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This weekend many of the surviving fiancé’s and significant others of fallen officers were treated to a weekend away retreat courtesy of COPS (Concerns of Police Survivors). This was huge for all the women that I have become such good friends with over the years. When Joey was killed right before our wedding, the support for fiancé’s was limited. As more and more officers have been killed, leaving behind fiancé’s, girlfriends, and significant others, COPS realized there was a big need to support these individuals. With the help of many of the fiancé’s, COPS was able to create a retreat that would assist in the rebuilding of their lives.

The Retreat was held this past weekend in St. Louis. I was unable to attend, due to having young twins. I have been in contact with another fiancé' (Monica Verdusco) over the weekend and she stated, “Everyone was having a great time”. Suzy Sawyer (Director of COPS) was even on hand for the retreat.

The mood was saddened when everyone realized St. Louis had just lost an officer in the line of duty.

I have asked all the fiancé’s to come online, and respond to this thread when they return tomorrow. I told them the support they receive online from Police Link is amazing. Again, this was a huge milestone for all the fiancé’s and significant others, and everyone is so excited to know they will now receive the support they so desperately need.

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EMANK962 said:

WAY TO GO IM GLAD THE FIANCES ARE BEING RECONIZED. I BELIVE SOUTH CAROLINA HAS AROUND 4 FIANCES
THAT HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH LOSING SOMEONE THEY WERE GOING TO BE MARRIED TO. I HAVE SEEN DEPARTMENTS TAKE CARE OF THE SPOUSES AND SOMETIMES THEY FORGET ABOUT THE FIANCES. WAY TO GO LADIES I KNOW YOU FOUGHT HARD TO GET THE RETREAT. COPS COULD HAVE WORKED FASTER BUT BETTER LATE THEN NEVER.DANA TAKE CARE AND A HAT OFF TO YOU FOR ALL YOU HAVE DONE FOR OUR FALLEN OFFICERS AND THE SURVIVORS......

AMEN! Dana, you are awesome!

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This sounds like a great program. Way to go COPS!

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Dana, I think you are bringing a lot of excellent information to the table that a lot of us were not aware of. It' s great to network.

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Thanks EMANK962 - It's always nice to know the fiance's have the support from law enforcement. I know your dept. recently lost an officer who left behind a fiancé. It’s very tragic, but I agree they should be treated the same way any other surviving family member would be treated. It's very hard for a fiancé in the case of a line of duty death, b/c they weren’t married, but lived their lives as if they were. Most of the fiancé’s/significant others/girlfriends I know had homes with the officer, pets, and wedding's being planned. That's tough on someone when they lose all of that in one day. Looking back some of these women were with their officers longer than officers who were killed and married. Thankfully COPS has stepped up to make sure these men and women get the support they so desperately need and deserve. It's been ten years since I lost Joey and they're are still days that are terribly hard.

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Thanks Everyone - I know when the other fiance's and girlfriends sign on tomorrow, they will smile seeing all this support!

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Dana,
I'm very proud that COPS has finally got a designated program for the loved ones that have lost someone dear to them. I have always felt that it takes a special person to be married to a cop. As a retired cop, I know the stress that comes from the streets can really cause problems if you don't let it go. I worked on the streets of Nashville for 26 years before I decided to retire. I'm been married for 31 years now and I think the best thing a couple can do is take the time to talk and communicate with each other. I'm glad there are programs today that are designed by the departments that will help a cop to deal with the stress of the job. If there is anything I can do for this program, I am here for you. Thanks again Dana for all that you have done and continue to do for us all. Next year, you get a baby sitter and go to the retreat.

Walter

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This is a great thing that has been done. It is hard no matter how your are related, wife, fiance, child, it is just hard. I am so glad that all of you ladies have come together to support each other in ways that only you know how. The pain that each of us have experienced can be overwhelming. It is so nice to know that there is a should to lean on in our many times of sorrow. Keep up the good work Dana, and a Special THANKS for finding me.

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I also want to send a special thanks out to Lee Ann (Survivor of Officer Andre Booker) and Monica (Survivor of Scott Stewart). Both of these ladies put so much work into getting this retreat to mature. I'm very lucky to call them friends.

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OK 73 PEOPLE HAVE LOOKED AT THIS AND ONLY A FEW REPLIES COME EVERYONE WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE SHOWING OUR SUPPORT SO TAKE A FEW MINUTES AND SAY SOMETHING POSITIVE....I KNOW EVERYONE SUPPORTS THIS SAY IT LET THEM KNOW WE CARE!!! EMAN

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Hi I just returned from the fiance's retreat in St. Louis. I just want to say that is was a very uplifting weekend. Being a survivor is truly a miserable life, but being with all of the other surviving fiance's makes is seem so much more bearable. I will definately attend the retreat year after year. You know the high you feel at National Police Week, well, the retreat was that good too. Very emotional, but awesome. If anyone knows of any fiance's, girlfriends or boyfriends that are not already in touch with our group, please send me their contact information. And I have to thank COPS for sponsoring the retreat. And thank you Dana for being so persistant about getting the fiance's recognized. I loved this retreat!

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Hi Loving 750

I'm so glad you had a good experience at the retreat, and thanks for responding to the thread. I was so devastated that I couldn't attend, but I was with all of you in spirit. I'm so proud of all of you for attending. Every survivor of a fallen officer deserves support and assistance in rebuilding their lives. Keep in touch and I will chat with you soon!

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EMAN,

THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT! I can always count on the LEO's from South Carolina. I like the way you noted how many people have looked at the thread vs. how many responded. A good cop is very detailed! Thanks again and hopefully the word will get out and more depts that have fiance's, girlfriends, and significant others of fallen officers, will let these women and men know their is now support.

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We remember, and will never forget. God Bless you ladies. We honor you and share your pain. I, for one, am so thankful that you have the C.O.P.S to turn to. And Thank You C.O.P.S. for your support of these survivors.

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Thanks JIMS4 - You are always so supportive of survivors on Police Link. I know all these ladies will appreciate reading your posts. Thanksa again!

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ladies , i am glad that you are being recognized and that it will help in the healing process . i too have lost a fiance' and although he wasn't le the loss of dreams is just as real . with leo working different shifts it is not always easy to log on and many times if a thread is not posted into for a few hours it is on another page until someone brings it back and it is in the recent thread rotation........there are still difficult days and i am glad that you guys have each other to bond with and are given a chance to be recognized ................


...don't play with me , i'll keep you way up after your bedtime.....

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I'm glad their being recognized. The survivors are survivors regardless of if they were girlfriend/boyfriends wives fiancee. they played a significant role in the officers lives and deserve all the support they need. It's great that COPS is recognizing that and best of luck to all of you survivors reading this your in our thoughts and prayers.

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Thanks Val and Hawk - Your words are appreciated and thanks for your support.

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COPS is awesome and so is Suzie Sawyer!!

Suzie helped our police memorial (along with Chris and the ODMP) when we ran an onlien petition here in Chicago against the Hampton/Black Panther street sign.

^5 to COPS

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Like many others, I guess I just don't know what to say. Being a non LEO doesn't mean we don't feel the pain either when we hear of an officer down. We just had one here in Michigan. So, to all of you, my heart does go out to you and your families and I thank the officer that did his/her job so proudly. All of you do have my support. Just by typing this is making me cry. Can't help it I'm a girl and I do cry.

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Thanks LeoMemorial and BLG - Your kinds words are appreciated. That's great COPS and Suzie helped with the Street Sign issue.

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No need to thank me. Loved ones are equally important to the Thin Blue Line. Our job is to remember our fallen and to help you, a member of the Thin Blue Line family.

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Congratulations to Dana, Monica, Lee Ann and the others who worked so hard for so many years to make the Fiance(e) Retreat come to fruition!! I am so thrilled to know that there is now a Hands-On Program for those who had planned to live their lives married to an officer. COPS has many wonderful programs for survivors (I'm an "adult child" survivor myself), so I am really encouraged to see the scope of the programs expanded.
Thank you, also, to all of the current and retired leo's who are reading and posting to this thread. It means so very much to us survivors to know that you remember and that you care. Please be safe out there!

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Chevar - Thanks for responding and I'm sorry for you loss. Please keep in touch and thanks for the support!

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ODINsbetrhalf said:

Hi Dana. Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. I have been working alot lately and haven't had time to catch up on the threads. This is a great thread. I am glad to see there are programs such as this to assist families. Your loved ones and the ultimate sacrifice each one has made will never be forgotten.

Thanks ODINsbetrhalf!

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Its about time. This was a long hard fight by Monica who faced alot of rejection in the beginning.................way to go girl you made a difference. Hi, Trudy M , Missouri

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I know how Monica felt since I lost Joey ten years ago and had been begging for the retreat since his death. Trudy aren't you with COPS National?

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Monica is a great girl and was the founder of our chat room for fiance's, girlfriends, and significant others. We are all very lucky to have her support. Scott Stewart was a lucky man! I also have to give credit to Lee Ann in Virginia (survivor of Andre Booker). All together this was a team effort!