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Uncle_sam_max50

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Hello all,


I need some guidance here. I have a strong possiblity of getting hired with an agency that is about two hours away from where i live now. My wife drives 30 minutes the opposite direction for work. She works for a school district and really has to work the full school year. If this agency winds up hiring me then I need to go. Has anyone ever encountered this situation before. If so how did you manage it. Thanks for any input.  

Newpatch_sq90_max50

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What exactly is your question?


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White_shirt_max50

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Are you making a statement?

Uncle_sam_max50

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i guess i need to clarify the question. Has anybody else been in a situation where you had to live apart from your spouse for work reasons and what kind of stress does that put on a marriage? sorry for the confusion.


My wife and I are talking about it but I'd like to hear from anyone who has went through this situation.

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Why live apart? can't you drive the 2 hours?


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My Lt. Col drives 2  hrs one way to get to work everyday. He wouldn't change it for the world. Been married many many years and still refers to his wife as his bride. (they are a nice couple)


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I think making the drive is going to be necessary.  I am going to be attending the academy next month and it is about 1.5 hours from my house (that's with no traffic).  I've also been told by many officers that it is nice to live a bit removed from the community you police in because they find it unsettling when they are out with their family and the person they arrested a few days ago approaches them and asks "Hey aren't you the cop that arrested me?".  The distance might be difficult but it might be good too. 


 


Remember, I'm a pre-rookie so take that in to consideration.  There are a lot of experienced people on this site who can give you a better insight.


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Holy story problem Batman! This is like High School math all over again!!


One train going 55 mph on the southbound tracks with 187 cars passes another train going 34 mph on the northbound tracks with 235 cars at 0942 hrs. What time does the dog need to eat his dinner?

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Just drive the 2 hours....................

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If driving the 2 hours is a problem, then figure out who would be making more money, and the other apply for another job in that area.

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Don't know if you own, rent or what, by maybe move to where you each had about a 75 minute drive, if you're not up to the 2 hr each way communte (and a surprising number of people do a 2 hr or more commute).

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mkiprotection says ...



Holy story problem Batman! This is like High School math all over again!!


One train going 55 mph on the southbound tracks with 187 cars passes another train going 34 mph on the northbound tracks with 235 cars at 0942 hrs. What time does the dog need to eat his dinner?



 


 


hahahahahahaha!!!!!!! nice.


Just drive, or get another job?  I just moved to the DC area and everyone here drives their life away....... it's normal to drive a couple hours one-way every day.  Make sure you love your vehicle :-)

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Another option is to make "friends" quickly so you may have a place to "stay" on those nights where you just won't be able to make it home OR you have court the next morning.  Another option is to find a "cheap" apartment for those night where you can't make it home (i.e. too tired) for whatever reason and depending on how your schedule works out (some departments have 12 hour days) so your time away from home could actually be less.


My suggestion would be to wait and find out if the department hires you. . . .if they do, what kind of schedules do they put out there. . . and then you might find your decision process much easier than worrying now about something you have no control over


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 I drive two hours to work everyday. The only thing I don't is the traffic.

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most cops live apart anyway we work mids and weekends and holidays. you forget togethor ness when you become a cop. Get a prius and a pack of cigs and enjoy the drive. Your working!

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I have lived in the same town I police in for 30 years.  Never had an issue.  See people I have arrested all the time.  They are usually polite, and have never bee rude. I treat people, even bad guys with respect, therefore, I receive respect in return.  The really bad ones are locked up, and the ones that got out, didn't move back to town for the most part.  To me this was never an issue.  My kids went to school in this community, and never got harassed or anything. I think you might be over reacting just a little bit.


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JIMROC says ...



I have lived in the same town I police in for 30 years.  Never had an issue.  See people I have arrested all the time.  They are usually polite, and have never bee rude. I treat people, even bad guys with respect, therefore, I receive respect in return.  The really bad ones are locked up, and the ones that got out, didn't move back to town for the most part.  To me this was never an issue.  My kids went to school in this community, and never got harassed or anything. I think you might be over reacting just a little bit.



Bump Jim ! Just change it to 23 yrs as a probation/parole office and I could say the same thing !


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