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"I Love A Cop: What Police Families Need to Know"

Author: Ellen Kirshman; Publisher: The Guilford Press Available Here
Category: Book Reviews
Subcategory: Other
Price: $16.95
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Description:

Will police work change the person you love? Are police marriages destined to fail? What are the chances of your loved one being killed in the line of duty? Separating fact from myth, Dr. Ellen Kirschman answers these and other critical questionsin the first comprehensive self-help book created specifically for today''s police families. In information-filled chapters, readers will go behind the scenes with other police families as they discuss the benefits and pitfalls of police work;learn how to manage the effects of organizational stress and the pressures of unpredictable schedules, long hours and loneliness; gain awareness of the emotional, physical, and behavioral warning signs which can lead to such extreme situations as post traumatic stress, alcoholism, suicide and domestic violence; find out where families can go for help and counseling; and get an inside look at cop couples and the special challenges facing women, minorities, and gays and lesbians on the force. Can be found at the ODMP Shop: http://www.organizationshops.com/ilovecop.html

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    AZmeangreen, Sun, 12 Aug 2007 11:03:23 UTC.
    1st review

    I was a cop before I was married. My new wife had difficulty adjusting to a new lifestyle. She didn't understand that being a cop isn't just a job, it's a way of life. "I Love A Cop" gave her insights into my life and personality that I had trouble explaining. Instead of arguing over long hours and the dangers of the job, she became more understanding and less confused. This book is not the answer to everything cop, but it gives a good insight to the spouse or friend who has no idea what their cop is going through or why that cop acts the way he/she does. This book covers most of the bases from starting out as a rookie, on-the-job stress, traumatic situation, emotional stresses, promotion, and marriage. It's a must have for the spouse in need of some understanding and answers.

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    ZECARIOCA2, Tue, 21 Aug 2007 14:52:15 UTC.

    I have that book and is really great information...not only for families, but for friends and officers themselves.

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    Rcbaron, Wed, 22 Aug 2007 08:28:37 UTC.

    Great book... Says the things that you can't to your partner.

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    Anonymous, Thu, 23 Aug 2007 20:15:08 UTC.

    This book is still useful four years after it was given to me. It truly helped me understand my husband's job better and understand HIM better! A must for anyone that loves a cop..

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    bighead, Tue, 04 Sep 2007 07:52:24 UTC.

    This book is a must read for police officers and anyone who cares for a police officer. This book helps police officers, family members and loved ones of police officers understand the unique challenges of this line of work.

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    kevw25, Wed, 05 Sep 2007 04:43:28 UTC.

    I am going to head out to the book store and get a copy.

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    fmwarmac, Wed, 05 Sep 2007 05:58:32 UTC.

    Every family member of a law enforcement officer should read this book!!

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    mpd_943, Wed, 05 Sep 2007 13:49:44 UTC.

    Great book. My finacee has read it and it provided her with some insight into what I do at work. It has helped her understand why it is a bad idea to drop bad news on me as I am walking out the door for work. It is a must read for an officer's significant other.

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    Stalker975, Thu, 06 Sep 2007 01:32:38 UTC.

    I just got this book for my wife of 10yrs. I hope the book will give her some insight on my job. I tell her things about the job, and if she reads it as well she will see my point. I have been told that this book is great for all familys in Policework.

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    Wife2Crpl, Mon, 10 Sep 2007 06:44:40 UTC.

    I love this book.. i hate to read, its super hard for me to just sit and read.. i have 4 boys.. duh i know my profile says that, so i dont have time to sit and read a book.. unless it was this one!!! i recommend this book to everyone who ever loved or loves or plans to love a cop.. its a great read.. my husband has been a cop 8 plus years now, and i still learned tons from this book. the mood swings (mine and his) the shift work.. and the behind the scenes stuff.. it was great.. i swear every wife should be given this book on the day the husband enters academy!!! may save a lot of marriages.. luckily mine was never on the rocks... but it helped so much.. made me understand what he may be going though... GREAT READ!!! I would have gave it 10 stars!!!! and hey did i mention that I LOVED IT!!!!! and must have!!!!

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    Rabbit122, Mon, 29 Oct 2007 15:34:56 UTC.

    Great book my wife liked reading it hell my mother in-law even read it and learned some things

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    bad_LT, Mon, 29 Oct 2007 20:12:21 UTC.

    Each Officer who starts on my shift from the academy is given a copy to give to their family

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    JJcooksey, Fri, 16 Nov 2007 06:02:13 UTC.

    This is a great book if you love a police officer you need this book !!

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    ohcop, Sun, 18 Nov 2007 04:45:06 UTC.

    I read this book and left it on our coffee table and amazing my wife readit and understood why I act the way I do in certain situations... good book for friends and family to read

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    Anonymous, Wed, 21 Nov 2007 17:46:11 UTC.

    My job destroyed my relationship... I was supposed to get married last month.

    Maybe I should have gotten this book! LOL

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    skygirl, Sun, 25 Nov 2007 12:08:09 UTC.

    A very good and down to earth read. When my daughter is old enough, I will give it to her so she will understand.

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    sgtbird, Thu, 20 Dec 2007 07:46:17 UTC.

    Great book, this was given to my wife as a gift from my department. After reading it I was amazed at how this job not only affects officers, but families as well. I thought I was reading about myself at times. It gives a good understanding of what to expect from a rookie all the way to seasoned veteran. A must read for all cops in my opinion.

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    SGTSRT, Thu, 20 Dec 2007 16:09:27 UTC.

    wow sounds like a great book. i think i am going to go and get one for my wife

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    staggers, Wed, 02 Jan 2008 03:51:22 UTC.

    I just got out of the academy and just got hired with a Sheriff's Department. I gave my girlfriend (who is seriously pushing for a ring) a copy of this book for Chrismas. She hasn't put it down and is constantly telling me how much she has learned from it. Being that she has no experience with law enforcement officers, I beleive this book is going to help keep our relationship strong.

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    Gardner502, Sun, 20 Jan 2008 01:56:13 UTC.

    I love this book

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    viperrob8, Sun, 20 Jan 2008 23:02:10 UTC.

    I bought this book for my wife to better understand what I go through at the detention center and sometimes the hospital. After reading it, she now supports me more that she did before. And trust me, she is the best supporter of all.

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    IDEALIST, Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:18:32 UTC.

    gives great insight

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    690, Sat, 08 Mar 2008 04:31:36 UTC.

    I liked some of the book but several sections had "scare tactics".

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    rhallpiper, Sun, 09 Mar 2008 08:02:35 UTC.

    I gave the book to my wife who read it. A couple of times when I have talked to her about work, she has said something along the lines of, "that book said..." It turns out that what she got from the book was the exact point I was trying to make. She certainly seems to have a better understanding of me now.

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    Anonymous, Sun, 09 Mar 2008 08:15:18 UTC.

    I really enjoyed reading this book! Some of the things that I have gone through during my career(emotions, being moody) is well explained in this book. Believe me it is well worth it's weight in gold.

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    usedtobepolicepiper, Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:43:36 UTC.

    It is a very good book. It helps the family as well as the co workers.

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    rghstkcwby, Wed, 09 Apr 2008 02:32:39 UTC.

    i need to order a copy of this for my wife......

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    LoveMyCop, Mon, 14 Apr 2008 06:14:47 UTC.

    I need to get a copy of this book! I support my husband in anything he does but I think it will be a good thing to see how other people deal with loving and supporting their cop

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    goodlight, Mon, 05 May 2008 16:16:39 UTC.

    I bought this for my wife and she seemed to really enjoy it.

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    Nae, Thu, 08 May 2008 12:44:52 UTC.

    This is a great book for anyone that loves a cop--but especially those who are in a close relationship with one. It offers excellent insight and comfort. Also good ideas for how to deal with the "tough days" and how to relate to those who wear the badge.

    Well worth the time it takes to read

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    Volunteer8717, Fri, 09 May 2008 14:17:10 UTC.

    It’s an indispensable resource for anyone who cares for an officer! I haven’t even finished yet and I have already gained a new perspective on the profession and how to approach relationships with LEOs. If you haven’t read it yet, GET IT!

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    klamm143, Wed, 14 May 2008 01:35:01 UTC.

    GOOD BOOK...not enough families read this type material.....

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    BlueEyedAngel, Wed, 28 May 2008 18:05:51 UTC.

    A must read for the family

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    AZmeangreensWife, Sun, 08 Jun 2008 13:55:51 UTC.

    Very good book. I've learned alot about my husband and how his job affects him. Its not the answer to everything in a cops life but it is a pretty good place to start.

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    Anonymous, Wed, 18 Jun 2008 11:10:44 UTC.

    Well, duh! Self-explanatory. (Rolls eys.)

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    battleborncop, Sat, 21 Jun 2008 04:50:18 UTC.

    Bought it for my wife years ago. She said it was great. She says she has a better understanding. I'll take her word for it.

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    oden347, Mon, 15 Sep 2008 08:49:45 UTC.

    The divorce rate in law enforcement is 75% higher than in "regular" jobs. This book should be given to every person new to law enforcement, they should read it..to understand what your handing to your loved ones...and the girlfriend, fiancee, wife, or boyfriend, fiancee and husband of every law enforcement professional should read this. I was a street cop, narcotics detective, went through 9/11 and specialize in peer/survivor support, this book could help to save your relationship, and you may be so involved with the job, you never knew your relationship was in trouble. If you work on a job that has two person patrol cars, you are spending more time four inches from someone who may be the opposite sex, than you spend in your home with your family. Combine that with the fact that you will experience (most likely) life and death situations with this partner, your mate at home needs to understand and needs the reassurance that this book will help provide.

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    Anonymous, Mon, 22 Sep 2008 04:09:08 UTC.

    I have been in Law Enforcement for a long time after one failed marriage I was told about this book, I read it, after my second marriage I was going through an old footlocker found it my new wife refuses to read it, but I think it is a great read for the LEO and thier family.

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    Sidhe, Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:19:20 UTC.

    I bought this for my husband and myself. Definitely much needed 'equipment' for any new officer or someone planning on going into law enforcement. It's not just for the OFFICER though, but very important for family to read through as well.

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    eamalee, Tue, 23 Sep 2008 23:45:42 UTC.

    my mum don'get woried about me ..

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    cathyr1962, Thu, 09 Oct 2008 00:28:53 UTC.

    Great Book!!

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    Deaton443, Thu, 16 Oct 2008 00:59:14 UTC.

    Interesting read

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    Twidget, Fri, 24 Oct 2008 07:40:33 UTC.

    I am currently full time Military and a Reserve Officer with the local PD. I bought this book for my wife and read it myself. It is excellent. It really gave her insight into the types of situations we may have to deal with when I go full time LEO. Much of the material presented also applies to being in the Military, so it's info she can use right away.

    I highly recommend this book for anyone considering a career in LE. Buy it, read it, and make anyone that cares about you read it as well.

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    Anonymous, Tue, 04 Nov 2008 14:51:31 UTC.

    Great book to read with your family and love one's.

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    Anonymous, Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:43:54 UTC.

    I have this book. Very good reading and makes one understand what is happening.

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    osupike18, Mon, 26 Jan 2009 22:27:57 UTC.

    I am currently reading this book and it is a great insight for me. I am currently applying for Oklahoma Highway Patrol so it is nice to see some of what is ahead in the new career. I plan on having my family and friends read it as well.

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    sweet_T, Tue, 28 Apr 2009 07:57:37 UTC.

    FOR ANYONE AND EVERYONE WHO HAS LAW ENFORCMENT IN THE FAMILY. IDEAL FOR WIVES AND FUTURE WIVES OF COPS. HELPS TO TAKE THE WORRY OUT OF YOUR HEAD WHEN HE LEAVES OUT THE DOOR FOR WORK.

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    cmr1973, Sun, 07 Jun 2009 00:11:07 UTC.

    wonderful book..my husband bought this for me and i have read it several times

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    badgeoflife, Thu, 16 Jul 2009 15:57:13 UTC.

    A book that is valuable reading not only for the spouses of cops, but for the cops themselves. Chock full of good information and written by someone who had worked extensively with law enforcement.

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    Punisher81, Thu, 27 Aug 2009 06:11:21 UTC.

    Great book.

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    Anonymous, Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:12:54 UTC.

    This book was given to me as a wedding gift from a close friend in LE. It clearly defines many areas that are hard to verbalize by our spouses, giving us an outline idea. There are parts that "don't fit" due to the differences in departments and demographics but it's easy to bypass or fill in the blanks of your personal situation. It's and easy read the way it's designed to go to certain issues that may arise. I keep it with my Bible and look up something when we hit a bump.

    Highly recomend this book to all who truly are in love and devoted to a lifetime together with an LEO. Would make a great engagement gift.

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    twoliver, Wed, 09 Sep 2009 05:05:38 UTC.

    bought it for my wife a couple of years ago. she still has it and i still have her.

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    Rob406, Wed, 25 Nov 2009 08:10:33 UTC.

    i read it and loved it....also having my family read it as well!!

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    NTorres, Wed, 06 Oct 2010 22:04:44 UTC.

    I need this to help me with my Leo friends. Im going to go out and get this book real soon. I didnt know a book like this was around.

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    sirengirl55, Tue, 26 Jul 2011 19:13:15 UTC.

    nice book.

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    lanier38345, Sun, 25 Mar 2012 23:33:58 UTC.

    This tells all about the problems that faces in some marriages especially some officers have problems within their marriage.

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