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Thank you NYPDALT and I tell my story so that others may know they need not be trapped in their past but make the choice to accept the truth instead of the lies and manipulation told them by their perp/s.....and for those who put their lives on the line everyday for the welfare of others and may wonder "Does it really make a difference....is anyone really paying attention or listening..."


Take care - Be safe -  Be strong


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Sherry - WOW.  What a life you have lived and what a life you have probably changed.  Us LEO's often run across the scum of the scum and pleasure strikes when we can take action.  Your story reminds me that there are decent people out there that, although they have had an ugly (to say the least) past, can move on and promote happiness and life in themselves and others.  In your profession and mine, we do all we can to observe the problem, remove it and help with making it better.  We both know, of all people, that we cannot change a person.  That it is the person who must change themselves.  Looks like you did so at a young young age and I commend you for your pursuit of the good life!  God bless you, your family and your friends.  I am proud to have met you and learned your story.

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Thank you for your response Cimmer and for the work yourself and others do in the protection and safety of children....from teaching in the community and schools to the arrest of those who harm children.


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Sherry, I'm at a loss for words.....WOW.....just doesn't seem to be enough. After all these years, there just isn't much that amazes me anymore. Until I met you! It is a privilege to meet you and I'm honored to have you for a friend. May God continue to bless you and keep you! And enfold you and your family in the mantle of His love. You're one fantastic person.  John


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WOW........I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND HOW PEOPLE CAN BE SO CRUEL TO A CHILD, YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN THANK YOU FOR SHARING THAT....JARROD

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Thank you E25_LSP and JETT5056 for your comments.


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Sherry I just want to thank you for having the courage to move on and to do what you are doing. It had to take a lot of courage to share your story here and for that I thank you also.


I work crimes against children and have seen some terrible things that people have done to these innocent children. I usually don't get the opportunity to know what becomes of these children in the long run, but it is encouraging to know that some can use the terrible things that have happened to them to help others.


I just want to say keep up the good work and may God bless you.


 


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Thank you  most sincerely AJ and for your work with children...it does make a difference.


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Sherry,


When I received the opportunity of becoming your friend on Police Link, it never hit me up front how much this friendship of yours would come to mean to me in such a short time. After reading your story "The Listening Ears of Children", it struck me deep inside and awakened each of my five senses more realistically than anything that I've ever read from a victim that chose to be an ultimate survivor, as you chose to be. In life when we meet with opposition, with setback, with pain "Mentally and Physically" we make one of two choices, first to adapt and overcome, or secondly, to drown ourselves in sorrow, medicines and ongoing therapy; in your case, you chose the ultimate, to adapt, and overcome. The way you overcame is a one in a million stories of reality. Out here in our society, with all of the perverted sickness of so many it is a challenge to keep your child safe, secure and normal. In my early years in the field of Law Enforcement, I found myself asking God a lot of questions of why? Why do people, especially children have to endure so much awful pain, agony, abuse and mistreatment by so many. God made the best human being in a child...they truly do no harm to people but many do so much terrible harm to them. I have only one child, a girl, and she is now eighteen (18) and just the other day she told me something that touched my heart in all the right places, she said: "Dad, thanks for being such a Daddy hen when I was young"! At the time when she was very young, ages 1 through 13, I would not take anything for granted...I never let her out of my sight...I never got too lazy to take her someplace, to meet her at the bus stop or put her on a bus. I never let her go off with any family until I spent time around them myself. I always kept her by my side, played with her outside, took her every place that I went, and always stopped what I was doing to communicate with her, talk and listen to her untiringly. Today it has paid off. She is in college majoring in Computer Forensics. I was always a single father from the time she was a one year old. She is my heartbeat of America. She is also a member of Police Link.


My heart goes out for you, in each phase of your life since that horrific macabre time in your life that you willingly shared with us here. I can't say everything that I'd love to, as it is so hard to understand why you and so many like you have to live through these periods in your life. My only answer that I have gotten from God in prayer is that a purpose is specifically designed in your life for the ones that have and will need you, and your strength of support in their life whereas they will not have to choose the latter, and get on depression drugs, and stay in mental wards and the like. You are an Angel, sent here by God himself and what you've managed to accomplish through choice and the strength of God, is second to nobody. I am so proud of you, and value more than words can ever begin to tell, your friendship on PL. God keep you tenderly in his grace, mercy and care, and hold you in the palms of his hands now and forever. You will make a great LEO or whatever capacity you choose in your future. Thanks for being my friend, and especially for opening my heart and eyes to another truth about the pitfalls of growing up in a world gone awry.


I am sharing this poem that I wrote about a case I once helped to investigate, named Shelly. It has been around the Internet in various places. It doesn't have the ending that your life has from the abuse you sustained. God bless you Sherry, you are a Guardian Angel that chose not to be a "Victim", but a "Survivor". Michael.


 


My name is Shelly
 
              My eyes are filled with tears cause I’m only three
My eyes are always swollen, I somehow can’t see
Somehow I must be stupid, I must be very bad
What else could ever make my Daddy so mad?
 
I truly wish I were better, and wasn’t so ugly
Maybe then my Mommy would still want to hug me
I can hardly speak at all, how can I do a wrong
I’m somehow locked up, all the daylong
 
When I awake I’m here again and all alone
The house is dark and my folks aren’t home
When my Mommy does come, I’ll try and be nice
Then just maybe I’ll get just one whipping tonight
 
I’ll not make a sound I just heard a car
My Daddy is back again from Joes Bar
I hear him cursing my name I hear him call
I now press myself against the wall
 
I’m trying to hide from his evil eyes
I’m afraid now; I’m starting to cry
He’s found me weeping, shouts ugly words
He says it’s my fault that he suffers at work
 
He’s slapping me, hits me and yells at me more
 I finally got free as I run for the door
He’s already locked it as I start to bawl
       He suddenly takes me up and throws me against the wall
 
 
I just fell to the floor with my bones nearly broken
And my Daddy continues with more bad words spoken
I’m sorry I scream but it now much too late
His face is twisted into unimaginable hate
 
Now I’m hurting with pain, again and again
Oh please dear God have mercy on me
Please just let it end and Daddy finally stops
Then he heads for the door, I lay here motionless
 
I’m sprawled out on the hard wood floor
My name is Shelly I am but only three
Tonight my Daddy has “Murdered” me
Now I can get some peace I’m in heaven, I’m free!
 
 
© Copyrighted by: Michael Rayford Powell
Dedicated to: Children stuck in child abuse
 
 
***** I’m Against Child Abuse *****
***** Victims Do Have Rights *****

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Thank you for your very heartfelt respone trooperman911....I do not know what to say....except thank you for being  a LEO and the dedicattion and  service you brought and still bring in your community and for being such a dedicated, attentive and caring father to your little girl now grown. 


Please realize you need not feel sorry for me.....I am very much OK  and have been at peace with my past since it ended ...I saw the difference between the two worlds in childhood....it has taught me much.....and I seek to pass that on. 


Take care,


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Sherry, I have been a police officer for almost 30 years. I seen it all in those years but most of all I always prayed for the children and victims of those crimes. I've had to handle a case with a drunk boyfriend who beat his girlfriend's child to death and stated that the child fell out of the couch he was sleeping on. The two drop off the child lifeless body at the hospital and went to a community fair to drink and drugs. I also had to witness the M.E. cut this child like a piece of meat to determine the exact cause of death. I have seen the horrors that you speak of and I am proud to call you a friend , who stood by your beliefs and strengh to accomplish the things that you are doing. Keep the Faith and strengh to follow the path that you are traveling. The P/D you have your sights on will gain a great assest in hiring you.   Thanks for your story as this did bring a tear to me in thinking about all the victims in the world that are forgotten except but the Officers that have dealth with them.

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Thank you so much for those words, jwagse30.


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Thank you most sincerely LaDet, you have been so very supportive.


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Sherry,


Of all those I have come across you are the one I am most pleased to call friend here on PL. How we cope with adversity shapes us for a lifetime. You are a pillar of strength.  You have what most lack. Stand tall.


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Thank you for those words Sgt405 and especially your undaunted dedication and service to LE.


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Sherry, all I can say is wow. What a heart felt poem that trooperman911 wrote. jwagse30 sorry you had to see those sights but as a fellow L.E. I know that you wanted to be there to help this child by putting that piece of trash where he belonged. Thanks for your service.  It is a tragedy that children have to suffer so needlessly and that us Officers and health care professionals have to investigate and care for these battered children. If only people would wake up and see what they are doing to the poor battered child and to themselves. 


Drugs, alcohol and depravity they are tearing families apart and making this society a bad place to live and work. We need to push the legislation to make tougher laws for persons that are abusing and mistreating children. Yes I know we do have laws but how about life in prison or death for pediphiles and persons that harm children. Chidlren are truely innocent and need to be protected.


So many healthy children out there born to pieces of trash and there are so many people that can't have children and would love them but can't. Should have to have a license to have children like you need to to drive a car. Wouldn't tht be nice. LOL . Once again thank you Sherry for posting this way back when. You are a hero in my eyes. God bless and be safe.  


Bad stuff happens to good people, handle it and overcome.
My motto for life:
Let go and let GOD,
Only HE can control everything.

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gudercop I personally believe pedophiles should have life imprisonment.  To be able to look into the eyes of a child and commit these kinds of crimes.....that is a stone cold heart....they can wake up the next moring and go about their daily activities as if nothing happened...the heart of a sociopath.


Take care    Be safe     Stay strong


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WOW....


I am speachless. At first I was angry then sad while reading your story. After a moment of trying to clear my head, I realized I came across a 15 year old female student just the other day that told me of a story that is close to yours. She spoke of her mother being involved in Santanic worship. She painted me a vivid picture of a time that she was place on a blanket and stripped of her clothes at that time she was offered to the other worshipers as a sacrafice.(this was done at the age of 7 or 8) At first I I was not sure what to think. But after talking with her school counsoler I found out that what she told was true. I also tried to find any report to back up her story but have yet to find any police report. I did speak to DFACS and they did investigate. At the present time she is out of that home and has no contact with mom, I only hope my words and actions can give this young lady hope in the sasme manner that some gave to you.


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 Bulldog, thank you so much for sharing this story and I wish with all my heart I could sit with this young lady and visit with her. 


 You already have won her trust....you had to earn it before she ever spoke to you about her experience in SRA.  You have already reached her with your honesty and integrity....you have already gained her trust and respect....it is what she saw in you versus what she was going through that made the difference.  For her to trust an authority figure as yourself is an absolute credit to your compassion and teaching that you have shown her...professionalism...and I cannot say enough about the excellent character that you have shown this youth...she was not looking for “perfect” she was looking for “real”...she was looking for the truth when she had been told lies, manipulation and deceit...she understands that something was not right with that picture....people that are “OK” do not treat others as she was treated...you represented the good in society and she was living with evil...


 


This is why I wrote “The Listening Ears of Children”....she has been silently watching you and figuring you out for awhile....she has been comparing you to her abusers....she has been figuring out the difference....if you had been in any way the same she would have not have revealed anything to you.  You already had her trust before she told you a thing. Believe me...she did not tell before she trusted you.


It is most difficult for children to tell of any details of SRA as it is nearly impossible for the ordinary person to believe.  It is also extremely life threatening for a child to tell and then not be immediately rescued. 




Again, thank you for sharing a bit of her story....and most importantly... thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing the excellence of your character to a child who needed to see that in a way that no one can imagine unless you have been there.


Take care    Be safe    Stay strong


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Bulldog I thought at first you were perhaps a SRO who had met this youth in a school situation...even so....even if it was a one time occurrence in seeing and meeting you....SRA survivors are extremely keen on picking up manipulation and deceit....it is like a second sixth sense gained during their abuse. experience ..SRA survivors first seek out character in others they meet.....they are not looking for perfection, but honesty and integrity.   She would not have told you anything if she had not first seen your character and trustworthiness and compassion.


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Bulldog, and Sherry, the information the two of you left back and forth to this post "Listening Ears of Children" is very realistic and so touching as like the ole adage "You Can't Fool Dogs and Children" holds true. My daughter was one that would look you over, and look at you again and again, actually study you, and then she would warm up to you as a friend. I had talked with her and kept our communication lines wide open. Today she is eighteen years of age, and I am a single father, that treated my daughter like I did my students in a Law Enforcement Class, and by the way, she sat in some of my classes on Sexual Harassment, Ethics, and Officer Survival, so she knew the straight up facts about life and the dangers of covert threats. She knew that not everyone was a Sexual Harasser, but that men harassing men, women harassing women, women harassing men and men harassing women was an equal share as far as the profile of who could harass who! I said all this to say that kids can read you like a book, but if we as parents ever get lazy and forget that our child needs us to be a Daddy Hen or a Mother Hen and do not take anything for granted about our childs safety. I never once got lazy and sent my daughter to the bus stop alone, or let her get off alone and many times I took the time to go and sign her out of class at the ending of a day so she could get home safely as I wouldn't be there for her if I didn't due to being busy working, etc.


I second the statements and sentiments of Sherry in her reply to you...Bulldog, as the little girl had to read safety in you or else you would have never learned anything from her. I strongly believe in communication between the family, adults and children. When communication stops or ceases, then like a red and blue light with a siren going off in your mind, you can bet that there's a problem brewing. Keep them children communicating with you and you will be surprised what you will teach them in coming to you and sharing everything about their life with you. I bet the world is full of parents that wish they could recall their actions of sitting by and wishing they could relive their decision to avoid their child going to the grocery store alone, going to a school bus stop alone or even out to play at the end of a driveway where some sick and disgusting stone cold pedophile or molesting sex offender could get their stinking clutches a hold of them. My prayers go out to the girl you described with the satanic mom, and the sacrifice of her that she had to bore and thanks God for allowing her to live to find someone to trust and tell of this heinous crime against her.


God bless each of you that comment on this forum and I do plan to join in keeping it alive as it needs to get out there for those that forget that lurking in the shadows is the next threat to a child. I ground it into the mind of my daughter that it is nice to love everybody, but not everybody is going to love you in return...there's people out there in society that will hurt you like a monster, and you need to stay aware of that fact. Michael.

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Thank you for your comments trooperman911 and I very much agree that communication is the key to helping our children grow up strong mentally, psychologically and with the realization that someone cares....there are so many children that do not have attentive parents for one reason or another....but the end result is that child will seek after the attention they need in either positive or negative ways.  If children need to go outside the home to feel accepted and wanted the results usually end up in inappropriate behavior to gain the attention of the parent and at times gang involvement.


Thank you for your response Belcher.....with our own children we realize how watchful their eyes are....always learning and quick to pick up new ideas...if parent's do not set the stage for character development in early years it is a tough road to try and establish later on.


Take care    Stay safe    Be strong


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Sherry,


Your story is sad and also awesome. This shows that no matter your circumstances in life, you still chose how you would live. I coach baseball and football for 8-9 year olds as well as being a detective who handles most of the sex abuse cases in the department. I am always trying to be open to watching for any signs of abuse to these kids and to be a good role miodel for them as I am finding that most do not have dads in the home or don't have dads who take an active interest in their lives. God bless you for all you have been through and that fact that you are willing to share your story to help others. I am glad to have read your story and wish you all the best.

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Thank you 436 for your work as a professional in your sex crimes unit and also on your own personal time....time spent mentoring children and giving them an example to copy and look up to.  Spending time with them translates into love and caring, especially in the lives of children who may, as you have said, not have a present or attentive father figure.  There are many many single parent families and it is so important for these children to find an adult mentor who shows them the way of character and decent living.  Children are co-dependent by nature of their age and will take on the attributes of  those who spend the most time with them.  Thank you most sincerely for those efforts.


Take care    Be safe    Stay strong


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Thank you , you are a survivor! Its an honor to meet you.

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Thank you trubullit and it is an honor to be able to relate some of my story so that others may know how much their character and influence truly matters.

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Sherry,


I am the SRO for our High School. I have just over 1230 students with about 230 of them driving to school. I also teach CHAMPS to 6 fifth grade classes at 2 different schools (about 180 - 190 students). CHAMPS Choosing Healthy Activities and Methods Promoting Saftey covers topics like Choices and Consquencies, Peer Pressure, Bullying, Alcohol, Tobacco, Drugs, Home Alone, Internet Saftey and many more. It takes me away from the high school for about 6 - 8 hours a week, the rest of my time is spent in this building or on the road with a student activity or running security at sporting events.


This is just my second year as a SRO and I have just 4 years as a LEO, however GOD prepared me for many years by having me work in a lot of different kid and youth programs. The young lady that I spoke of approached me to report that she had received a text message from an old boyfriend stating "one way or another we will have sex before the end of the day"  The conversation that surronded that event opened the door to alot of information that I was not ready to hear. I mean, I know child abuse is in the world and I know about sexuall abuse ( I work every saturday with kids under the protective care of the court) but I had never heard the things that she talked about.


I wish we had some sort of training that specialized in Juvenile abuse, sexuall, drugs, physical, verbal etc. Sure I had classes at mandate school but nothing that specializes in youth issues. SRO training was good, but it did ot cover this kind if stuff. And know we are seeing a generation of Crack and Meth babies, which in it's own way creates another type of problem for the SRO's.


GOD BLESS you....

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Bulldog - Simply be the SRO you were before you knew about this youth's SRA experience. Treat her as you would any other student....with respect and dignity. 


Thank you for sharing about this youth.  Will send you a pm later about this situation.


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