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Posted over 4 years ago

 

Ladies &/or Gentlemen,


What is the hardest obstacle that you have had to overcome so far in your law enforcement career? 


If you are out to describe the truth, leave elegance to the tailor.
--Albert Einstein

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Dealing with arrested family members has been the hardest for me. You have to remain professional because you have a job to do.

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watching my fellow officers make bone headed decisions and mistakes in the heat of the moment and losing there careers.

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The hardest thing I had to overcome was dealing with a sexist pig of a LT. I hurt his ego when I defended myself after he asked if I was a lesbian. After that he made my life a living hell at the PD. He made up charges on me and because of that I had to take a polygraph (which i passed) and clear my name. As soon as I got my name cleared I went  across the Texas Panhandle to another agency. I couldnt be happier now.

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In this time, It has become hard for the old old school officers to realize that female officers are need in this profession.  I am blessed that I work with two female patrol officers, Id rather them back me then some of the male officers I have had in the past.  I'm proud to work with female officers.  There are alot of times that female officers got a quicker outcome/ response than a male officer.  It's the presences I guess.  But I will say, the man in me still watches her back and wants to protect her, even though I know she can do it without a male officer.  Its a hard habit to break.  


Deputy Tony Tullos
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Denton, Denton County, Texas

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im waiting to hear if yr a lesbian.


 


seriously, i hope you filed a grievance against the lt and that is clearly sexual harrassment and you should have addressed that because ya know if he did it to you he will do it to someone else. The way it ended up you had to leave. There is no reason for you to leave if your the victime of harrrassment. The harrasser needs to leave.

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rickm says ...



im waiting to hear if yr a lesbian.


 


seriously, i hope you filed a grievance against the lt and that is clearly sexual harrassment and you should have addressed that because ya know if he did it to you he will do it to someone else. The way it ended up you had to leave. There is no reason for you to leave if your the victime of harrrassment. The harrasser needs to leave.



im waiting to hear if yr a lesbian...................Rickm didn't really mean that of course - he's been on med changes with his surgeries and stuff..............RICKM - shame shame and a smack on the hand.........your good hand, wouldn't want to harass your bad hand. 


It is what it is.............and.........these things too shall pass.

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Being a single father the hardest thing to overcome for me is balancing work and kids, somewhere i try to squeeze in a girlfriend and her children too. It does help out though that i have a great woman that i am seeing who understands my job and lifestyle.

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I am not in LE yet, but I do think about how I will be able to balance work and a boyfriend in the future. I am not in a relationship right now, and I wonder if I will ever have to decide between LE and having a boyfriend. I hope not. If it ever comes to that, sorry guys, my mind is made up.

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AshleyG15 says ...



I am not in LE yet, but I do think about how I will be able to balance work and a boyfriend in the future. I am not in a relationship right now, and I wonder if I will ever have to decide between LE and having a boyfriend. I hope not. If it ever comes to that, sorry guys, my mind is made up.



Oh to be young and worrying only about how to balence a boyfriend....lol. Not down playing your concerns, think its cute. Wait till you have to balence work, spouse, child, step children, extra jobs, maintaining a house, money, etc.........(i could go on and on) 


If you ever have to decide b/w a boyfriend and LE - go with LE.......if he can't accept and support your career, he's not a catch anyway, so throw him back.


Per the original post, the hardest obstacle I have had to face is dealing with the horrific things we see, dealing with the POS we deal with on a daily basis and then going home and trying to TURN OFF the cop switch.....

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cute? =0) els98, I completely agree. If I ever decide to date and he cant deal with my career choice, I will show him the door. As it is right now I am balancing work, helping my mom (she is disabled), and taking care of my grandfather (he has Parkinson's), and helping a friend plan her June wedding. I know all that pales in comparison to everything all of you in LE face everyday, but for me right now, it's enough. The way I look at it, where I am in my life right now is good training for everything I will have to handle in the future. I know life will become more challenging, but I am always up for a challenge.

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Getting used to being politically correct and taking care of my officers at the same time as I moved up to second line managment positions in Federal law enforcement.

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How does someone turn off the "Cop Switch"? Do you think that the number of years a person is in LE and the time it takes everyday to turn off the "Cop Switch" are inversely proportionate?

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The hardest thing i've had to overcome has been arresting friends or people i've known in the past. Never an easy task but right is right and wrong is wrong and I'm a firm believer in integrity.

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AshleyG15 says ...



How does someone turn off the "Cop Switch"? Do you think that the number of years a person is in LE and the time it takes everyday to turn off the "Cop Switch" are inversely proportionate?



Think it depends on the individual. I'm working on my 6th year in LE (still just a rookie to many here on PLink, yet basically an ol'timer on my department) and I can say without hesitation, it takes longer and longer to turn off the switch when I get home. My daughter (12) is constantly telling me to "chill" - lol.


With all we see in LE, we can't help but take it home and become over protective with our families. I refer to my life prior to LE as living in a bubble. I was ignorant as to EVERYTHING that went on around me. It can be frustrating because family member still live in that bubble. You can tell them all the stories in the world, but they still don't quite get what your saying about the dangers that literally lurk around the next corner.

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 A good way to keep from getting jaded, is when you do get that call because a civilian stopped and helped a lost child, or a civilian went out of their way at a car accident or just plan go out of there way. (Replace civilian with military member for me) Sometimes- although rarely you are reminded there are good honest people still out there, and relish in that and remember that. 


Hardest thing for me. I don't know yet. I am my own worst enemy. I second guess myself all the time. I don't have any attachments ( such as kids or spouse or boyfriend) so my spare time is free usually. 


I have a hard time letting things go, I know you can't save them all, help or solve every problem. That does get to me sometimes.


Oh and MUD, i can't stand mud....