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well some of you may have read my last post about 4 months ago.. it was explaining my family situation at home...  but for those who havn't ill sum it up for you breifly... im 18 years old, just graduated from high school in june 2008 and i am currently living with parents who are Heroin addicts... for the past 11 years i have been living with my aunt along with my parents... that all came to an end about a month ago, when she had purchased her new home... my parents had gotten evicted out of their apartment 11 years back when my aunt had taken us in... we were living out of a car for almost a steady year... basically what happened was my parents took her for granted and never really thought that she would ever move out.. as soon as she did my 25 yr old brother went with her and i thought i would do the right thing by staying with my parents.. everyone who has seen my profile here... you all know about my dreams of being in the military and becoming a chicago police officer... but as of right now their so far away... i have no job... and yes i am looking but finding a full time job in my little town is extremely difficult... i do not a drivers license and i couldn't even give you all a real reason why.... no car (obviously).... so now im stuck in an apartment that my parents can barely pay for... my father is on disability and my mother works as a cashier at Aldi.. finacially they are not stable and when we had no other choice than to take over the apartment, they couldn't put down a deposite for the heating and electric... so guess what ended up happening? they used my name for the billing and now i know that if they dont have the money to pay these companies my credit will be completely under water and it'll take years for me to recover... but i can't help but stay with them... we'll im only in this for my mom right now... me and my father are constantly at each others throats and its unbarable...  a lot of the fighting that goes on at the house is mainly because of me... because i go out and drink and run out to all hours of the nite and cant wake up at a decent time the next day... and i know that its is no one elses faul but mine... 6 months before i graduated the military was all i could talk about to people... and now thats so far away from my mind.. its sad... i think about joining the service everyday tho... and when ever i see a US Army commercial on t.v. its like a kick in the gut..saying what the hell is wrong with you... i went from being the girl who had all these plans to being the girl who has nothing... right now id just rather get wasted and make the problem go away every night... instead of forcing myself to get up and do something about it to make it better... not the right way to go about life at the starting of my adult life i know but at the same time i really don't know what the hell im doing... i almost want to give up and close my eyes forever but i know that i could be something great and know that i can make a difference in people and i know i am meant to become a police offcier.... i have never wanted anything more then to kick sum ass on the street and help the helpless... but when i look back at myself i don't see anything and nothing else matters... if anyone... please... can help shed some light upon me then please i will forever be greatful...




 


 




 


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Well Ashley, You shouldn't let your parents get in your way of pursiung your dreams. If it is getting bad, you could move out, and go to school and earn your degree. If you cant find a job in a small town, look in nearby towns or move to the city. Keep on trying for your dreams!


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Just remember, there's always a job out there if you want it.  Luckily for you it falls right in line with your initial dream of being in the military.  I can assure you that it will change your view on life and give you a sense of accomplishment, whether you stay in or not.  We will take you. 


I was once in the same situation where life wasn't going anywhere, now I have everything I ever wanted.  I've only been in two and a half years.  Join the military!


Go see the recruiter, quit provericating(sp)!


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Ash, my suggestion is to enlist in the service and get out of that environment as soon as you can, you are not responsible for your parents.


"The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in times of moral crisis, do nothing." Dante

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I echo the same thing everyone else has. GO SEE YOUR RECRUITER. Your parents,  please don't take this the wrong way, they are idiots!!!!!! They are ruining your life and dousing your spirit and they don't care. Girl you are 18 its time to spread those beautiful wings and fly the coop.


I suggest joining the Navy, yes I am biased.... :) but be honest with them about what is going on. identity theft on your parents part should NOT be held against you. You will get to see places and do things you only ever dreamed of. Oh and before you leave be sure to call the utility company and have that stuff in your name turned off......!!!! explain to them what is going on they will help you.


If you ever need an older voice of reason who has BEEN THERE drop me a PM we will talk more!


 


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Damn right..... get the hell out of there and get into the military!  FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Anything you can get into would be better that where you are. USMC, Navy, Army.... whatever!  The longer you stay around that kind of stuff, the more likely you'll get bogged down.


ENLIST ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I agree with everyone else. Join the military asap. When I was in high school I wanted to be a Police Officer but I was headed down the wrong path. Cutting class all the time, staying out getting drunk, and not doing homework. I wound up not having enough credits to graduate so I dropped out. I didnt know what else to do so I joined the Army. I learned discipline, Duty and integrity. While i was in I took classess and earned my G.E.D


When I got out I decided to go to college and did well. I had a High G.P.A and was on the Deans honor list several times. Now I have been in Law Enforcement for 14 years. I don't think I could have done had I not joined the Army and learned the values they taught me. So, Follow your dreams and never give up.

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You need to get out from where you are! You might also seek help with a local church. The Military would be a good place, if you go for the right reason. Its tough, but you want and sound like you want to make something out of your self. The only person holding you back, is YOU. Do what you want, and don't use nothing as a excuse. Thats what you are doing. You have dreams, go get them, they will not fall in your lap, trust me. No one here had their dreams handed to them, and some came from the same or worse place you have. You can do it, if you let your self. Put the beer and drugs down, they help nothing. When you sober up, the problem is still looking at you in the mirror. Don't wait no longer, and get a life started for you. Your family did what they wanted!


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HUT66 says ...



Damn right..... get the hell out of there and get into the military!  FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Anything you can get into would be better that where you are. USMC, Navy, Army.... whatever!  The longer you stay around that kind of stuff, the more likely you'll get bogged down.


ENLIST ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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Ash, my suggestion is to enlist in the service and get out of that environment as soon as you can, you are not responsible for your parents.



This is what you want then go get it. My parents are not exactly models for a Norman Rockwell print either but I refused to let that be an excuse for me to be a piece of crap. Out of my two brothers and 1 sister I am the most successful even though they voted me to be the biggest loser. Get off your ass and get what you want before it is too late. As for the booze, you should not be drinking any way you are only 18.  When you feel like you are at the bottom of a trashcan there is only one way to look......up. I wish you luck and offer as much support as I can but the end result is up to you.

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It all sounded like a bad situtation till the last part where you admitted to getting wasted every night and not getting up in the morning. No one can help you unless you help yourself. the main problem is your motavation get up, get a job, and get a life. When you turned 18 and got your diploma you were given the keys to a new world but if you do not take advantage of it it's your fault. Your parents are no longer the problem unless you let them you can not ask for help if you do not help yourself. We can not give you any advice that you do not already know yourself. Walk out the door and determine what you want and how you have to do to get it.


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What Meff said.


Walk out the door...... don't look back. don't even give them the common courtesy of "good bye".


Go to your recruiters. Go STRAIGHT to your recruiters. Do not pass Go do not collect $200.


YOU HAVE A FUTURE!!!!