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Posted over 2 years ago

 

 So I haven't been on here in a long time. I haven't been anywhere though. I just got out of an abusive relationship and am starting all over again. I am 4 months pregnant and just finalized a restraining order against my ex for domestic violence. I won't go into great detail about that now, but I will say that I was in the CJ program at my local college when I met my ex and had finished 1 year. He convinced me to be a stay at home mom since I already have 2 daughters. He started controlling my every move and eventually started using me as a human punching bag, even though he knew I was pregnant. I left him and am now trying to get my life back to where it should be. I am now trying to figure out how to go back to school and complete my CJ degree. I am now planning on adding to my education some sort of certification to do domestic violence counseling. I haven't really looked very far into that part yet and am unsure what kind of certifications or degrees I will need. I also plan to volunteer at the local women's emergency support shelter. I have had to use their help before and I would love to give back to the community by helping out there. My ultimate goal is to put myself in a position to help people in abusive relationships by providing resources, support and hope that they need. I want to be able to make a difference in someones life the way others have made a difference in mine. If anyone has any thoughts or suggestions I would love to hear from you.

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Sorry to hear you had a skum bag for an ex. Glad to hear your out of it and trying to make a difference! Good luck! StaySafe!

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Sorry for your experience with this coward. A real man does not strike a woman. He would never fight another man. My suggestion is to contact a shelter for abused and battered women. You need to communicate with those that share your experience. I sincerely wish you a speedy recovery which will take some time. Best to you.

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Rate This | Posted over 2 years ago

 

 Well I am sorry to hear that.  Just beglad you made it out.  Not to sound bad.  Just don't go back no matter how much he says he changed.  But if you want to help or are thinking about a career in that field get in contact with your local court and talk to the Victim Advocate.  Thats the stuff they handle.  They should be able to point you in the right direction

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 Thanks guys. I certainly will not go back to him even though it was the hardest thing to leave. I have studied the cycle of abuse and mix that with his alcoholism I know that even if he changes for a while, it wont likely last. I will get in contact with the local courts and hopefully they can point me in the right direction. I will also get in touch with the local womens shelter. I know that since I have been cut off from the world for about the last 6 or 7 months I need to build up a support group of my family and friends that I haven't been able to talk to. I know too that if I am serious about my career that I need to get to know people in the field and surround myself with the type of people who have the same values as me. Thanks again :) any and all information/support is greatly appreciated. 

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Well, it sounds like your head is in the right place now the challenge will be to keep it there. Stats say that a woman will leave her abuser 7 times before she stays gone. Please be the exception and skew the data !!!! So you are a mom of 2 with one on the way and you look pretty young. This is not going to be easy but you can do it ! Getting involved with you local battered womens shelter sounds good. Degree in sociology/counseling sounds like a good plan. Reconnect with family and old friends is a MUST you are going to need their help.


Welcome to the forum and hang tough ! Like others have said, no matter what he says, STAY GONE and stay safe. Remember your girls will choose men like their daddy (meaning the one who raised them). Do you want them choosing a man like that? Didn't think so !


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