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Fiance of a soon to be police officer, i need advice!

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Don't worry Marly, the Sgt.405s, TheSarges, the Wiseass ect will get ahold of the Rookie Husband and teach him the rules for keeping his wife happy and with him ! Like Meff said, we don't "air our dirty laundry" in public if we can help it !!!!


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Dirty laundry?  You said it I didn't, Cat.  Wiseass, tell him to pick up his OWN damned socks!! lol 

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Again we are here to answer questions asked. We should not hijack a thread for our own personal agenda after all I do pick up my socks at least once a month (I have to wash them I only have 30 pair).


So people lets keep on topic. Please we are professionals.


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Meff.  You missed a spot. 

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Hey Kristin... i've been a cop's wife for 15 years.. first thing you need to do is have people around you who understand the unique brand of challenges you'll run into. I'm here if you want to talk, but I would also recommend a site called Wives Behind The Badge. (not just for wives).  Let me know if you have any questions, comments, concerns.  Wish you the best of luck. 


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Read the book....Emotional Survival For Law Enforcement By Kevin M. Gilmartin, Ph.D.



 

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I can't really offer advise yet but I can Welcome both of you to Policelink from Indiana


" The things you want are always possible: it is just that the way to get them is not always apparent. The onle real obstacle in your path to fulfilling life is you, and that can be a considerable obstacle because you carry the baggage of insecurities and past experiance" Les Brown

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Congrats to you both.  BUMP all the good stuff here!  These ladies and gentlemen know their stuff...

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I have to concur with some of the ladies wise posts on this subject.Doesn't matter wheather he's a Police Officer or not,he should always be ready willing and able to accept his duty to tend to your cares and desires.Marraige MUST be a partnership if it is to succeed.Biblically speaking God made man the head of the family,NOT the dictator. 

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Kristin, reading your post caused me to reflect on both my own career and my relationship with my wife as it relates to my choice of careers.  It also caused me to be reminded of a DRAGNET episode where a veteran officer and his rookie partner are shot.  One dies and the other survives.  The dialog between the two wives while in the hospital and the attitudes of both is specifically what I remember.  While this may be a dramatization played out by actors, it was also taken from the real files of the LAPD and reflects the reality of what the officer and spouse may go through in a worst case scenario.  It is very sobering to say the least.  I included the link to the episode on hulu . com.  I suggest that you watch it and then ask if you are really ready for what lies ahead as the wife of a police officer.  As others have mentioned, it is very important to comunicate and support him.  It is important that you know that there may be some things that he may not be able to talk to you about and will require your understanding.  It cetainly isn't as easy as some might want to believe.  That being said, I wish the two of you luck.


hulu. com/watch/55230/dragnet-personnel-the-shooting#s-p6-so-i0


by the way........ it is season 4 episode 1 Personnell: The Shooting

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Welcome to the site and good luck on your upcoming nuptuals!


First off, that's cool you and your fiance are able to work....I recently halted my relationship (it was long distant) because academy has been my main focus and it's extremely important that I am able to become a cop. Ours ended because we would only text throughout the day and maybe we'd have a phone call once a week because of our schedules. I couldn't give my bf the attention he wanted so I called it off because I can't afford any distractions outside of what I'm pursuing. I also work part time to put myself through it and also volunteer at the juvenile hall so I'm a busybody and I like it that way....unfortunately, such a schedule comes with a price and I'm paying for it.


All I can suggest is when he comes home exhausted, it's not the time to demand him to do the dishes. Just give him a big hug and kiss because he'll really appreciate it! I absolutely love coming home from class and snuggling up to my dog.


Best of luck!!


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