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Posted almost 6 years ago

 

Guess I need a little encouragement. My dad is coming for a visit, he'll be here this weekend. I haven't seen him in 12 years, though we talk on the phone a lot. He has never met my husband and they have only spoken 2 or 3 times on the phone in the 6 years we have been married. My husband is a former (non-retired) LEO. Any advice, especially from you wives? Thx.


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Sounds like a tense weekend. I would think 'jitters' is an understatement. Perhaps reserve dad a hotel room close by, just in case? Sorry, no good advice.  Wishing you, (both), the best of luck and have a good weekend.

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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

i know it is easy for me to say, but, relax. if you spend all your time worrying, you won't be able to enjoy this  very special visit.

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Guess I need a little encouragement. My dad is coming for a visit, he'll be here this weekend. I haven't seen him in 12 years, though we talk on the phone a lot. He has never met my husband and they have only spoken 2 or 3 times on the phone in the 6 years we have been married. My husband is a former (non-retired) LEO. Any advice, especially from you wives? Thx.



FREEZY...............say it ain't sooooooooooooooo....YOU - with the jitters.....Com'on...it's 4th of July......not April Fools. YOU just walk right over to the frige and pour yourself a tall glass of "man-up".....It will be OK......................IT IS WHAT IT IS.................and THESE THINGS TOO SHALL PASS. IT will go well......


It is what it is.............and.........these things too shall pass.

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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

Thank you for responding guys, mongo004, Dad will be staying at a cabin about 20 miles from our house. My concern comes mostly from the fact that my husband has very strong feelings about some things that happened in my childhood, and his ability to 'corral' and redirect angst has slipped considerably in the years he has been away from LE.


Just in case, no my dad did not molest me! That seems to be the first thing people think of when they hear of 'issues' in childhood.


Am working on the RELAX part. I've decided to get a professional sports massage tomorrow before work. My traps look like Swarzenegger's right about now.....


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All you can do is hope for the best.  I don't know what happened in your childhood to have your husband that upset and it is none of our business but I'm glad it isn't the one thing you stated.  Just remind your husband it is only a short visit and to try his best but on the other side of the coin remember your husband has been the one there for you for the past 6 plus years, not your dad.  If you want to see your dad than your husband should accept it but also be there in case things do go bad.  I understand where he is coming from because I get mad at my in-laws sometimes for the way they treat my wife.  Maybe they have something in common like sports or fishing or hunting or something that they can focus on to get better aquainted.  They both love you so that's a start, right?  Good luck and hope it works out.


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All you can do is hope for the best.  I don't know what happened in your childhood to have your husband that upset and it is none of our business but I'm glad it isn't the one thing you stated.  Just remind your husband it is only a short visit and to try his best but on the other side of the coin remember your husband has been the one there for you for the past 6 plus years, not your dad.  If you want to see your dad than your husband should accept it but also be there in case things do go bad.  I understand where he is coming from because I get mad at my in-laws sometimes for the way they treat my wife.  Maybe they have something in common like sports or fishing or hunting or something that they can focus on to get better aquainted.  They both love you so that's a start, right?  Good luck and hope it works out.



Thank You Chimp! I really needed to hear that, especially the part I underlined in your quote. I know it sounds so simple, but somehow we forget things like that sometimes. Thank you


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chimp0082 says ...



All you can do is hope for the best.  I don't know what happened in your childhood to have your husband that upset and it is none of our business but I'm glad it isn't the one thing you stated.  Just remind your husband it is only a short visit and to try his best but on the other side of the coin remember your husband has been the one there for you for the past 6 plus years, not your dad.  If you want to see your dad than your husband should accept it but also be there in case things do go bad.  I understand where he is coming from because I get mad at my in-laws sometimes for the way they treat my wife.  Maybe they have something in common like sports or fishing or hunting or something that they can focus on to get better aquainted.  They both love you so that's a start, right?  Good luck and hope it works out.



you are wise beyond your years! such good advice.

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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

I think Chimp gave you all the advise you need.  I certainly stink at the whole "family" thing myself so I can't help ya there.  But I wanted to say good luck!  I'm sure it will all work out fine :)


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Rate This | Posted almost 6 years ago

 

Dont worry so much. It took my wife 10 years to introduce me to her father due to family infighting. It took the birth of my daughter to throw things into high gear. Sadly he passed away shortly after. I was happy to meet him and glad he could spend some time with my daughter. Seeing that the weekend is past I hope all went better than expected.

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Hi Freezie!  Good luck with this visit.  The only thing I would suggest is that everyone be aware they have "an out" if they need it.  Don't try to throw everyone together all the time.  Make sure everyone knows that if they are more than slightly uncomfortable, they can take a breather for a while.  Also, make sure that everyone else respects the other person's right to take a break from the others.  If no one feels pressured, it will hopefully go well.  Ideally, Dad would be staying at a hotel, but that's not always feasible.