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I was wondering how does everyone juggle? Juggle the home life with the kids and the job? I'm a single mom hoping to be a police officer. Any tips? Any sort of advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Remember that your family comes first.

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Welcome....this topic is very common here, so let me start by saying you are not alone.....most of us do exactly what you said...we juggle, even if we are married. Let me put it this way, and then you can see if you're still interested in becoming an Officer.

No Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, New Years, Valentines Day, Birthdays, Communions, or anything else for a few years...at all. Then, work 12 or 16 hour days a lot, work 11pm-7am, then go to court during the day, work all weekend, then have Tuesday off - but you still have court all day, then try to find time to cook or clean, laundry, spend time with the kids and get the oil changed in the car and don't forget groceries and the lunch money and the doctor's appointments and you can't take off work, they are already shorthanded today.

If this is feasable, then go for it. You can do anything you set your mind to, and with help from friends or family it can work, but I am just keeping it real......

Respectfully,
Craig


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Thank you both for the advice! Especially for "keeping it real". I wouldn't want to have it any other way.

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RetiredCop said:

Remember that your family comes first.

Amen RetiredCop! It can be done though, but it takes some sacrifice and understanding. I wish you all the best.


2 Cor. 5:17 "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold all things have become new."

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rdeanpesnell said:


RetiredCop said:


Remember that your family comes first.


Amen RetiredCop! It can be done though, but it takes some sacrifice and understanding. I wish you all the best.


Thanks a bunch!

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KETOLACA has it right. I've only been on the Patrol for 2 yrs now and its been the way he explains it somewhat. For me it all depends on my rotation. If I work a holiday than I do...if my day off is a holiday then great. Holidays aren't that bad. I get double time and a half so its good for the pay check but sucks for family life. My family understands so we usually schedule Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc for a different day that works for me. It sucks that your a singel mom and don't have that other person to be home with your little one. My wife is great and puts up with a lot!!! I love my job and can't imagine doing anything else! If law enforcement is something you want, go for it!!! We need more females on the job!!!! Good luck!

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I have been doing this job for 20 years, and there are a couple of things that work well for me:

My family comes first and they know that. I make sure that they know that by my actions and not my words. I know plenty of people, cops and noncops, that talk a good game about family, but then you always hear about them going out and partying....

I always have a daytimer with me so I can keep track of everything. I have three daughters and I am active in all three of their lives. They only way to keep all that straight for me was to write it all down.

Have good comunications with your family. My family and my wife's family try as hard as they can to schedule around my work schedule. Many times, my mom talks to my mother in law when planning holidays. All because of my shift work. I couldn't ask for anything more from them.

Lastly, you just have to understand that you are going to miss things and it SUCKS. There is no other way around it. A couple of years ago, I missed my sister in laws wedding. Nothing I could do about it.

Good luck