters!  WHY!

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LOL snhadley

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 I could not agree more on that subject.

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 I believe when raising children you teach them about liberties, freedoms, justice, respect, our rights under the Constitution, and that the police are their friends and we are there to help them!

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I had to arrest a woman under the mental health act after she attempted suicide. As I took her to the car, she was yelling to her children "watch this kids, he's going to kick my ass!"


I show up tp save your life and you use it as an opportunity to make your kids fearful of the police? Dummy.

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 I believe when raising children you teach them about liberties, freedoms, justice, respect, our rights under the Constitution, and that the police are their friends and we are there to help them!



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I used to hate that when people did that to me when I was in uniform.  And I got into the habit of leaning down and telling the children, I'm hear to help people I only arrest bad guys.  If you ever need help look for a policeman.  Sometimes the mother or father wouldn't like it.  But I didn't care.  Call and complain about me.


They Should call to Compliment you for a lesson learned, if they are intuitive enough to pick up on it.  To lean down to talk to a child speaks volumes to me.  Such an eloquent interception of parent(s) using the image of an LEO to "control" or"bully" their kid into listening.   Good Damage Control, and I betcha most kids will remember  two very important words you said; Need help.


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 The disrespect for Le starts at early an early age, I have heard my own brother scare his child every time he saw a cop He would say that policeman will pull us over and take you to jail. My step-son learns from his father that police spend there time arresting people for "little things" example, smoking pot, guess what this guy does in his spare time...duh. Well I made it my job when my step-son makes a negative remark about le I very calmly ask him why do you say that and why do you fell that way and mostly I get my dad said or I don't know. So we talk it out and 9 times out of 10 we come to a rational and positive out come to what Le stand for, hes a bright kid. The more time Le spend educating the children the bettter.

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I have done the same thing more than a few times. I would really get POed when a parent would tell their child that or use me to threaten them. I would ALWAYS make it a point to go over and talk to the child and let them know I was their friend and they could always trust me to help them, no matter what.

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I might add that I also took the parent to task and let them know what a bad thing they are doing. I would ask them that if their child was lost or hurt or needed help do you think they would come to me after what you just told them? That usually changed their attitude and they started telling their kids that they were only kidding that policemen are very good friends and they should look for one when they need help.

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I have it happen to me from time to time and its annoying to the point that I have responded while kneeling down in front of the child and telling him / her that no I only put bad people in jail and your not being bad.

I have on numerous occassions spoke with the parent and told them that instills fear of police in kids and that is not the prescribed method to scare your kids into behaving. On one instance, I told the parent I would like to put parents in jail that tell their kids lies. The child didn't hear me, but the parent gave me a nasty look and I left saying have a safe day.

When I speak at public meetings I always bring these instances up and tell parents that it sends a mixed message and confuses children on who to call or turn to for help. I have noticed on some occassions that a parent that has had negative contacts with LE are the ones that spew this poison to their kids...

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Any time that I had to work in a place that had small children, I would always make it a point to take several small toys (usually the ones from happy meals) and a box of some kind of snack (usually rice crispy treats & honey buns.) I would wait till one of the parents said something like that and the child would start to cry. I’d grab a toy and a snack, walk over to the child and kneel down. I’d tell them “It’s OK sweetheart Mommy/Daddy was just kidding. I’m only here to make sure that you’re safe in such a large place, with so many people, sometimes it’s hard for your Mommy/Daddy when they’re busy to keep an eye on you every second. So if you need anything, you look for this nice silver badge & you come let me know.  Alright? (They would always nod) Here’s you a toy and if Mommy/Daddy say’s its ok you can have this treat too.” (Mommy/Daddy always told them yes, you can have it.)


I don’t know how many times the honey buns came in handy. Children don’t usually want to eat when they go for their one hour supervised visitation. They get there and cry I’m hungry but the parents can’t leave with them. You would be surprised how having toys and treats can help when children get taken away from their parents. It’s a traumatic experience and sometimes a distraction can help make it a little easier.

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I might add that I also took the parent to task and let them know what a bad thing they are doing. I would ask them that if their child was lost or hurt or needed help do you think they would come to me after what you just told them? That usually changed their attitude and they started telling their kids that they were only kidding that policemen are very good friends and they should look for one when they need help.


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 This is one of my biggest pet peeves! I can't tell you how many times in the last 25 years I've had this happen to me. It used to make me crazy and angry. For some time now, whenever a parent tries to control their kid by saying something like, "Behave or I'll have that policeman arrest you". My response is to tell the parent that I'm not the bad guy and would appreciate it if they didn't make me out to be one and then I say, "Don't drag me in this because of your poor parenting skills." That usually gets the point across loud and clear. Then I smile at the kid and tell them, "No. I'm not going to arrest you." 


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I am a big scary monster. I fact I scare bad guys into giving up and going to jail. Little kids or all kids in general I like. Although there are some that need to bescared.... scared straight that  is. Yes this is my pet peeve also hearing parents tell their children that if they don't behave then the cops will arrest them. When i uniform and I see a child I always wave at them and smile. Let them know that you are not an Ogre. Even though I look like Shrek. LOL Be safe  God bless.  


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I carry Teddy Bears in my trunk, and Badge stickers in my pocket just for these occasions.


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Great topic, DPalmer!


Very confusing for little guys being raised in high-crime neighborhoods with all sorts of mixed messages coming from all directions at once. 


I would like to know what LEOs do when their own children are being little monsters (as it is rumored happens once or twice in LEO families - heh heh).  


Especially when "little monsters" get to be about...what...sixteen?

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 MarlyB I have two teenage daughters 14 and 16. I guess it is like every other child. They don't listen. My husband being a cop has never influenced their behavior. I think it has influenced other kids to behave better when they are at our house. 

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Marly why do you think we take home our duty gear. We get to use all that cool stuff on our kids. LOL


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Once, one of my profs brought his teenage son to our CJ class to listen to the lecture.  Introduced him in the nicest way - nothing unusual.  The kid seated himself in the back of the class.  Dad started up the night's topic, just breezing along, fielding questions. I kept glancing back.  A sullen mass of silent, brooding anger.  Sitting there with his arms folded, looking up through his eyebrows at the old man like he was imploding on the spot. 


Like Dad's punishment of the night was... tailored just for him.


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Thanks MarlyB


Keep up the straight face LMAO

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