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I have recently lost two people with in days of each other.. My ex-father in law, who I was very close to lost him to heart disease and pulmonary fibrosis. That was one of the worst things I have ever been through to see a parent suffer for so long and pass away.. And a very good friend of mine to breast cancer.. Its been a rough year.. I wish everyone luck and support..Take care

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Lots my Mother when I was 14. She had a Cerebral Brain Hemmorrhage and one minute she was here and the next was gone. At least I can find comfort in knowing she did not suffer. Still I wish she could have gotten the chance to meet her Granddaughter.

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I lost my Mother who was a Police Officer to Cancer in 2001. She was diagnosed with wagoneersgranularmonutosis in 1983. They gave her 6 months to live... we were blessed to have her until 2001. Rest in Peace Momma.... I will see you again in Heaven.... You can rest now... weve got it taken care of down here


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RIP MOM... SEE YOU IN HEAVEN!

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I lost my Great-Grandmother in 2007 from complications from a fall. She was born in 1910. I can only think of how much history she had seen and been a part of. Grandmother . . . we will meet again in Heaven.

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I lost good friends in 2006. One was a 20 YO lost to stupidity with alcohol and a self inflicted gun wound. Another was a 20 YO lost to a head on collision by an intoxicated 15 year old with an SUV


May they lay their heads down in peace


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I lost my stepfather in 2000, my father in 2005, and my grandfather in 2007.  I am third generation law enforcement; my father and grandfather served with honor and retired from law enforcement after many years.  My stepfather always wanted to be a law enforcement officer, but for some reason he never pursued it.  He did, however, get me my start in law enforcement at the age of 19 by helping me find a dispatch / jailer position to fill until I was 21.


My father was in poor health, this was an aggravating factor in his retirement. He had diabetes and subsequently lost both legs to the condition.  This placed him into a deep depression from which he never really recovered.  His death was sudden: I was preparing to go to work (I was in the Investigations Division then) when my grandfather called.  I could barely understand him through the tears. He didn't have to say anything: I knew only one thing would elicit that response from him.  Due to the unexpected nature of my father's death, there were so many things that were left unsaid.  To say I regret this would be an enormous understatement.  I did my father's eulogy at his funeral; this was, by far, the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life.  His death came less than a month before his only granddaughter, who he never got to see.


With my grandfather's death especially, it made me notice something.  All of the awards / accolades he received, all of the cases he cleared, all of the rank he attained didn't matter when polycystic kidney disease became terminal.  He didn't speak much of the positives I just mentioned, but he did wish that he had spent more time with his family when he was in active service and not be so fixated on the job.


This is excellent advice for all LEO's.  We have a tendency to get consumed by the job and make it our primary focus.  You can still do the job exceptionally well without putting your family out of the picture.  In the end, don't have the same regret my grandfather did. 

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I too have lost many that were dear but I like to recall the words if a  very close friend the Reverend George Hoeflinger, now hinself passed on, at the funeral of another friend.


" Death is like a ships voyage, you stand on the dock waving good bye and wishing they were not leaving and as the ship pulls away you wave and lip I love you, you watch as that ship sails away until it disappears over the horizon then saddly say she is gone not realizing that on the otherside of that horizon is another group eagerly waiting her arrival so they can see their friends and loved ones again"


What a great day when we are all together aand restored!


T.G.G.
Bless our fallen brothers and sisters!
"Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.” (Plato)

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I just lost my Dad, He had been to hell and back, Lost my Mom 15 yrs ago. Lost friends on 9-11-01.


I know we all have felt loss but we have been lucky enough to feel the love of these loved ones. Think about those that were never lucky enough to meet them.                         God Bless and may the all Rest in Peace.

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Sheesh! Where to start without "loosing it".


I lost my mother 1979. She was an instructor of Air Corp cadets in Ohio during WW2. And only saw me as a rookie in LE. Little did she know I would be a Cap someday!


I lost my dad in 2006. WW2 Vet in Africa (90 years old). Only wish I had gotten more info about what that gig was like. They had to "pull the plug" (his wish) and I had them do it at exactly sunset March 1 2006.   I miss the hell out of him and find that I say a lot of things that he used to say!


I lost my cousin AND her husband on 9/11 Tower 2. That one really pissed me off! And her mother, my aunt, died from grief (I presume) about 6 months later.


Numerous cop friends through the years. But the worst was when my Dept had to investigate the high speed rear-ender that killed a very close DPS bud on the freeway in Tucson.


That's enough!  I will see them all again.


And people wonder why I have turned into a hermit, and trust no one!

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I lost one of my brother's to suicide Sept. 2007 and another brother in IRAQ in Jan. 08.  It has been over 1Yr. now and myself and my family will never be the same.  Everyday you hope it will get easier to deal with but the loss never goes away. 


My heart goes out to all who have lost loved ones, may God be with them and with you and your family.


 

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My 1st Wife Linda to Colon Cancer, January 5, 1997. My Grandfather (aka my Summertime Dad) in March, 1972. My Father passed away February 18th, 2008 at age 86. WWII Vet (Pearl Harbor Survivor).

In 1988, just befor I left Active Duty, my Platoon took part in a night time flight/training mission. I was asked to step down so that my senior team leader could take charge of the Squad (after all, he was going to take them over when I left). My squad was on one of the 2 Blackhawk Helicopters involved in a mid-air collision at Fort Campbell, Ky. None of them returned

Like most of us on here, I have lost too many to list. Their memory lives on in each of us. As long as we remember them in our hearts, they wil never be truly gone.


 


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I lost one of my brother's to suicide Sept. 2007 and another brother in IRAQ in Jan. 08.  It has been over 1Yr. now and myself and my family will never be the same.  Everyday you hope it will get easier to deal with but the loss never goes away. 


My heart goes out to all who have lost loved ones, may God be with them and with you and your family.


 



Doug, the pain will never go away. It's not suppose to. In time, it will be easier to deal with. Don't ever let anyone tell you "You'll get over it", because you won't. Keep the Faith, stay strong. We are here for you, as we are here for each other. We will see our loved ones again, in the blink of an eye.


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I lost my husband, Chief Terry E. HolcomB to  suicide August of 2000.  I know your pain first hand.  He was only 32.    I miss my best friend !!!!    My life has not been the same since. I did remarry,  but he cheated, we worked things out, and right now he's telling me that we need to seperate again  or divorce.  My wole world is crumbeling in on me.  I don't now what to do.  Seems that since I can't work , due to a lower back injury I suffered in a car accident, where he was the driver, I'm not bringing in a paycheck and he's pissed that he's not getting the extra money and has to " SUPPORT MY ASS"     

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I lost my  husband in the line of duty in 1992 at the age of 30.  Since then, I have lost both my birth and adopted mothers, my adopted father, my husband's father, mother, and sister, and an 18 year old nephew...that doesn't include aunts, uncles, or more extended family.  My husband was my best friend and he was killed three weeks before our 13th anniversary.  Although I miss all those I have lost, no one will ever be able to fill the void his death has left in my life.

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I have lost several people close to me over the years including my mother.  We all know death is something we must face and go through, but that doesn't make the transition any easier.  You never get over losing someone, you just learn to bear it.  My relationship with God is what has gotten me through and I am so thankful for that.  Lets pray for one another!

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I lost my Father in 2001, He was a true Hero to me. I have lived my life as he did his, Then I lost my older Brother in 2006. He had lung cancer but thats not what he died from. After they stopped the cancer growth in his lung they found out he had a heart trouble and was unable to get his heart strong enough to do surgery. He passed away very peacefuly sitting in his recliner at home no signs of any distress at all the tv remote was right next to his hand on the arm of the chair. I miss them so much but they are both watching over me everyday. I Love you Daddy and Jerry

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I just lost my best friend/ex fiance on Feb 15 2009.  He lived in his home town and I live here in Corpus Christi so I can go to school and get my Peace Officers License. He called me about 1615 and told me he was going to hang out with his buddy Chessnut and Ryan, and that he loved me and he would call me after he gets back home. He left his house and was pronouced dead 10 minutes after we got off the phone. He was going too fast around a turn and over compensated and crashed his car. He died instantly so he didnt suffer. Its hard cause I have never lost anyone that was that close to me. So i am not sure exactly how to go about handling this. Its hard. I miss him more and more everyday. There isn nothing that i do in a day that doesnt make me think of him. I miss you and love you Jerry, more than you will know.


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Both my Grandfathers passed by 1984, paternal died in his sleep @ age 76 maternal @ 80 to diabities. My Paternal Grandmother's passing was a tougher one. In 1999 my parents, me and my brother went to India . My brother was to be engaged on March 12th, 1999. On March 11th in the evening my Grandma fell violently ill and died within minutes. She was not mentally well , and had been on medication. In India it's custom to pray by the corpse for a period of 2 days. On the fateful night, my bro and I came back to my Grandmas house to find her on giant slabs of ice with many relatives around. The most difficult part for me was watching my otherwise angry father bawl like a baby. He didn't speak for near a week, and hardly ate. My Maternal Grandmother passed October 11th, 2002  one day before my b-day..and 20 years to the day of the passing of her Husband....she was 86. My eldest Aunt, on my Mother's  side died January 2007, complications in surgery. The one that sits with me to this day  is the loss of a friend. Nupur Srivastava. On April 3rd 2007, her abusive boyfriend (now serving a 45 year sentence for her death) doused her in gasoline and lit her on fire. She suffered 3rd degree burns on 80% of her body, and went into a coma for 2 months before passing. Please read one of the news articles on her death here: http://www.wthr.com/global/story.asp?S=6520396. My thoughts and prayers go out to all that have suffered the loss of someone close to them.


When my life has ended..And my time has run out
My friends and my loved ones..I'll leave there's no doubt
But one thing's for certain...When it comes my time
I'll leave this old world...With a satisfied mind

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I lost a good friend almost 6 years ago in a car accident. Even though it has been almost 6 years I still have days when it gets to me. He was only 16 years old, he hadn't had a chance to live his life yet and he was taken

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Fireball32, my prayers are with you.  Losing a love one is never easy; you never get over it.....you just learn to cope.  Death is something we all must face, but  that doesn't make losing someone any easier.  I lost my mother when I was 16 years old (that was the hardest thing to deal with).  In February I lost my nephew, and this afternoon I am heading to Arkansas because my best friend's 5 year old daughter passed away.  It's hard to deal with, but God knows best.

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Your friend will always be with you.  My 5 year old god-daughter, was killed in an auto accident Saturday.....that's a great loss that we will never get over, but we will get through it.


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I lost a good friend almost 6 years ago in a car accident. Even though it has been almost 6 years I still have days when it gets to me. He was only 16 years old, he hadn't had a chance to live his life yet and he was taken

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I lost my 4 month old son Conner. 7 months ago after being on life support for almost 3 full days (64 hours) I had to make the hardest decision all by myself to let him go home to be with the Lord. Why this happened? I dont have the answer. but I believe that god allowed this to happen so I could help others... Does it bother me taht this was all so sinceless? Yes. Does it kill me every day walking past his room? Yes. Do I have times when I want to hate God for allowing this? Yes. Every day! 



You have my deepest condolences. Stay Strong!!!!


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Death is difficult to deal with. Lost dad in 1984 (age 59) mom 1991 (age 61) the tough one was my sister Julie who the angles came for 9 years ago at the young age of 46. My condolences to  those that posted. May God watch over your loved ones.

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I lost my grandfather when I was 16. It was one of the worst days in my life. I not only lost my grandfather but also my best friend. RIP Pepaw. <3


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I lost my dad on Jan 2 2011 at age 71. He was a Army vet. and was in Vietnam in 1969 and survived to come home and die from it all these yeaars later.   Rest in peace POPS!