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Is it wrong to fall for a cop?

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I fell in love with a cop, who indeed takes his work seriously. But accasionally it doesn't seem like he notices me I would love to be more than just another friend to him, but the only time he talks to me is when something interesting has happened at work. I'm a 3rd grade teacher and I have long hard days at work. But when he comes over I feel scared especially when he tells me he's been shot at or something crazy. I worry about him and I know thats what your suppose to do when your in love with someone....but is it bad to fall inlove with a cop who might get shot at one to many times?

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Personally I'm allergic to the powder in the Powder Blue Uniforms, but you can always ask your Doctor which Cop is Right for you.......


Oh, and Stay Clear from his Cruiser, if you must go inside try not to cause an Open Mic.


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Personally I'm allergic to the powder in the Powder Blue Uniforms, but you can always ask your Doctor which Cop is Right for you.......


Oh, and Stay Clear from his Cruiser, if you must go inside try not to cause an Open Mic.


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Now you know why we changed our uniforms to dark blue, Lonna!!  


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LonnaNJ says ...



Personally I'm allergic to the powder in the Powder Blue Uniforms, but you can always ask your Doctor which Cop is Right for you.......


Oh, and Stay Clear from his Cruiser, if you must go inside try not to cause an Open Mic.


lol'z


Don't mind me, Cute Question, Maybe someone has a better answer.


 



Now you know why we changed our uniforms to dark blue, Lonna!!  


lol, I was referring to the NJST's :)



Looks Powder blue to me..........wait is that my one of my workers they got????  lmao!



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LonnaNJ says ...



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LonnaNJ says ...



Personally I'm allergic to the powder in the Powder Blue Uniforms, but you can always ask your Doctor which Cop is Right for you.......


Oh, and Stay Clear from his Cruiser, if you must go inside try not to cause an Open Mic.


lol'z


Don't mind me, Cute Question, Maybe someone has a better answer.


 



Now you know why we changed our uniforms to dark blue, Lonna!!  


lol, I was referring to the NJST's :)



Looks Powder blue to me..........wait is that my one of my workers they got????  lmao!




Nope. Those are considered French Blue uniforms.



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Only if he pushes you intentually to make you fall!  Seriously, a job is a job is a job.  There are professions just as dangerous as being a cop. If you fell in love with a gynecologist he may not be overly excited to see you nude or  talk about the female anatomy unless something about a patient is abnormal or interesting to him. There are many different ways to die, personnaly I would rather be shot at than to work in a hospital setting, because diseases many times are airborne or passed by touch.  Atleast, with being shot at he can shoot back.  Just keep all things in perspective.  Remember, we all have an expiration date and whatever job one has is not taken into consideration.

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This is your lucky day. I am the doctor of love and my advice (this time) is free. Many male officers can and do at times act like a third grade student. I'm sick can you bring me over some soup. It takes a special person both male and female to have a relationship with a cop. I don't care what anyone says from time to time you do bring your work home with you just as any other professional. Communication is the key. snhadley is right on the mark. Many jobs are more dangerous than being a cop. I don't know where you are in your relationship however, get to know each other as I am sure you are. Do we have bad days? Yes we do just as you do. Be there for him. Listen to him. Grow together. I sincerely wish you well.

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 Even with the limited information in your post, your cop friend concerns me. It seems like he tells you he gets shot at all the time. Though, the possibility is there, police do not routinely get in shootouts at work. When you take into account all police officers in the country, I'd say less than 5 percent have ever been in a shooting. It sounds to me like he's telling stories.


There is a risk in LE. One thing that my wife came to understand is that she worries more than I do. When I go out on a hot call, I go with training, tools, and help. She's at home thinking all the worst.....that I'm by myself being ambushed, and backup is miles away. She came on some ride alongs with me and it helped her understand how much control police have in situations. It made it easier for her when I went to work.


As far as the relationship thing goes....If you've been dating a while and things haven't progressed, ask him where you guys stand. If it is early and you haven't really started dating, then don't fret. Just get to know him and see what happens. 

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LMAO @ LonnaNJ Woman if it looks like it belongs in a kid's toy chest don't play with it you might break it! It's child proof not adult proof... & always remember if you can't get the Tylenol open give it to the kid!!!


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This is your lucky day. I am the doctor of love and my advice (this time) is free. Many male officers can and do at times act like a third grade student. I'm sick can you bring me over some soup. It takes a special person both male and female to have a relationship with a cop. I don't care what anyone says from time to time you do bring your work home with you just as any other professional. Communication is the key. snhadley is right on the mark. Many jobs are more dangerous than being a cop. I don't know where you are in your relationship however, get to know each other as I am sure you are. Do we have bad days? Yes we do just as you do. Be there for him. Listen to him. Grow together. I sincerely wish you well.



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LMAO @ LonnaNJ Woman if it looks like it belongs in a kid's toy chest don't play with it you might break it! It's child proof not adult proof... & always remember if you can't get the Tylenol open give it to the kid!!!


For the OP welcome to PL the guys have given great advice! Listen well and take notes if need be...


Oh and you may want to post an introduction it will help with responses.



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I fell in love with a cop, who indeed takes his work seriously. But accasionally it doesn't seem like he notices me I would love to be more than just another friend to him, but the only time he talks to me is when something interesting has happened at work. I'm a 3rd grade teacher and I have long hard days at work. But when he comes over I feel scared especially when he tells me he's been shot at or something crazy. I worry about him and I know thats what your suppose to do when your in love with someone....but is it bad to fall inlove with a cop who might get shot at one to many times?

Getting shot at once is one to many times!


There is a forum here for your dilemma... there is a search option on the main page.  I also remember covering a similar question and several good book titles were named -- ah, well, listed as good reading for anyone in a relationship with a Law Enforcement Officer!  Good luck to you!


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You just have to be understanding, and know that he is trusting you by opening up to you. As someone said above, communication is key. There will be some days that he may want to open up and talk, and there may be some days that he doesn't want to talk. Do respect the days that he doesn't want to talk. Remember, officers see the worst of human nature, and sometimes, they just want to shut out the world, and relax quietly. When he speaks of getting shot at, try to remember that with his job comes bravery. There are other dangerous jobs out there that people choose, and it is only natural to worry when we know that their lives were in danger earlier that day. Just remember to say a prayer in the morning and/or at night for him. It can be comforting:)

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Interesting that there are two similar posts in two different threads, started by two seemingly different people (oddly enough both seem to be into the teaching profession - a student teacher and a 3rd grade teacher) and both with "skeleton" profiles, who just happened to find their way to policelink on the same day (03-19-12) to ask relationship questions about the "new police officer" and the "serious cop."  Does this strike anyone else as odd.


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SkoolCop. You are now promoted to detective. Good work.

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UnkaD, does he get a gold shield now?


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LonnaNJ says ...



Personally I'm allergic to the powder in the Powder Blue Uniforms, but you can always ask your Doctor which Cop is Right for you.......


Oh, and Stay Clear from his Cruiser, if you must go inside try not to cause an Open Mic.


lol'z


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Lonna,


Many Deputies wear Sheriff green uniforms, sometimes brown or blue and other colors. Are you allergic to them too? 



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welcome to PL :)


First of all you are human and by saying that every human experiences emotions included in those emotions is fear... I agree  you have been given great advice...I've dated a officer before way back in the day and it helped me that he took his job seriously  to not worry so much ,and i'm a constant worrier /planner......you have to understand your guy has gone through an academy for specialized training that  we as civilians do not not comprehend . Is it dangerous? yes it is but like others have said lots of jobs can be dangerous.... the real question is can you put your fears aside and maintain the relationship and offer the  support  that is needed because if you can't honestly it will never last.....you will drive yourself and your friend crazy with worry, you just have to put on the best brave face you can and listen and at times be a lot stronger then what you think you can be....if there is a will there is a way.....Most Leo's become very dedicated to their job so being flexible and patient is important characteristics to contribute to the relationship but if you are a third grade teacher I would say you have patience mastered already lol...... good luck to you


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These are........."The Days of Our Lives" or would that be "As the World Turns"? Personally I prefer "COPS" or "The First 48" but to each his/her own.


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Here is a simple answer to your question. No, it is not wrong to fall for a cop UNLESS he/she is already married. Furthermore, all of us who ARE married are glad that our spouses cared more about us than about what we do for a living !!!!!


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