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We all see the postings on these minor things like cheating, sex on duty and ect. What about the things that happen in a Officers life. Domestic Violence, Child abuse, Stress of the job itself. How many Officers have been accused of this because of a angry spouce or boyfriend/girlfriend.

How many Departments have this problem and how do they work with the officers? We all know that most departments have different resources, but how good are they? Do the Departments back them up, or is that just a way for them to say it is out there for you?

All Officers go through stressful times, not only on our day to day routine at work but also at home. Yes we are suppose to have a switch that we can turn off and on, one for work and one for home. That always doesn't happen, we do bring the job home at times and we do take the home life to work. How are we suppose to deal with that??

Look at Officer related suicides, Police Officers are 3rd on the list to commit suicide. What kind of help is out there for that?? These are the things that should be discussed.

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As soon as you can get my wife to think that cheating on her and having sex on duty is a minor thing, i will split hairs on the other subjects.

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Oh Thats nice

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fbi.gov/publications has information on these subjects.


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That is to help how??

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A domestic assault conviction spells end of career for cops. We should be constantly vigilant about DV problems in our own relationships. If the stress of the job extends to your home, seek help. Most departments I know of have an employee assistance program that is supposed to be anonymous to the boss. In any event, this will require some personal responsibility, can't blame everything on the boss and the department.

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Shadowyou,

Do you mean false being falsely accused of domestic violence ?


"It is a capital mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly, one begins to twist facts to suit theories instead of theories to suit facts" Sherlock Homles

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In one of the fbi publications on police and domestic violence there is information about stress and stress test.


In like manner the spirit also joins in with help for our weakness, for the problem of what we should pray for as we need to we do not know but the spirit itself pleads for us with groanings uttered.

No man serving as a soldier involves himself in the commercial businesses of life, in order that he may gain the approval of the one who enrolled him as a soldier. 5. Moreover, if anyone conten

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Ok

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oldsple,
Yes I do

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I know of 2 officers that were falsely accused of DV. When there wives went to say that it did not happen. It was to late the department did not want to hear it. They lost there job.

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Jack60,

This is just a topic I started just to see what diffrent departments offer there officers. I am not implying that officers go home and beat there spouce.

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Shadowyou, I hope you'll look around the board some-- we have discussed some of these things-- stress, suicide, etc. Now that there are more folks on the site, reviving some of those old threads might allow a whole new group to weigh in.

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Shadow,

This seems like a topic that no one wants to talk about, they are avoiding the question and sending you in different directions.

But yes i have to agree with you, it is a game to some people, I can call your job say what I want to say just because i am mad at you. You don't see it as much with a husband and wife, but the girlfriend/boyfriend that was broken up with or the want to be girlfriend/boyfriend. If you don't do what i want, I'll say you did this or you did that. Alot of department frown upon DV because for so long departments didn't do anything. Yes thier is help out there but the departments leave it on the Officers to get it. Officers are affraid to go to others for help because we are the ones who are suppose to be the help. But everyone has problems no matter how small they may be. Officers are made to feel like they would have less respect just admit they have a problem. So not only do the have the stress of the job but now they have no one to turn to. They feel as if they would be talked about, made fun of and so on. But yes a department should take more of an interest in its officer no matter what the problem is.

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I'm not avoiding the subject, but have already written lots about officers and stress, suicide, support programs. I feel like a broken record sometimes.

Shadow, look in the family section, for one thing.

Look under General Law Enforcement, keeping an eye out for titles that have words like "suicide" in them.

Just recently there's been a thread up talking about psychologists and chaplains-- I think the title is something about "profilers". Just poke around a bit, there's already a lot here, and as you poke around you'll get a sense for this online community and who's dealing with what. It may be helpful.

As for police suicide, one thing you mentioned, try www.psf.org which is the website for the POLICE Suicide Foundation. Lots of help there, training and people who do intervention work.

As for critical incident stress, there is a lot of info at www.icisf.org, including specific training about LE stress.

Many departments have EAP, chaplains, psychologists, etc. on staff. There are peer support groups out there (you can find out about training for such at the ICISF website).

Many academies try to address the stress issue, and family issues. Some departments do in-service training on it.

Are you asking for general interest? Are you asking because you are wondering where an individual officer can go for support if the department doesn't provide it? Are you asking because you want to help your department get resources?

Specifics will help us to address your questions.