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Hello everyone. This topic is about cops married to cops. I am police officer and so is my husband. We work for the same dept. which is rare I know. Anyone else out there a cop married to a cop?

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Hello. I am also a cop married to a cop. We work in the same department. At times, it gets rough, Really rough. I can't talk shop with hime. It can get really heated. Hang in there and try not to sweat the small stuff. Natalie

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yeah i am, she came in about 2 years after i did....it can be "interesting" to say the least lol


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I know some cops who could not be married to anyone BUT another cop...and it works great for both of them. I've known couples that work at the same department and some that work for other departments. To be honest, as an outsider, they seem very happy together and communicate very well with one another.


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Well I married my husband becuase I love him, but it being a cop did help a lot. We have only been married a week, but have been working for the same dept for over a year. He works days and I work nights then we have days off together so far it has been perfect. Although I do agree with Nrlazar it can be rought at times

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I married an officer from another dept after only dating 6 mos.

We knew each other for 9 mos before dating.

He is now disability retired...as am I.

We have been married for 24 years.

We were, and still are, bestfriends who could share anything having to do with work and it was a great stress release!


Sure was nice he didnt work with the same department


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hello guys, as a matter of fact the most interesting thing is when a cop married a cop. i am a cop i tried to see if i can marry a cop unfortunately it didn't work. am still hoping to have someone one of these days. most of my collegues married cops too. its a good thing if only both are not working in same department.


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i am a detective and my husband is a deputy, different departments though. i was a patrol officer for a pd in the county he worked in when we met. dated a year and a half got married and we are still together 7 1/2 years later. it can be hard, but we have days off together and its nice to be able to vent about a scrote bag to someone who really understands.

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My husband and I have been working for the same dept. for over 2 years now. I got him to move here after we met at the academy. It works out perfect for us. He works the day shift I work night shift and we have all our days off together. We work 12 hours shifts so it makes it possible. I am sure it depends on what dept. you work for how easy it is to work on the same dept. Somedays we do work together, but it is always as if we are co-workers not married.

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My husband and I have been working for the same dept. for over 2 years now. I got him to move here after we met at the academy. It works out perfect for us. He works the day shift I work night shift and we have all our days off together. We work 12 hours shifts so it makes it possible. I am sure it depends on what dept. you work for how easy it is to work on the same dept. Somedays we do work together, but it is always as if we are co-workers not married.

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Well, when I married my husband 15+ years ago, we were both cops.  We dated for 3 1/2 years while working for the same agency, but when we decided to get married, I switched to a different one.  It all went more or less pretty well during that time and we could talk about our jobs with no problem.  I switched to a non-sworn agency (child welfare) and he didn't want to hear anything about the kids.  I think it was just too depressing for him to deal with on top of his job stuff.  I've now been in another division for about 4 years and it's pretty much the way it used to be.  We get along well for the most part and have had the same ups and downs as most married people.  I think it helps that we see things from the same point of view most times.

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My husband and I met in the reserve academy 10 years ago. We both started in corrections and reserved for local PD's. I eventually promoted from the county jail to patrol, but he is still a CO and reserves in his spare time. Last year I made detective. He wants to be full time patrol, but it hasn't worked out for him in our area. It's really rough at times because it's like we're competing, more like HE'S competing. It was cool in the begining, we could swap stories, etc.  Now it just seems he resents me for my success. I support him and try to boost his ego whenever possible, but I don't get the same from him....sometimes it sucks being married to someone else in LE. Some men can't handle when their women are more successful than they are.


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Very true Ras.  You just have to keep telling yourself it's not you, it's his frustration at not getting where he wants to be fast enough.  Keep encouraging him and keep talking.  Communication is key.

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i think it is great, when me and my husband was married it was awesome, and we worked the same shift we seen each other more and had so much to talk about,

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Hi everyone,


My husband and I met when I was working for a neighboring agency, we are now both on the same department and love it. So far there are no issues at all. And i dont think there will be any. We are both very professional at work and he is a wonderful learning tool for me. I am brand new where as my husband has been on the force for 13 years. so its great. I think I am his little project :) ha ha ha.....He is a snipper on SWAT and an FTO also. I learn a lot from him and he has been incredibly supportive. So, it can be done.....people just need to work at it.

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Hi everyone,


My husband and I met when I was working for a neighboring agency, we are now both on the same department and love it. So far there are no issues at all. And i dont think there will be any. We are both very professional at work and he is a wonderful learning tool for me. I am brand new where as my husband has been on the force for 13 years. so its great. I think I am his little project :) ha ha ha.....He is a snipper on SWAT and an FTO also. I learn a lot from him and he has been incredibly supportive. So, it can be done.....people just need to work at it.



Well said. I have never had an issue with my husband. We work for the same department but in different precincts. My husband has been in LE for the past 15 years to my 6 years. We are both FTOs, bike officers, etc. My husband is now a Bomb Technician so he is basically on call 24/7. Before he leaves for a bomb call, he calls me so that I can listen to my radio, if I am not at work. When the call is over we discuss what happened at the call and what he could have done better.


We both took the Sgt's exam, he missed it by 3 points and I passed. However, he never once showed any jealousy towards the fact that I passed the exam and he didn't. It can work. Communicate.

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My husband works as a deputy in the County that I work in. We met on a traffic crash. We have been together for 4 yrs. He is perm. mids, while I rotate between days and nights every 10 weeks. It's nice when we work mids together. We back each other up when we can and meet up to keep each other awake when we're dragging.


The only issue that we have when it comes to being in LE is competativness. It hasn't been a big issue, but  we compete over stupid stuff like who gets more training, promotional exams, traffic stops per shift, department policies, PCS cases, etc. We get over it by the end of the conversation and move on.

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My husband and I are both in law enforcement and we both leave the drama and conflict at work.  I couldn't ask for anyone more wonderful.  I work for a Sheriff's Office and he works at a Police Department in my county so sometimes we get to work together.

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My husband works as a deputy in the County that I work in. We met on a traffic crash. We have been together for 4 yrs. He is perm. mids, while I rotate between days and nights every 10 weeks. It's nice when we work mids together. We back each other up when we can and meet up to keep each other awake when we're dragging.


The only issue that we have when it comes to being in LE is competativness. It hasn't been a big issue, but  we compete over stupid stuff like who gets more training, promotional exams, traffic stops per shift, department policies, PCS cases, etc. We get over it by the end of the conversation and move on.



MSD,


The second paragraph of your post sounds exactly like my husband and I. LOL. It keeps us both on point though.

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Hello everyone. This topic is about cops married to cops. I am police officer and so is my husband. We work for the same dept. which is rare I know. Anyone else out there a cop married to a cop?

I am  getting married to a cop next month.  He and I both work for the same agency, however, different divisions within the department!!! I never "planned" on getting married to another fellow officer.  It just happened!  he is a great man with a great spirit and a huge heart.. I wouldn't have it any other way!!  I have been in LE a lot longer than he has so he says I help him out a lot and it's nice having someone understand the LEO job!  We do work different shifts from time to time and have usually only one day off in common so it's not bad... I do out rank him, lol..  so that is a lot of fun :-) oh the power ...  just kidding.. really ...

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BEEN BPD BLUE FOR 13 YEARS MY BETTERHALF HAS 14 YEARS ON AND SHES A SERGEANT WANTING TO BE LIEUT.  WE WORK IN DIFFERANT DISTRICTS AND DIFFERANT SHIFTS BUT ITS WORKED FOR ALMOST 9 YEARS NOW. WE HAVE OUR UPS AND DOWNS BUT I GUESS EVERBODY DOES. I JUST GET TIRED OF CALLING HE SIR AT HOME.....LOL

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I am married to my best friend who also happens to work in the same dept. I can't imagine NOT being married to someone who does not understand the job, the dynamics of the dept, the long days and nights, the training, the politics. It works for us, and i wouldn't change a thing.

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Hello all, I have just recently join this site and love it. i have found your group and discussion. i work for the st.martin parish sheriff's office and so does my wife. we both were working corrections at the begining of our dating and we both area out on the street now.  she is a SGT. now and i pick on her at home and call her that...... she hates it because she knows im being a smart a** lol.

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I married a total civilian.  Don't get me wrong I love her to death.  Yet sometimes I've gotten upset with her when she makes a brass comment about cops and I try to get her to see it from our angle, but she refuses.  Sometimes I can't tell her anything because she just doesn't grasp where I'm coming from.

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That can be really tough Killdare.  I hope she can eventually come around to seeing things from your perspective at least some of the time!

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My wife and I met when we worked together at another dept; we were partners on the same shift. We didnt start dating until I took a job with a different dept. We have been together a little over 7 years, married almost 5. She works for the city police, I work for the county sheriffs office. We work the same shift but have different days off. Some months, we only have 2 days off together in the month. We get along well but our dept.'s administrators hate each other for the most part which make it difficult at times. We have tried to bridge the gap and it worked for a while between the two but it fell in. We try to see each other some during the shift but that doesnt always happen. I can back her up on call and it works well because we know what the other is thinking. Plus we can see what we are planning in each others eyes as well as what sets the other off.

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I find its mopre important for female officers to find someone who is in the same line of work as they are. Most ones I talk to about this topic say they want someone who understands their work, so on and so forth. Ive dated one female police officer and that didnt go well at all. Really not a fan of talking shop with the person sitting opposite me at the dinner table while out on a date. For me, its better to date a woman with no military or law enforcement background....someone who has a totally different job than me, someone who brings something totally new to my life.

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Ok, what I am wondering is this : for male officers, maybe it doesn't matter as much to have their mate be able to share their profession and share that outlet for talking about it.......as it's primarily a man's world anyhow. But, for female officers, I think it's a benefit for the opposite of the same reasons stated...AND = as a female officer you tend to be of a more dominant personality than your average woman, and so having a man who is as dominate, or more so, is a good fit (dominate, NOT controlling !!). I ran the Partners of Officers Support group for awhile here back when I was seriously involved with an officer, and we talked about this. It was agreed, but I'd like to hear from others as well. I am out of the role of being a supportive partner, and ready to get into the academy myself. I am married now, to a non-law enforcement man.....and unfortunately he isn't supportive of my career choice. I'd much rather be in a relationship with an officer right now, for sure....we cant' talk shop at home and he isn't so comfortable with my level of independence.....(he faked it till we got married, and now the truth is out). 


I'd love to hear more thoughts on this !

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PTSD, you helped to make my point, thank you. So, for women to find that special officer who has no issue with dating another officer (and I think different depts is a good thing !), it's a great safe place to lay their hats, and feel accepted and understood. For men, it's not such a big deal, and maybe even not a good thing. A fine line......

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PTSD, you helped to make my point, thank you. So, for women to find that special officer who has no issue with dating another officer (and I think different depts is a good thing !), it's a great safe place to lay their hats, and feel accepted and understood. For men, it's not such a big deal, and maybe even not a good thing. A fine line......



PSD doll...PSD.


PTSD is a stress disorder, PSD= Protective Security Detail...one of the special skills the Army taught me :)


But yes, it seems many ladies in the profession want someone who they can talk to at length about work, what happened at work, and that someone they are talking to being able to talk about the exact same thing. Or perhaps men who want to support a womans decision to be a cop or to stay one.


For us dual service cops (LE and military) its just not as simple as finding someone who "understands" because few women in LE have been military, and even fewer are dual service so if I only looked for someone who brought the same professions to the table....Id be waiting a long long time. Not too many women in LE would be able to cope with their husbands not only having the civilian worlds worst schedule (law enforcement) and coming home with bumps and bruises and then their man being gone 16 months every 3 years or so on deployments to Iraq, Afghanistan, the border, the phillippines, the sanai, the horn of africa..etc etc.


That same officer I mentioned dating (who is now one of my 5 best friends on the planet) married a fellow deputy constable who joined the Army to be an MP (just like me) and is now deployed (just like me) and she is having a hell of a time dealing with it.

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