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When parents try to use police to scare kids into minding, I get furious. THe kids need to be taught to run to police not away.


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If I had a nickel for every time I overheard a parent pointing at me and telling their boisterous kid (as kids will be) "Better behave, or I'll have that OFFICER take you to jail!" ..I would be a...er, well - not necessarily a RICH man, but at least I wouldn't have to pull as many sidejobs...


I've taken to the point of cutting these parents off and telling them, "Please don't say that  - it will make them afraid of us."  ..but usually the parent just smirks and quickly looks away, averting eye contact, before leading their kid off back to their non-parenting skilled household. 

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When I was a child, I knew better then to act up when we were in a public place, so the subject of that policeman over there will take you to jail never came up. By the same token, if we were to act up, we certainly wouldn't be worrying about that policeman over there. When my mother got done with me, I would be running to him for the correct thing, HELP! We were brought up differently I suppose. I would never think to act up, simply because I was taught right from wrong. I was taught to respect others, don't touch things in the store, say yes m'am and sir to adults etc. And my mother acted the same way. I learned from example. My children grew up always knowing that the police were there for them no matter the circumstances. I never missed an opportunity for my kids to say "Hi" to a police officer. They learned very early on that police officers will say "Hi" to them, will smile at them and talk to them. I cringe when I hear a parent say that. Be safe everyone, and keep up the good work!

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When I was a child, I knew better then to act up when we were in a public place, so the subject of that policeman over there will take you to jail never came up. By the same token, if we were to act up, we certainly wouldn't be worrying about that policeman over there. When my mother got done with me, I would be running to him for the correct thing, HELP! We were brought up differently I suppose. I would never think to act up, simply because I was taught right from wrong. I was taught to respect others, don't touch things in the store, say yes m'am and sir to adults etc. And my mother acted the same way. I learned from example. My children grew up always knowing that the police were there for them no matter the circumstances. I never missed an opportunity for my kids to say "Hi" to a police officer. They learned very early on that police officers will say "Hi" to them, will smile at them and talk to them. I cringe when I hear a parent say that. Be safe everyone, and keep up the good work!



I grew up behaving myself, because my parents taught me right from wrong. I got my butt whooped when I needed it, and that's important.


Nowadays, parents are just too lazy/stupid to discipline their kids, and we're going the way of Britain. Britain has been overrun with criminal youth, to the point they have some of the worst violence rates in the world.


I was getting fingerprinted for a new position with my company the other day, and as I sat in the fingerprinting place, the woman next to me had her kid with her. This child screamed, yelled, ran into others, tossed stuff on the floor, and typically acted like a little brat.


What does the mother do? Whispers "Oh, stop that, that's bad, be good."  "Use your indoor voice please". Never disciplines the kid, period. I was sooooo tempted to say "Ma'am, if you dont whoop that kid, I will..."


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When I was stationed in Germany I was walking through the Post Office and was standing in line (on-duty) to pick up a package that was delivered to me.  Of course I was armed and was standing with next to a woman and her small son probably 4 or 5 years old.  The little boy had a toy gun and was trying to show it to me.  He reached up to touch my holster and before I could tell him that my gun wasn't a toy, he mother grabs his hand and says, "Don't touch he is gun or he will shoot you."  I didn't have a child then, but I do now.  And I don't think I would tell my son that a policeman would shoot him for touching his gun.  I think it would be more beneficial to the child to try and explain it another way.  So my question now is would that single phrase make that child scared of policemen?  I think it is possible...



OH my GOD I would have gone up one side of that stupid woman and down the other.  Your self control is impressive.


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When I was stationed in Germany I was walking through the Post Office and was standing in line (on-duty) to pick up a package that was delivered to me.  Of course I was armed and was standing with next to a woman and her small son probably 4 or 5 years old.  The little boy had a toy gun and was trying to show it to me.  He reached up to touch my holster and before I could tell him that my gun wasn't a toy, he mother grabs his hand and says, "Don't touch he is gun or he will shoot you."  I didn't have a child then, but I do now.  And I don't think I would tell my son that a policeman would shoot him for touching his gun.  I think it would be more beneficial to the child to try and explain it another way.  So my question now is would that single phrase make that child scared of policemen?  I think it is possible...



OH my GOD I would have gone up one side of that stupid woman and down the other.  Your self control is impressive.



There's your sign! I don't know what it is with some people who simply have to act so stupid when they encounter an officer with their children. It definately sends the wrong signals to them and permanently impresses them with unreasonable fears. Let's face it. Children learn how to act and react in social situations based upon what they observe their parents and siblings do. Yes... It's definately one factor that may cause a child to be fearful for the wrong reasons.

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I think Parents should be ashamed of causing children to be afraid of Police .


My kids really like them and they have seen alot of things were we live . I have made a point to teach my Kids police only do thier job .


What do you think ?


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I think Parents should be ashamed of causing children to be afraid of Police .


My kids really like them and they have seen alot of things were we live . I have made a point to teach my Kids police only do thier job .


What do you think ?




When I was a kid my parents taught me that Police Officers are here to help and you should never be afraid to go them for help.   When I have children I will teach them that.

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I'm not so sure its and issue of parent's telling their children police officers are "bad".  For the most part I believe that parents encourage their children to trust police officers though a uniformed officer can be intimidating especially in todays world of riot gear and BDUs.  There is also the way in which the officer holds him or herself and their mentality.  I have encountered many different LEOs from many different departments and agencies and some were far more approachable and friendly than others.  A smiling officer in a uniform shirt and tie with a cap and duty belt can be a lot more welcoming than a gruff officer in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun.  It is a sign of the times where we see more tactical officers in airports and in the media than we do uniformed officers on a beat.


That's just my two cents.


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I'm not so sure its and issue of parent's telling their children police officers are "bad".  For the most part I believe that parents encourage their children to trust police officers though a uniformed officer can be intimidating especially in todays world of riot gear and BDUs.  There is also the way in which the officer holds him or herself and their mentality.  I have encountered many different LEOs from many different departments and agencies and some were far more approachable and friendly than others.  A smiling officer in a uniform shirt and tie with a cap and duty belt can be a lot more welcoming than a gruff officer in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun.  It is a sign of the times where we see more tactical officers in airports and in the media than we do uniformed officers on a beat.


That's just my two cents.


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Normally, when an officer is "in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun" it's not really the time or situation to be friendly to every one. That kind of gearup is normally for situations that are life-threatening, and when your life or someone else's is on the line, it's not the time to be smiling and friendly to everyone.


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Perhaps it could also be the LACK of parental guidance.


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I'm not so sure its and issue of parent's telling their children police officers are "bad".  For the most part I believe that parents encourage their children to trust police officers though a uniformed officer can be intimidating especially in todays world of riot gear and BDUs.  There is also the way in which the officer holds him or herself and their mentality.  I have encountered many different LEOs from many different departments and agencies and some were far more approachable and friendly than others.  A smiling officer in a uniform shirt and tie with a cap and duty belt can be a lot more welcoming than a gruff officer in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun.  It is a sign of the times where we see more tactical officers in airports and in the media than we do uniformed officers on a beat.


That's just my two cents.


-Mickcollins31



Normally, when an officer is "in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun" it's not really the time or situation to be friendly to every one. That kind of gearup is normally for situations that are life-threatening, and when your life or someone else's is on the line, it's not the time to be smiling and friendly to everyone.



I don't disagree with you my statement was in response to why children my be afraid.  In addition to that if you have visited Washington DC anytime since September 11th, 2001 you will notice an abundance of officers in tactical gear as that seems to be the prefered uniform for any type of job whether it be a stationary post at the Capitol or the DC Metro-Transit police who wear that as their primary non-dress unifrom.  Rarely do you see officers with shined shoes and a tie.  I happen to think fatigues look far less professional than a traditional uniform.  I'm not saying its right or wrong, its just a reason why children my be frightened. 

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I agree that this is a learned behavior and in my opnion the best way to combat this is to teach the kids every chance we get. I know that sometimes we are tired and in a bad mood because face it our jobs have us dealing with the scum of the earth at every waking moment but how hard would it be to make sure we smile and give a wave to the little kids that are staring at us. It has been my experience that kids and old people are the only people left on earth that actually view us as heros. but we must do what we can to maintain that image. The next time you see a kid staring at you..........just give a simple smile and wave and if within earshot say HI.... pay attention to the smile and the way the kids eyes lights up...........it will even make you feel better


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Heard it the other day where I work, Lowe's by the way...


Well anyway there was what appeared to be a Grandmother, Mother, and young daughter and they were looking for yard sticks. They asked me for help and when I took and showed them where the yard sticks were the Grandmother picked one up and handed it to the little girl.


Then she said, "Don't hit anyone with it our I'll have the Police come get you.". Now even though I'm no longer in Law Enforcement, and it goes right along with what is being discussed here, I really wanted to say somethin' to good old GrandMa' but then I'm sure she'd made a complaint about me being rude or whatever. I just turned and walked away and shook my head.


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When a parent  (it's usually the mothers that pull this) can't control their kid and they tell the kid in earshot of us, "If you don't behave the policeman will take you away".  That drives me absolutely insane and things like this stay embedded in children's minds.  Most kid's fears of police don't just magically appear and I truly believe it is because of foolish comments like this that kids grow to fear us.


My normal response- Walk right up to the kid and tell them, "No, No, No- we won't take you away and if you are good and stop crying now Mommy will give you $20.00 and take you out for pizza and ice cream tonight.  That usually is the last time a parent will make that kind of statement to their child


 

LOL OMG I WILL HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT ONE, I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT WHEN PARENTS DO THAT!!!!!!!!!!!


I work in a bad part of town, there isn't much I can do about the parents however I always wave and smile at the kids when I pass them. It's amazing how waving and smiling at these kids provokes an automatic reaction to wave back. After doing this for several months the kids are starting to wave first and will even approach me to ask questions while I am parked, writing reports.  It's frustrating when you go on calls and you have half the neighborhood yelling for the victim or witness to "stop snitchin"!  I absolutely agree this is a learned behavior to hate or fear cops:(

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HELL YEAH KIDS IS SCARED OF COPS, YALL NIGGAZ IS BULLIES

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HELL YEAH KIDS IS SCARED OF COPS, YALL NIGGAZ IS BULLIES



 


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I get this at my job too, my uniform is the same as most officers (minus the gun belt and the insignia is different) but as I am walking up and down the aisles of Target, I hear parents say "You better behave or he is going to handcuff you and take you into a tiny room (or something like that) at least 3 times a day. Even though I am not a real officer I know that this has to have some negative effect on the child. So for now on I am going to do Chimps idea and tell the child that I am not going to "handcuff them and take them into a small room" and that if they start behaving thier mom or dad will give them some money and take them out to eat. lol



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             Being a Felony Probation Officer, often the parent is the one on probation. Hence the kid has already probably seen their parent arrested by a police officer at some point. That being said, I am sure that some parents bad mouth me when I leave their house or before I get there and I do my best to make sure the kids never feel threatened or intimidated by me when I go into their house. I am not the "police" but I am a large guy with a badge and gun and to kids that is all the same. I try to find a way to engage the kid into some form of conversation so maybe it will thaw the ice a little.   


When we do have to arrest a parent or serve a warrant, if they are cooperative, we always try to step outside or out of the room where the kids are be fore cuffing the parent.

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Hi, dispatcher here....I've taken many calls from parents over the years who were either trying to get the cops to take their kids off their hands, or just trying to scare them into behaving better.  I actually got a 9-1-1 call from a woman who asked me to send an officer to arrest her 11 year old because he refused to go to bed.  I sent a cop over (after I explained the situation to him) to chew her out for being so stupid.  She might need that kid to call the cops for her one day, after all.  Then there are all the kids watching their parents go to jail, sometimes on a regular basis and for God-knows-what.  I agree there are other reasons (like foreigners afraid of being beaten, etc) but parental influence has got to be at the top of the list.

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two days ago backing up officer on stop and a lady walked by with her child of about 4 and the child was terrified of us. a couple of years ago I pulled into one of our local guys house to serve a warrant on him and there was a child in the yard about 5 that started screaming so, you wolud of have thought the devil just pulled in. this is really sad but its the way some raise there kids to be scared of us.

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I think tht being affraid of cops is a learning experiance. The way that the public, or the way television puts cops out to be may have a influence on police. If children only realized that cops have to be the way they are with the "tough guy attitude" then they might understand police more better, or respect the law more. I remember when I was a young child and my grandmother called the cops on me for being unrully. I was going threw that teen stage of wanting to stay out late, not go to school ect. Well when my grandmother called the cops and when I was confronted by them my attitude was, your not my parent and I can act how I want. Well during the confritation I disrespected my grandmother in front of the cop, and it made the officer very upset with me. So upset with me that he grabbed me by the arm and told me to show my elders respect. I was terrified at that time, and from then on I walked a straight line. I would also say that I was scared of police, but I had alot more respect for them. I think that children that are in D.A.R.E. programs may help a young child realize that they police are above average people that are there to help them, and that they are depended.

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When a parent  (it's usually the mothers that pull this) can't control their kid and they tell the kid in earshot of us, "If you don't behave the policeman will take you away".  That drives me absolutely insane and things like this stay embedded in children's minds.  Most kid's fears of police don't just magically appear and I truly believe it is because of foolish comments like this that kids grow to fear us.

 


My normal response- Walk right up to the kid and tell them, "No, No, No- we won't take you away and if you are good and stop crying now Mommy will give you $20.00 and take you out for pizza and ice cream tonight.  That usually is the last time a parent will make that kind of statement to their child. 


 


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When a parent  (it's usually the mothers that pull this) can't control their kid and they tell the kid in earshot of us, "If you don't behave the policeman will take you away".  That drives me absolutely insane and things like this stay embedded in children's minds.  Most kid's fears of police don't just magically appear and I truly believe it is because of foolish comments like this that kids grow to fear us.

 


My normal response- Walk right up to the kid and tell them, "No, No, No- we won't take you away and if you are good and stop crying now Mommy will give you $20.00 and take you out for pizza and ice cream tonight.  That usually is the last time a parent will make that kind of statement to their child. 



im with you on this, it drives me right up the wall!!! thank you for the idea of how to halt it. i will be using that phrase in the future

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My kids are NOT afraid of the police. A bullsh*t statement on my part that I would have the cops take them away would NEVER work in a bloody million years. That's why I don't bother. They are usually too busy inspecting the officers gun and ammo and monkeyf*cking with any equipment he allows them to!


Now, sometimes I have to put the screws to my seven year old and tell him if he continues to harass people (stabbing them with pencils, whacking them with bookbags, and the like which the principal has contacted me about EVERY DAY this last week) it will put him on a path where eventually he WILL be arrested and taken away. I dont say that to scare him or turn him off to the police, I say that in all seriousness. The behavior has to be nipped in the bud and I'm trying to get him to consider the consequences of his actions. Telling my boy the cops will come and take him away if he doesn't listen to me  will have the same effect as telling him the Goldfish Fairy won't bring him a stack of legal pads for his birthday.... eliciting laughter.


My  son is anything BUT afraid of the police. Why else would he greet one with "Hello Po Po!" LOL


 

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I'm not so sure its and issue of parent's telling their children police officers are "bad".  For the most part I believe that parents encourage their children to trust police officers though a uniformed officer can be intimidating especially in todays world of riot gear and BDUs.  There is also the way in which the officer holds him or herself and their mentality.  I have encountered many different LEOs from many different departments and agencies and some were far more approachable and friendly than others.  A smiling officer in a uniform shirt and tie with a cap and duty belt can be a lot more welcoming than a gruff officer in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun.  It is a sign of the times where we see more tactical officers in airports and in the media than we do uniformed officers on a beat.


That's just my two cents.


-Mickcollins31



Normally, when an officer is "in tactical gear holding a automatic weapon or shotgun" it's not really the time or situation to be friendly to every one. That kind of gearup is normally for situations that are life-threatening, and when your life or someone else's is on the line, it's not the time to be smiling and friendly to everyone.



I don't disagree with you my statement was in response to why children my be afraid.  In addition to that if you have visited Washington DC anytime since September 11th, 2001 you will notice an abundance of officers in tactical gear as that seems to be the prefered uniform for any type of job whether it be a stationary post at the Capitol or the DC Metro-Transit police who wear that as their primary non-dress unifrom.  Rarely do you see officers with shined shoes and a tie.  I happen to think fatigues look far less professional than a traditional uniform.  I'm not saying its right or wrong, its just a reason why children my be frightened. 



I have to say this to everyone, have you seen what the DC Police have to deal with? and all of the line stations that border DC,  Maryland and Virginia? It almost has to be BDU's /tactical gear. The only place a dress uniform is any good anymore is at court,  parades or funerals


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They're not afraid of all cops...............just one's like Bill!     

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They're not afraid of all cops...............just one's like Bill!     



Excuse me????????


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I've been through the majority of what everyone else here has, but my most, hmmm, distasteful? Annoying? (You choose or add your own) moments is when I was a DARE Officer in Illinois. At a Culmination (Graduation) ceremony, after all the awards and all the good and warm fuzzy stuff was over. I had the "parent" of one of my 6th graders come up to me and tell me he was glad this BS was over. I apologized for the ceremony taking so long and he said "No, this whole DARE BS. You're just here to spy on us through our kids. You want them to tell who's doing drugs and whatever"... Well, long story short, he was a "baby daddy" not even THIS baby's Daddy AND a BGD from the local set. But that's not the first time I had heard that. I maintained composure, told him I felt sorry that he believed that but I was very proud of his "son" he and he should be too. Under the mandated reporting act, of course I would have to report anything that may put a child in harm's way (Of course I would anyway, if not react myself first) but I was forbidden from taking direct action unless it was life threatening. He didn't believe me of course. It's sad when people trash a great program like DARE with their pathetic suspicious and police-phobic minds. I hate that, I really really hate that. I WHOLE heartedly support ANY program that shows police in a favorable light to kids, adults or anyone in between! (Stepping down from the soapbox now...)


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They're not afraid of all cops...............just one's like Bill!     



Excuse me????????



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