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Been reading the threads here, and one of the things that seems to keep happening is when someone writes something in jest, but it is taken seriously by others, who become offended.

One of the difficulties of this kind of communication is that you get NO non-verbal clues-- no facial expressions, no emphasis, no sly grins, nothing. Just the words.

If somebody says something outrageous, it's good to consider the possibility that they are kidding around. Humor is important everywhere, and it is especially important in high-stress sorts of jobs, like law enforcement. Cop humor is often not "politically correct"-- but then, they are subjected to all sorts of situations and human behavior that is also not politically correct, so it shouldn't come as a surprise that they make light of it as a coping method.

Someone once remarked to me, in a disapproving voice, "Cops! They are hard people!"

I told her, these "hard people" are hard on the outside, because they need to be-- they deal with hard things. But they are soft on the inside. They would come and try to rescue you if someone was invading your home, because they think you shouldn't stand alone if something like that happens to you. There are all sorts of soft, friendly, polite people in the world who would let you stand alone and would not lift a finger to help you.

I say, give me the "hard people" any day!

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Welcome back Chaplain how was it? (From your psycho friend => )

I agree with you when joking around people need to learn how to read the quotes, smiles and if need be add a smiley here and there. When I had to take my writing class we where taught to read through the lines and see what people are really trying to say. I see how people can get offended but at the same time you can see the jokes. As far as I’m concerned people just need to look at things in a different way. i.e. you really don’t know whose on the other line so why let them under your skin. I’ve seen people come in make one post get down graded and they never come back. So I also believe that we need some smiles or just us some anyways =>


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What criteria is being used to judge someone as being overly sensitive (gender, title?). I agree there are no visual clues to how the statements are being given or taken. Minimizing and denying that some things are just not appropriate only satisfies the person who may be being inappropriate. Just because someone is a police officer and physically strong and exposed to much, doesn't mean they are emotionally unfeeling (the good ones anyway). Some people only care about the people they feel add to their power and don't care about how they treat other people. Some of this stuff is funny but some is just inappropriate.

Again communication involves letting other people be right also. No one has infinite wisdom, we can all learn something from each other.
None of what I just wrote was meant to offend anyone. It was meant to let others have an opinion.


In like manner the spirit also joins in with help for our weakness, for the problem of what we should pray for as we need to we do not know but the spirit itself pleads for us with groanings uttered.

No man serving as a soldier involves himself in the commercial businesses of life, in order that he may gain the approval of the one who enrolled him as a soldier. 5. Moreover, if anyone conten

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That’s what I like about this website, is the things we can learn from others... For me it’s helped with my schooling and my future career...


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This website is interesting.


In like manner the spirit also joins in with help for our weakness, for the problem of what we should pray for as we need to we do not know but the spirit itself pleads for us with groanings uttered.

No man serving as a soldier involves himself in the commercial businesses of life, in order that he may gain the approval of the one who enrolled him as a soldier. 5. Moreover, if anyone conten

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yea 'and i like playing frog baseball !

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i guess i just dont understand why anyone would take something the wrong way, unless some one knows you or your character.every one seems to take offence at every little thing, to the point that if i was to really say what was on my mind i think alot of people would sit at there pc and cry. live a little, I allow any comment that is thrown my way to go in one ear and out the other..but im going to start to say what is really on mind. i dont understand why anyone bothers to post if they are going to start off with i agree with_______ if you dont have an orignal opinion why bother.. too many people just want to fill up their friends list.if you have something to say say it.

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chappy is a cop so if you are going to identify your self with' from you psyco friend ',you might want to narrow the field even more..

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chappy, this thread sounds like it was tailor maid with someone in mind, could you say what made you start this thread , just wondering?

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ODIN: I knew some of your character before being offended from reading other posts. I'm not letting it linger. Insults make people angry or upset. You can't change that. You sound like your offended.

No ulterior reason I was wondering if you got the post in warm and fuzzy thoughts on sleep apnea.


In like manner the spirit also joins in with help for our weakness, for the problem of what we should pray for as we need to we do not know but the spirit itself pleads for us with groanings uttered.

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no i didnt get the post on sleep apnea. your right on me being offended. you must really kow my charater, damn your good.

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LOL, Thanks Odin! Being a smart ass as I was told I think like one..... =>


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i think there is a web site that starts out with, ;HI IM A PROFESSIONAL VICTIM' or, JUST BECAUSE IM A PARANOID SCHITZO DOSE NOT MEAN EVERY BODY ISNT OUT TO GET ME.!!

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yes i hear voices in my head and i think they are telling me to do bad things, but they are from mexico, and i dont speak spanish.

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Perhaps we should start putting the gay little smileys on posts, so people don't get all butt-hurt.

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THATS WHAT IM SCREAMING!!!

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or start every post with the' im not trying to hurt enyones feelings" and im not refering to anyone in here.

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Oh great now IM GAY! lol hell we have to put in the quotes and stuff or everything we say will be offensive...


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and it is alright to be gay if you are a girl.

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number one thing of beauty on the planet is the female form, next is a horse.

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LMFAO WOO HOOOOO!


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and if your a girl ridding a horse with a southern accent and gay , you just cant get better.

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No Clover...you aren't gay :)

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:D LOL.... Just a GIRL though? Not a woman? Huh now Im feeling hurt....


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Omy... You know what we all need and thats some form of IM, instead of posting like this... LOL


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or start a new thread thats for bullshitting only

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That works! Ready! Ill post it :D


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You can PM on the site, ya' know.

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Yea but what fun would that be?


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I dunno'...

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