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Poll: What if your Child or other loved one is accused of a terrible crime?

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I wanted to pose this question, Cop first or family first?

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Why do you ask ?


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TheSarge says ...

Why do you ask ?


 


 


I am just curious how a Police Officer balances his family obligations when they may conflict with his duties as a police Officer.

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 The Wichita PD really seems to push you to put your family first. I've heard alot of officers tell me this, you put your family first because this is only a job, and don't let it get to your head. 

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If my family steps in their junk, so to speak, then don't come to me to get out of trouble.  My famiily just like everyone else needs to take responsibilty for their own actions.  Yeah I would help but I wouldn't get my butt in a sling over it.


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If I am by myself and I encounter an "off-duty" incident that may require that I act, that's one thing.  How-ever, if I happen to be with my family (especially my kids), I have to take into consideration and ensure their safety first.


If you are asking with regards to trouble my family members may get themselves into, I can tell you that I would likely do the same things that my parents did.  They warned me that if the police ever came looking for me for something that I had done, they would let the police take me and they would not (as an adult) bail me out.  My family members know better than to bring up the "my son/brother/husband/dad is a cop" card.  Allowing my kids to act in ways inappropriate or otherwise illegal would indicate that I am not acting properly as a father.  Certainly, as a father, I don't want to see my kids get into trouble or get hurt.  But if my kids are doing things that I would be arresting someone else's kids for, I guess then it sucks to be my kids as I will teach them responsibility and accountability for their actions.

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Depends on how close a family member?  I have arrested kin before and will do it again if necessary.


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IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................

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i had a cousin that was a deputy sheriff that hollered at his brother as he was stealing a TV set from a store the brother didnt stop he told him to stop again and shot him in the leg the only one in his family that was not mad at him was the one he shot.


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K9_4_life says ...



IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................


 


Not intended to be, I am just seeking guidance from LEOS who have been there and done that.


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K9_4_life says ...



IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................


 


Not intended to be, I am just seeking guidance from LEOS who have been there and done that.




You may not intend it to be "trollish" but this is a loaded question. As Sarge asked earlier, why ask this? You state you are "seeking guidance from LEOs who have been there and done that." Why do you need this particular guidance?


Besides the question being a little off, you do realize that you are asking a LEO to possibly compromise him or herself? You might as well ask a question like "Which one of your children do you love more?" on a site that their children visit.

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SeanJon says ...



erosson27 says ...



K9_4_life says ...



IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................


 


Not intended to be, I am just seeking guidance from LEOS who have been there and done that.




You may not intend it to be "trollish" but this is a loaded question. As Sarge asked earlier, why ask this? You state you are "seeking guidance from LEOs who have been there and done that." Why do you need this particular guidance?


Besides the question being a little off, you do realize that you are asking a LEO to possibly compromise him or herself? You might as well ask a question like "Which one of your children do you love more?" on a site that their children visit.



I suppose I had not thought of it that way, I am considering a career as a LEO and was curious.

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SeanJon says ...



erosson27 says ...



K9_4_life says ...



IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................


 


Not intended to be, I am just seeking guidance from LEOS who have been there and done that.




You may not intend it to be "trollish" but this is a loaded question. As Sarge asked earlier, why ask this? You state you are "seeking guidance from LEOs who have been there and done that." Why do you need this particular guidance?


Besides the question being a little off, you do realize that you are asking a LEO to possibly compromise him or herself? You might as well ask a question like "Which one of your children do you love more?" on a site that their children visit.



I've pointed this out before and am sure I will again.  Anything posted on a public site is admissable in court against the character of the officer.  An LA County S.O. news letters from 05/27/09 brings out a case where an NYPD officer's character was brought up during a trial due to what he had posted on his FB.  Brady v Maryland and Tennison v San Francisco are case law on it.  Think before you post.


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twoliver says ...



SeanJon says ...



erosson27 says ...



K9_4_life says ...



IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................


 


Not intended to be, I am just seeking guidance from LEOS who have been there and done that.




You may not intend it to be "trollish" but this is a loaded question. As Sarge asked earlier, why ask this? You state you are "seeking guidance from LEOs who have been there and done that." Why do you need this particular guidance?


Besides the question being a little off, you do realize that you are asking a LEO to possibly compromise him or herself? You might as well ask a question like "Which one of your children do you love more?" on a site that their children visit.



I've pointed this out before and am sure I will again.  Anything posted on a public site is admissable in court against the character of the officer.  An LA County S.O. news letters from 05/27/09 brings out a case where an NYPD officer's character was brought up during a trial due to what he had posted on his FB.  Brady v Maryland and Tennison v San Francisco are case law on it.  Think before you post.


 


Thanks for the advice, i really would hate for someone to misread something I post and have that be a factor when I apply for the Academy.  I was only asking because I was curious and did not mean to make anyone think I am trying to make problems. 


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twoliver says ...



SeanJon says ...



erosson27 says ...



K9_4_life says ...



IMHO that is another of a recent spate of trollish questions........................


 


Not intended to be, I am just seeking guidance from LEOS who have been there and done that.




You may not intend it to be "trollish" but this is a loaded question. As Sarge asked earlier, why ask this? You state you are "seeking guidance from LEOs who have been there and done that." Why do you need this particular guidance?


Besides the question being a little off, you do realize that you are asking a LEO to possibly compromise him or herself? You might as well ask a question like "Which one of your children do you love more?" on a site that their children visit.



I've pointed this out before and am sure I will again.  Anything posted on a public site is admissable in court against the character of the officer.  An LA County S.O. news letters from 05/27/09 brings out a case where an NYPD officer's character was brought up during a trial due to what he had posted on his FB.  Brady v Maryland and Tennison v San Francisco are case law on it.  Think before you post.



Thank you for expanding on the point I was making with such detail. I'm also glad you could cite the specific case. Everyone stay smart and be aware of the repercussions of your posts...

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erosson27 says ...



TheSarge says ...

Why do you ask ?


 


 


I am just curious how a Police Officer balances his family obligations when they may conflict with his duties as a police Officer.


Your poll title, thread title and this comment are all completely different.  I burned a lot of vacation time attending to family obligations as well as having worked night for pushing thirty years.


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Can't replace your family you can replace your job.